20 | Butch lesbian | Feminist | diy enthusiast | Joculatrix | Lovergirl (Ik that contradicts being angry but trust me I have room for love and hatred)
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Latest Posts by punk-butch-bitch - Page 4
Made some diy pins for my battle jacket! I want to make more but those were the only bottle caps I scavenged from work so I’ll need to wait until I work again and can get some more.
Idk if this is going to be an unpopular opinion (probably would be in Insta or TikTok but I feel like ppl are a bit more reasonable here), but while goth/punk/grunge/etc are PRIMARILY music and political based subcultures, there is still a fashion element. Fashion is political in today’s world, due to the nature of capitalism and it’s social effects, and the primary hallmark of the fashion side of these subcultures (in their origins) was the DIY clothes that served multiple purposes: reducing your capitalistic footprint, your environmental footprint, and defying social norms of physical presentation. Same thing with makeup, which is weaponized off of women’s insecurities. I respect your right to do whatever you want with yourself but if it happens to be following the exact trends and beauty standards of your current time, it’s not counter-culture.
You can be goth/punk/grunge and dress “normal” because it is primarily musical and political. BUT, you cannot be goth/punk/grunge and wear Shein, Temu, buy into all the latest trends and participate in fast fashion, etc, because that is against the ethics of the subculture. Similarly, we need to stop watering down the look to the point of incomprehension and normalcy and calling it after an alternative counter-cultural group. And I understand being poor, I’ve been low-income for a while now. I thrift what I can but if I really, actually need (not want!) a new pair of jeans and I can’t find one that fits anywhere else, I will go to Walmart and buy a pair from the clearance section. However I then wear and repair that pair of pants until it’s literally tearing apart, and then repurpose the fabric I can salvage into new projects when I can no longer wear it.
“It’s the most punk thing to not care what anyone thinks!!” No it’s not actually. Punk has been defined by it’s almost obsession with politics, ethics, radical empathy with the oppressed, and fighting for change. Ignoring those calling you out on your privilege and your contributions to the capitalistic machine isn’t Punk. And I say all this as someone who’s parents were part of the original alternative scenes back in the 70s-90s, and who’s talked to a lot of people who were in it at the time of its creation.
people who hate on vi except when shes living her whole life slaving away for jinx and jinx’s well-being and being 100% selfless constantly is. interesting.
interesting bc i’m the oldest sister in my family and that’s exactly what my parents expect of me.
how odd and silly that some people continue to parentify older sisters and refuse to care about them as characters when they aren’t constantly putting their sibling first.
that’s how i feel whenever i see a post about how vi’s character was completely sacrificed and then the explanation is all abt how she chose caitlyn and not jinx for the nth time.
Type shit
I swear I have some type of weird Mandela effect with certain celebrity stories because I thought this came out like, 5 years ago?? I stopped listening to him about that time (not that I was a huge fan in the first place) because of it. I’m so confused rn I’ve had this happen with multiple people
apparently kanye west has been a fan of hitler (isn't that a wild ass sentence to say) since his debut album and people in his inner circle knew?? like it was a well known and well kept secret?? he even was inspired by the nazis and used their techniques to gain fame?? he would go up to producers and ask them about the holocaust??????
this is a wild ass article but here's the source:
Often, men will say something like : "Who built this world? Men! Who created everything, all the technology, the great art, the culture, our societies? Who built the roads you drive on? Men!" and feminists will respond "That's because you didn't let us work or make art!" and... that's just wrong? Why are you validating the idea that women didn't contribute anything to the world? That we didn't work? That we didn't innovate? And why are you approving the nonsense that says being a mother is not work?
Don't let men rewrite history.
Women have always worked the double shift; outside of home and inside of home.
pet peeve: when a male, a group of men or a male-dominated government/regime commit an act of incomprehensible violence and people lament the nature of “humans” or “people”.
Worst part abt being Butch is realizing you look like a man under certain circumstances. Went to a rally today and it was cold so I was wearing my usual baggy jeans, an old biker’s jacket I got from the thrift, boxing wraps bc they help my circulation, a scarf and a mask, feeling great, until I realized I probably looked like a straight white man (terrifying thought) and wished I’d put a pride button or something on my jacket lmao
No this feeling is so crazy bc I will love something so much that I can’t see fanart/read fanfiction about it because any divorce from the cannon will feel like a betrayal and also a reminder that they aren’t real people 😭😭 I refuse to touch it or change it, I just keep it behind glass and stare at it with big eyes until my obsession fades a bit and I can enjoy it normally again. Also I am aware this makes me sound mentally ill, it is in fact because I am mentally ill, and unfortunately cannot change that about myself 😭💀
reaching the point of hyperfixation where I can no longer engage with it due to the nausea that I experience at the mere thought of seeing it on my screen is the closest I’ve ever been to being diagnosed with female hysteria
i love shitty DIY projects
make ur own jacket!! make ur own patches out of whatever u have and sew em on however u can. use what u already own or find things at the thrift store or borrow stuff from other stores! the possibilities are endless!
shitting on other people's diy is probably one of the least punk things u can do imo.
it is so much cooler to wear shitty diy than any piece of fast fashion.
