Queerness Is Not Just About Sex And Romance. Since The Concept Of Queerness Has Been Around, So Have

I still remember the ace discourse.

When people were making fun of ace people just for existing, how ace blogs were harassed non stop, how ace tags on Tumblr were spammed with gore and porn (and even the pics of the corpse of an ace girl that killed herself) how ace people were homophobic just for existing, how pro ace internet celebrities were smeared and accused to be pedophiles for supporting ace people, how this "discourse" was used by terfs as a gateway to radical feminism for anti ace folks, how TO THIS DAY what happened is downplayed and justified, because we deserved to be harassed for years for being "cringe"

I am also seeing you, making fun of trans men for daring to call out bigotry targeted at them, how apparently talking about their own oppression is transmisogynist somehow, how the term "transandrophobia" is ridiculed and people who use said term are getting death threats and are being harassed.

It's always the same ,the only thing that changes is what identity is the current "acceptable target"

I mean...yeah...

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Okay, okay, I had a mega brainwave in the last 10 minutes and I figured this blog would be the most efficient way for the most people to hear it as possible.

So most people desire a romantic relationship, right? That's what all the books and TV shows and goodness knows what else say. You know this and I know this.

And when a couple break up, people tend to take that literally, i.e. their hearts become broken. You can see in media of all types that relationships equal a whole heart, and breaking up leaves that heart split in two halves, ripped up through the middle.

So, what does that mean? My mega brainwave is that it implies people don't contain a whole heart by themselves. People walk around with a ripped open half-heart in their chests, which is why they're always looking for a relationship - they can feel the rough edge of their heart and they desperately want to smooth it over, to make it whole.

And the difference for Aro people - and Ace people, to a lesser extent - is that while they do still only have half a heart, it's not ripped open through the middle. It's a raindrop. There's no other half that could even theoretically make it "complete" because it's perfect they way it is. They have no edges to smooth out in the first place.

And if, for whatever reason, an Aro person feels compelled to enter a romantic relationship, they only end up getting hurt because the jagged edge of the other person's heart is rubbing against them. Maybe the poor Aro person can't understand why they don't feel complete. They try harder to make their heart match the other person's, give up more of themselves, but it never works. It was doomed from the start. They only end up cutting their own heart open.

As an Aroace person myself, there's this one lyric from the song "Killer" (artist: The Ready Set) that always stuck with me. It goes: 'this heart ain't built for two'.

And that's what I think makes us so cool.

Next time it rains where you are, and you're feeling alone in the world (we've all been there), pause and think about all your cool Aro and Ace raindrop-heart friends out in the world, living their best lives.

And, most importantly, have a nice day. Signed, your friend.

Submitted April 16, 2023