Replace “what If I Regret This?” With “what If This Sets Me Free?”

#hopepunk #just humans making things better

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I have come to the same conclusion. It is quite likely I won't become less sensitive and always have some strong, not fully rational feelings. But if I'm not a dick about it, neither to myself nor others, it is actually a good opportunity to learn about myself and give myself empathy. I can also be open with people about my sensitivities, this way they get to know me better, and we get closer. It also makes other people feel comfortable talking to me about their sensitive or irrational moments. I feel I learned more and more how to turn my thin skin into a journey of growth and connection, and to not wish it would get thicker.

”getting thicker skin” is great in theory but I think for some people “get better at handling your thin skin” is gonna be way more helpful advice. I have strong emotional reactions to criticism and they might never go away, but i can continue to try and handle each situation maturely and that’s the important part. Sometimes irrational feelings are chronic and living with them is better than trying to beat yourself up into not having them.

I agree! Actually, the whole show kind of disproves Kant's attempt to base ethics on universal laws and reasonable choices. What actually helps Eleanor and the others become better people is:

1/ The recognition that being kind to others feels good for us as well. That we do not have to lose something by being kind, at the opposite we gain. Being kind makes us feel good, nourishes our soul, builds trust in others, and better relationships, and good relationships make us happy. I believe recognizing the connection between being kind and our own well-being is the first step.

2/ Facing the reasons why we are unkind, AKA our trauma, so therapy and personal growth basically. At the end of the show, it is what all people who die have to do to get to The Good Place. Healing, growth, and learning that being kind rules.

Not to ramble about the good place but do you ever think about that bit in season 1 where Chidi sarcastically says "do I also need to tell you not to throw sand" and Eleanor responds with "throwing sand is an excellent way to put out a vodka fire" and how that sums up Chidi's character arc so well as well as challenging moral positions like Kant's that claim that there is one exact solution to any given moment because yes, we would all immediately consider throwing sand to be bad, but sometimes it is Genuinely useful and good to throw sand and to apply the ideology of "throwing sand is bad" to Every situation will be to die in a vodka fire.

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Humpback whales breaching: gorgeous, majestic, graceful, embodies all the strength and beauty of the ocean

Minke whales breaching: I will launch myself out of this ocean like a f***ing surface-to-air missile to seek and destroy my enemies

#Marine life #diving #unexpected friendship #under water shrine

This is exactly what I thought when I began to watch P-Valley. Their presence in their respective shows makes them so much better, and I love to imagine them meet and both be sassy, and kind, and uniquely themselves together.

Left - Nico Annan Right - Nelsan Ellis