“All the gays want is to groom my children! They are dangerous to kids! They hate children!”
- A lesbian saw your son struggling, and remembered what it was like to be young and autistic and overwhelmed by her emotions, so she sat down with him every day and helped him until his feelings wasn’t so scary anymore.
- A lesbian was the one who your daughter finally trusted enough to reveal the abuse she was going through by her father when she was at his house and she tried her best to get her help and always be a safe space for her.
- A lesbian overheard your daughter being told by her classmates that she couldn’t play dolls because the dolls weren’t of her race, so she went and bought a dozen barbies of all different races to show her that she belonged.
- A lesbian was the one who you knew you could count on to retrieve your babies when you let people pass them around at church. You knew that she’d keep an eye on them even if she didn’t know you personally. Everyone in that tiny church knew her for it.
- A lesbian defended your son from being harassed on the bus (by other mothers!) and was late to work making sure he was safely on his next bus heading to the food bank.
- A lesbian was your waiter today and she made your baby laugh while she was setting your table and she already knew how to keep all the dangerous items out of reach without you even having to ask.
All anecdotes I could pull off of the top of my head from my own life. I love children, while I don’t want any of my own (and can’t even have ‘em due to infertility anyway) and my connection with them is very odd as a butch lesbian woman. People tell me that my purpose in life as a woman is to have children, and people from the same demographic claim that I only exist to hurt their children. The reality is that, whether you like it or not, gay people exist in the real world and often take on beloved and pivotal roles in your life and your children’s lives that you don’t even realize. We’re here and we always have been, and we’re surprisingly just as normal and human as you are.
everything beautiful in this world is vagina shaped… orchids and lillies and oysters and strawberries and figs and kiwis and vaginas <3 <3 <3
i wish to be the sapphic version of wolfstar with someone
This is so me because I’m possessive but not controlling, if that makes sense. Like dress as slutty as you want babe, I’ll make sure nobody bothers you. They can see what only I’m allowed to touch and cry for all I care. You’re mine but you can be whatever and whoever you want to be and I’ll love you for it and make sure you’re a bit obsessed with yourself too.
"my red flag is i can be possessive" like i give a fuck??? if we're out in public hold me by my waist and don't let go. make me sit in your lap if somebody tries to flirt with me. i absolutely want you to be just as obsessive over me because the moment i see a femme check you out, im giving her dirty looks with my arms around you
I fucking love being a lesbian.
And I know that’s pretty much all I’ve posted about so far but it’s so true. I love women and my love for women bleeds into my love for myself and it’s almost a spiritual feeling. It’s like the water cycle, I pour out love and yet it is given back to me and I never run dry.
I also find so much comfort in lesbian titles. I’ve finally found people who can understand what confused me for so long. My desire to partake in “masculine” things and yet not leave my womanhood and connection to women behind in that process. I used to think I was crazy and I was told I was contradictory, and now I know I’m just a butch and I have thousands of sisters who understand me. I used to think I was strange and broken until I learned about Stones and now I know yet again that I’m not alone, and I can not only be begrudgingly accepted for my preferences, but desired and fulfilled in a relationship that makes sense for me. There are people out there who want someone like me exactly as I am and I don’t have to change, or hide things about myself, or put up with things I don’t like in order to keep a man around and I find it so beautiful. Lesbianism is beautiful.
lesbianism as shown by @sweatermuppet
someone: don’t u think it’s disturbing how in the past few years the level of femininity women are expected to perform and the industries they’re expected to contribute to in order to be taken seriously, especially on platforms like social media, has skyrocketed to the point that perfect makeup, contouring, acrylic nails, and eyelash extensions have become almost a social expectation and when women express no interest in adhering to those standards they’re met with vitriol and scorn straight woman who thinks Legally Blonde is the apex of feminist media: okay but it’s my choice? if i want to be feminine i should have the right to choose to do that because feminism is about choice
i hope whoever came up with the trend of calling attractive women "mommy" is in the depts of hell right now
@halfalive-chaos - Context
Oh BOY do I have some big giant feelings about this!
The short answer is yes, I think people/The Audience has forgotten this - but I also don't think it's entirely their fault.
Part of the reason I was really impressed by how Arcane used and executed the scene, and why I keep going on about it, is that this whole subject is kind of an ongoing concern of mine.
I very sincerely think that the documented decline of, not just sex, but horniness, in media has narrowed the spectrum of contexts we're used to seeing sex and sexuality happen in our storytelling, in ways that are doing us harm.
Because mainstream media has started shying away from engaging with sex to the degree that it has, sex is now almost invariably depicted in extremes - either "Aren't we edgy big boys now?" stuff like The Boys, or miserably sad traumatic drama grist - or else not at all.
And because "regular" tv has been scared off showing sex, it's vanishingly rare to see characters who are in love have sex, or to be sexual as an expression of that, certainly without some negative element to it.
That means we're almost never asked to think of it in terms of sincere, meaningful character communication, or as a storytelling mechanism, or ever presented with it in the context of a positive wider relationship.
