I Should Preface By Saying That My Mother Isn't Actively (nor Passively) Homophobic Or Transphobic (or

I should preface by saying that my mother isn't actively (nor passively) homophobic or transphobic (or in my case, biphobic) in any real way.

But there have been exceptions.

When I was around 14, I said to her I thought I was bi, and effectively got "it's probably just a phase, you're too young to decide that sort of thing". This was after I had already gotten quite frisky with another boy in my year, mind you, and as someone AMAB, this has to be queer in some sort of way. But at the time I wasn't sure why it bothered me as much as it did.

I have since, and in part thanks to the queers and allies on this platform, realised two reasons it bothers me.

One: Even if it is a phase or temporary, it does not invalidate whatever your sexuality is. You are allowed to change over time, and if that includes who you're attracted to, that's fine. I had long thought "maybe I was wrong", but I had never thought "maybe it doesn't matter". I have since had complete confirmation that she's changed her mind somewhat on this issue, as she herself has admitted she feels she's currently asexual, despite previously having been heterosexual.

Two, as OPs post describes: As much as she said "I'd be fine with it if you're gay", this was very much on the assumption that by default I was straight. When I was young, heterosexuality (such as my first girlfriend) was simply accepted as "the way things are", and anything else was merely a hypothetical, or assumed unlikely. It was rarely ever, by anyone, considered as real that I might be queer until I said I felt that way. And the first time I brought it up to an adult (never my peers, thankfully), it was just

"You're too young to decide"

And that's why it bothered me so long. It was a tiny thing really, but from the person I'd relied on most for my entire life, it hurt. I don't think she thought anything of it, nor do I believe she had any ill intent or secretly dislikes gay people, but I think that most people, and even some queers, do not take young people seriously, and still assume heterosexuality to be a default.

I imagine all these thoughts have almost certainly been iterated better than I have put it, and I recognise this is really a minor thing, and not some major instance of homophobia. I'm lucky to have been brought up in an area that didn't give me much trouble for being queer.

Sorry for the very long text post, it's just my two cents. Feel free to tell me if I'm wrong or you disagree about stuff, I don't usually talk about this type of thing.

I like how teens are too young to figure out their sexuality unless its heterosexual

Reblog if you’d be okay if your friend came out as transgender

let’s see how many transphobics we can weed out

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realhumanipromise

2 years ago

I feel I should add that I'm not angry at the person who broke up with me but just the world in general. Also, I was right in the tags. Grilled cheese is good shi.

Converting sadness into anger like some satanic (praise be) steam engine may not be a healthy coping mechanism, but idk, looks pretty good...

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realhumanipromise

10 months ago

S.A. Ash - The Black Piano

Not gonna specifically tag anyone…but reblog if you feel like it and put yours in the tags.

Tags

“rust hashmap” I'm using them in a program cause I'm learning rust and I like having the documentation open to dounle check tuff

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realhumanipromise

8 months ago

Solving a debate my mother and sister have been having recently

Remember to reblog for a bigger sample size

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realhumanipromise

1 year ago

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realhumanipromise

1 year ago

This mf really got the perfect name for their job

Source (I was looking this up cause I realised I had had both in quick succession numerous times, and was curious):

SELF

What Actually Happens When You Combine Alcohol and Caffeine?

Sounds like a good idea—but isn’t.

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realhumanipromise

10 months ago

had a minor crisis when 12ft.io went down yesterday and thankfully it's back now but this seems like a good opportunity to compile a list of similar paywall-evading tools in case 12ft ever gets canned for real:

12ft.io: the legend himself. definitely my favorite of the bunch by virtue of being the easiest to use (and the easiest url to remember), but it's configured to disable paywall evasion for a handful of popular sites like the new york times, so you'll have to go elsewhere for those.

printfriendly: works great; never had any issues with removing paywalls, even on domains that don't work with 12ft.io. since this site is literally designed to make sites print-friendly, it might simplify the overall formatting of the page you're trying to access, which can be a good or bad thing. my only real issue is that the "element zapper" (which lets you remove content blocks from the print-friendly preview) is a little sensitive if you're browsing on a touchscreen device, which means you might accidentally delete a paragraph when you're just trying to scroll. but if that happens you can reload the page and it'll revert everything back to its original state.

fifteen feet: basically a 12ft clone, minus 12ft's restrictions. haven't used it much since I only discovered it yesterday in the wake of 12ft's 451 error but it seems to do the trick.

archive.today: an archival tool very similar to the wayback machine, but it also works as a de facto paywall removal tool. (the wayback machine seems to remove paywalls as well, but archive.today has better UX imo and is way faster to use.)

and an honorable mention for sci-hub: only works for scientific/academic journals, not random news articles, but the other sites listed above only work for random news articles and not academic publications so you gotta have this one in your toolbelt for full coverage. pubmed is your oyster.

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realhumanipromise

8 months ago

Role reversal

Do I try to kill someone and then things flip? I am intrigued...

First thing you see after you zoom in is how you die