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some books written by asian authors that you should support because they’re really really good and overshadowed by their white counterparts: 

🏳️‍🌈  means there is queer rep

Out Already: 

- the poppy war series (extremely popular. fantasy based off the Song Dynasty, amoral/morally grey brown asian girl protagonist. i haven’t read this yet but all of my poc mutuals have this as their favorite book of all time. pls read tw warnings. no romance only faint subtext)

- jade city series (another favorite of the poc that i haven’t read. no romance) 

- the bone shard daughter trilogy 🏳️‍🌈  (set on a strand of fantasy islands based on imperial china but has a healthy mix of various asian representation - south asian, southeast asian. queernormative and no patriarchy. main lesbians. one of my favs)

- these violent delights duology  🏳️‍🌈 (a side mlm couple, 1920s gangster shanghai, romeo and juliet retelling. one of my favs)

- warcross duology 🏳️‍🌈 (set in futuristic tokyo. ft. a side mlm couple, sci fi. one of my favs)

- not your sidekick triology 🏳️‍🌈 (sapphic superheroes and sidekicks. vietnamese bisexual protag, sci fi)

- girls of paper and fire triology 🏳️‍🌈 (extremely popular, chinese lesbian protag but other asian rep as well, fantasy) 

- parachutes 🏳️‍🌈 (side sapphic couple, read tw warnings, contemporary).

- huntress 🏳️‍🌈 (east asian sapphics)

- last night at the telegraph club 🏳️‍🌈 (chinese lesbian protag. 1900s fiction)

- forest of a thousand laterns (morally grey angry chinese female protag)

- the space between worlds 🏳️‍🌈 (main southeast asian and east asian sapphics, sci fi dystopian. read tw)

- everything i never told you 🏳️‍🌈 (mlm rep. 1900s biracial family deals with the death of their daughter)

- the gilded wolves 🏳️‍🌈 (be gay do crime, indian love interest. historical fantasy)

- the weight of our sky (set in 1960s malaysia. historical fiction)

- spin the dawn (fantasy)

- descendant of the crane (fantasy)

Out In 2021: 

-  she who became the sun 🏳️‍🌈 (one of my most anticipated releases. genderqueer sapphic protag with a sapphic love interest, mlm main characters. set in the ming dynasty of china. the official advertisement is the song of achilles meets the untamed meets mulan)

- jade fire and gold 🏳️‍🌈 (the pitch was “what if katara was the dark avatar and zuko was chasing her down?” main sapphics) 

- the ones we’re meant to find (i literally don’t know what this is about but the cover is gorgeous)

- counting down with you 🏳️‍🌈 (fake dating romcom b/w a south asian brown girl and the bad boy who is a himbo. ft. diverse girl gang so im interpreting that as lgbtq)

- the jasmine throne 🏳️‍🌈 (morally grey lesbians tearing an emperor from his throne/washing each other’s hair/holding sharp-edged knives to each other’s ribs. set in india) 

- gearbreakers 🏳️‍🌈 (cyberpunk japanese sapphics. there is a tender tattooing scene) 

- six crimson cranes (fantasy)

- black water sister 🏳️‍🌈 (sapphic malaysian protag, fantasy/sci-fi)

- how we fall apart (dark academia murder mystery thriller but make it asian american)

- you’ve reached sam (contemporary)

- love and other natural disasters 🏳️‍🌈 (sapphic fake dating b/w japanese girls)

- the chosen and the beautiful 🏳️‍🌈 (queer sapphic retelling of the great gatsby)

- hani and ishu’s guide to fake dating 🏳️‍🌈 (south asian sapphics)

one last thing, i realize that a lot of these are east asian, so if you have more to add on, please do!

I read a post and decided to make a separate post about it but it was about the rebellious phase teenagers go through and how invalidating it is that parents write off the phase as the result of hormones and irrational teenage anger. And it got me thinking, because I never really had that “rebellious phase of irrational anger.” The more I think about it, the more I think it’s because my parents never treated me like they expected me to rebel.

This has less to do with abusive parents (which was the point of that post and also the reason I’m making a new one) and more to do with the way western society in particular fosters parental expectations when kids reach adolescence. Because even kids who had previously good relationships with their parents sometimes hit really tumultuous times in adolescence, and I don’t think it is all hormonal.

There’s this real self-fulfilling prophecy with the relationship between parents and teens. Parents are told by their peers and elders (esp. THEIR parents) to “expect hell” when their kids reach adolescence. I remember my mom telling me once, right around the time I turned 13, that someone at her office said to her “uh oh, buckle in, this is when things get rough!” in reference to my being a teenager. My mom kind of shrugged it off and told me “I’ve never understood people who want their kids to stay kids forever. You guys are more interesting every year older you get. You’re becoming your own people.”