I think the hazard of this is obvious - if our media and storytelling doesn't engage with healthy sex in that wider context, or use it purposefully, then we're conceding the whole conversation around it to porn, to novelty edgelordism, and grimdark miseryfests. Those things will define all our language and imagery around it, and the only time we'll ever see it will be upsetting, harmful or ugly. When it is easier to stumble across a scene of rape than it is to see a consenting woman orgasm, it's little wonder people can become reflexively suspicious of any sexuality at all.
But even when it's not so extreme as that, more often than not it's depicted as a casual fling instead, divorced from a bigger picture, or a distraction, an alternative to a grander and truer romantic interest. There's nothing at all wrong with sex for pleasure, don't misunderstand me, but it's odd that our media landscape has engineered a situation where depictions of sex in the context of a bigger love story almost never happen. It would seem then that we can have one or the other - sex or romance - but never at once.
And we're diminishing it with all of this. We're saying this incredibly important, intense, uniquely vulnerable and intimate feature of the human experience doesn't matter enough to talk about. We're saying that sex and love don't have any functional overlap. Even at best, we're pretending that sex isn't important in relationships, or increasingly, that the only good sex is... well... sexless. Sterile. Permissable and virtuous only when it's so "clean" and so perfect in circumstance that it becomes an unattainably impossible kind of ceremony.
The venue must be perfect. The characters must be not only unimpeachable, but historically and permanently so, and exactly as faultless as each other - they must be exactly the same social status, age, background, emotional state and situation. There can be no power imbalance or even a risked perception of one. No chequered history to leave behind, no overcome adversities, nothing that had to be learned. No transgressions to have been worked through, and comprehensively put to rest now.
Indeed, the moment must be so sublimely judged that it's unlikely to ever actually arise in a drama to start with; the characters must be in such a stable situation that there's no actual storytelling to be done here to warrant the scene occurring in the first place.
Which is convenient, because in this framework, the only unproblematic sex is the sex nobody can possibly have anyway. Because nobody can have "perfect" sex. That's not how it works - the fundamental nature of intimacy is taking each other for what you actually are, in all of the reality involved. If it can't be messy, it's not true.
All of this comes with extra points and splinters too when it comes to the matter of lesbian sex in particular, and the complicated history of how we've been either exploited for disposable male titilation, or else rendered chastely invisible by well intended feminists of all persuasions. We were already being presented with a sex or romance dichotomy, and never mind if either one worked.
It's a dysfunctional either/or. Asexuals & friends notwithstanding, physical intimacy is an incredibly important feature of the lives we spend together, and the bodies we live our lives in. And as much as we'd like to think we're all too cool and aloof for it, for most of us lust is impossible to entirely detach from sentiment, when it comes to the real people we form bonds with.
People falling in love want to fuck each other. People who are in love want to fuck each other. People fall in love in the process of fucking each other. It's not some abstract thing that happens in isolation to our feelings for each other.
I don't think it's good for us to perform such weird acrobatics to pretend none of this is true, whatever the reason for doing so; but that is effectively what modern media does.
And I think we're all poorer for it. We're poorer for missing out on the most private, intimately human kinds of moments in our stories that live in the space where love and lust can intersect. Because that's the only place those moments happen.
Lol has someone been spying on my last relationship 😭😭
women say “i don’t want to do that because it feels degrading” based on an instinctive gut reaction to being degraded and people are like “noooo you just feel like it’s degrading because of society” i’ve had gut reactions to degradation since i was a kid. it is not society lol it is my body sending me a warning signal
Omg this is it, this is who I want to be all summed up lol
butch as in, “here let me get that for you.”
butch as in, I help all my friends move.
butch as in, “of course I’ll be the DD.”
butch as in, I walk on the outside of the sidewalk.
butch as in, “thank you, baby.”
butch as in, I’m the advice friend.
butch as in, “do you need help?”
butch as in, I’m active in my community.
butch as in, “say that again, I dare you.”
butch as in, I’m a jack of all trades.
butch as in, “will you stay?”
butch as in, a shoulder to lean on.
butch as in, “I can fix that.”
butch as in, I’ll pump your gas and check your oil.
butch as in, “I’d love to make you dinner.”
inspired by @femmefruit :)
Submission is solely a man’s trait and obsession and I will die on this hill.
Men will choose a favorite man in power and then lap at every word from his mouth like a bird eating vomit from it’s parent’s throat. They refuse to read or educate themselves and take pride in the admission they have not read, and therefore not drawn a more independent opinion, since childhood. The patriarchy itself is inherently hierarchical in ways matriarchies never have been, historically. A good soldier, the peak of masculinity to these men, is defined by his ability to obey and submit. You would think boots were flavored like strawberry the way they lick them, but then again, these men do seem to like something big and hard in their mouths.
It mystifies men that women do not take joy in this submission. Why else is it that women are the ones that constantly need to be reminded to submit? It does not come naturally to us the way it does to them. Even the things seem as submission— women cooking and cleaning and doing everything for their male partners— is ultimately submission to the system on the man’s part. Once again, he gives up his agency over his own life to someone else. Once again, he refuses to take responsibility for himself. Once again it is someone else who he is handing himself over to. Men adore submission, both giving and taking it.