Things I'm Soft For

i genuinely don’t think that a single line of dialogue has ever been delivered as exquisitely as when toby stephens said “and then they called me a monster” and honestly you can quote me on that

”?!” makes a sound in my head, but I can’t describe what it is.

me: dress how you want!! gender is fake!!! nothing matters!!!!!!

trans person: i like gender tho

me: hell yeah i respect that!!!! i apologize and don’t mean to dismiss your identity with my optimistic nihilism!!!!!!!

been thinking about appearances and stuff

Friendly reminder that John Sheppard likes Ferris wheels

Every so often I see people wondering how a “lack of sexuality” counts as a sexuality.  (Or in one case, why asexuality counts as a sexuality and hypersexuality is medical condition).

And I think this question comes as a result of people, either by accident or maliciousness, misidentifying what asexuality actually is.

Aphobes and exclusionists like to portray asexuality as simply a matter of magnitude.  You’re not really ace.  You’re a straight/gay/bi person who doesn’t have/want sex.  Like there’s a z axis of the kinsey scale that indicates “amount”.  If they even give us that much validity.

But ultimately, asexuality is not about magnitude.  An asexual person can actually have a sex drive.  We can have libidos.  We have hormones and biological reactions just like everyone else.  Asexual people can feel horny.  And surprise, there are asexual people who have been diagnosed with hypersexuality.

(And if you want to know how a sex-repulsed asexual handles a healthy sex drive…well, simply put, we’re generally capable of seeing to our own needs, thank you.)

Asexuality is not a matter of magnitude.  It’s a matter of direction.

Of orientation if you will.

It might help to look at it like this.  If sexual desire is a multiple choice exam, then these are some of the options that you might have.

a) Women.

b) Men.

c) Multiple genders.

d) None of the above.

For asexual people, the answer is “d) None of the above”.  Admittedly, for others on the ace spectrum, the answer might fluctuate a bit more.  But our default position is going to be “d”.

And THAT’s why it’s a sexuality.

eating artificial blue raspberry flavored candy that is so fucking blue that it turns your mouth the same unnatural blue is one of life’s simple pleasures

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Hello everyone! I’ve seen a couple of posts about this before, but none recently, so just a reminder!

Please use “Latine” instead of “Latinx” or “Latin@” when refering to nonbinary Latines or groups of Latines. Here are a few reasons why!

In general, we nonbinary Latines have been trying to find an alternative to the gendered -a/-o endings in many Spanish words for a long time. The -e ending is our solution that the nonbinary Latine community widely agrees on, and wants to gain traction.

Using the @ symbol merely fuses the two binary gendered endings. It isn’t inclusive of nonbinary identities.

While an X is not gendered, it also is not easy for Latines to pronounce. It is not a naturally occuring ending in our languages, and due to its placement there is no agreed upon way to pronounce it.

Additionally, the @ symbol and X endings are hard if not impossible for screenreaders to recognize. We want to make sure to keep accessibility in mind!

There are already many words in our languages that end in E. It is an ending that flows naturally and is easy for us to pronounce.

Thank you for reading! I would really appreciate any reblogs. Happy Pride!

Michael Westen Burn Notice is demisexual. No I do not take criticism.