And that was that. My parents didn’t TELL me I was about to get rebellious and nasty to them, because they didn’t expect it of me. They told me I was becoming an interesting young person with my own thoughts and ideas. And because they didn’t expect me to be suddenly rebellious, they treated me like what I was: an interesting young person with my own thoughts and ideas. Someone who maybe still needed help with a few things now and then but by and large, they set expectations and gave me reasonable explanations for them, and I followed those expectations because they made sense. 

My brother and I never had a curfew, for instance. Instead, my parents always just said, “let us know if you’re going to be out late so we don’t worry about you,” with the additional explanation that that’s something you should always do for the people who you share a house with, as a courtesy. They also modeled the behaviors themselves: we would leave a chair with a note in it by the front door if we were going out somewhere so anyone coming home while we were gone would know where we were–this was in the age before cell phones, you understand–and that meant my parents did it for us kids too. After all, if they wanted to know where we were so they wouldn’t worry about us, it was just as important that we know where they were so we wouldn’t worry about them. Our feelings were treated with the same courtesy as theirs. They respected us, so we respected them. 

When boundaries needed setting there were some rocky conversations, sure, and my mom and I are STILL on occasionally rocky ground when it comes to my weight/eating habits, but generally we came to reasonable conclusions. And I never “rebelled” because I didn’t have to. I wanted alcohol, my dad would’ve let me try his fancy beer (I never wanted it because it stank, and I still don’t, but I could’ve tried it if I’d wanted to). I had questions about sex, my mom explained things clinically and asked if I had any questions. I wanted to wear makeup, my mom’s only request was I save my allowance and buy my own instead of stealing hers. I wanted to dye my hair ridiculous colors? My mom hated it but always told me “It’s your hair,” (and I honestly think half the reason she hated it so much was I ruined a lot of her nice towels). 

My parents accorded me with the freedoms I was naturally seeking with the expectation that I would be responsible with those freedoms, and because they expected me to be responsible, I just…was.

I’m not saying that will work with everyone of course, but I think there’s something to be said for creating an atmosphere of expectation too. If parents begin tightening the reins in anticipation of rebellion (as they are told to do), they are paradoxically providing teenagers with something to rebel against.

Start treating your teenager like a prisoner, and they’ll start trying to escape prison.

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Hey friends!

It’s Meg for this week’s TUTOR TUESDAY! Today we take a little look at hopefully some exercises that will help with drawing horns! So go draw some peeps with horns, my dudes. If you have any recs send ‘em in here or my personal. Keep practicing, have fun, and I’ll see you next week!

It’s here !! The guide for two-legged people who don’t know how to draw wheelchairs !!! 7 pages of infodump ! Disclaimer : I don’t know everything, I have one (1) experience of wheelchair user who used both bad and good chairs, and I share what I learned.

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1) Calvin in his wheelchair saying “yo” under a huge title “how to draw manual wheelchairs properly by Calvin Arium, a wheelchair user comic artist”.

2) A character says “my character self propels in a chair that was outdated in 1970 lol” Calvin says “so it looks like you two legged people don’t know the difference between an hospital chair and a chair made to be independant” an arrow point the crapppy chair, saying “we never want to see this again”

a bubble says “the hospital chair is extremely unpractical, tough considering it’s cheaper than a good custom chair a lot of us have only this”

3) a character hurt himself trying to reach the wheels of the hospital chair. Several arrows point why the chair is unpractical : “high backrest restrain shoulders movement” “huge armrest restrains wheel access” “separated footrest : amovible, cheap, bulky” “x structure, foldable but heavy” “huge front casters for stability” “heavy wheels”

4) Several arrows point an active wheelchair (the KSL by Küshall) : “usually no armrest” “a low backrest allow more movement” “light, design, ferning expersive” “special cushion to avoind injuries” “knee angle is usually 90°” “one single piece of frame, sometimes entirely welded” “weight : from 4 to 10kg” “often rigid” “center of the wheel is the center of gravity” “higher quality wheels : less spikes”

5) A hand grab different parts of the wheel, pushing harder in the second half. Bubbles says “some have gloves, some don’t. The hand must grab the biggest area possible. Less movement = more energy. This is a common but not only way to push.Calvin is on his back wheels, rolling on grass and dirt bubble says “popping a wheelie is when a wheelchair user rolls on their back wheels to roll on every complicated surface.

6) several drawings illustrate the folding frame, the ergonomic but rigid and expensive backrest, the separated footrest (only for folding frame), the handles, the folding handles, athe amovibles handles, or no handles, the cool fancy loopwheels, the pretty custom colors 

7) More Features ! The fancy rigid-foldable frame, the anti tippers (sometimes used by beginners), the motorization (wheels, smart drive) when propelling yourself is difficult Calvin says “and now vroom vroom motherfuckers”

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EDIT : Here is a youtube playlist about choosing, cleaning and using active manual wheelchairs in the public space, I learned a lot from those videos when I was a wheelie newbie. (Not sure they’re all captionned tho) https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PL3j9XB2x5HYmZqgLakRCNt_fjsVZjDAkJ

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