“Somebody says draw a map. Populate it with the incidents of your childhood. Mark the spot where the lake receded after a winter of light snow. The stairs on which someone slapped you. The place where the family dog hung itself by jumping over the back fence while still on the dog run, hours later its body like a limp flag on a windless day. Draw a map, someone says. Let yourself remember. In the refugee camp a hundred thousand strong draw the stony outcrop from which you could no longer see the plume of smoke that was your village. Draw a square for the bathroom stall where Grandpa hid each day in order to eat his one egg free from the starving eyes of his classmates, an X for the courthouse where you and he were naturalized, a broken line for the journey. Draw a map, Jon says. Let it be your way into the poem. Here is where that plane filled with babies crashed that I was not on. Here is where I was ashamed. On the second floor at Pranash University the people wait their turn. Have you drawn your map, Jon asks. He has rolled up his sleeves. Forty-five minutes to noon the Prince stands up and says that the monks must be excused. We watch them file out, saffron robes as if their bodies have burst into blossom. Draw a map. Fly halfway around the globe. Here is the room next to the library where you realize how poor your tradition is, the local people with poetic forms still in use that date back to the time of Christ. Tell us about your map. Explain how these wavy lines represent the river, this rectangle the school-turned-prison where only seven escaped with their lives. This is my map. This star the place where I sat in a roomful of people among whom not one was not touched by genocide. Every last map resplendent with death though nobody knows where their loved ones lie buried. How many times can I appropriate a story that is not mine to tell? The woman stands up and says she is not a poet, that she doesn’t have the words. She points to a triangle on a piece of paper. Here is the spot where she found human bones in the well of her childhood home, and how her mother told her don’t be afraid because it was not the work of wild animals.”
— “Loose Strife,” by Quan Barry
“The truth is, unless you let go, unless you forgive yourself, unless you forgive the situation, unless you realize that the situation is over, you cannot move forward.”
— Steve Maraboli
“Deep in my heart I know I am a loner. I have tried to blend in with the world and be sociable, but the more people I meet the more disappointed I am. So, I’ve learned to enjoy myself, my family, and a few good friends.”
— Steven Aitchison
Feeling in a slump? In desperate need of refreshment? After exhausting months of studying for exams like me? Well I have this plan to get my life together again and I thought I might share with you!
Spend 3 days resting
No planning and no routines
Don’t do anything you don’t want to do
Sleep in if you want
Binge that show or play that video game
1 day of cleaning your space
Keep it small and surfice level
Clean the dust and the floors
Change your sheets and towels
Declutter the things around
Let in fresh air
1 day of mental health reset
Focus on yourself and your mind with meditating or journaling
Go through your full routines
Read or be creative
Do your favourite self care activities
1 day of social media detox -no social media allowed
1 day of dopamine detox
You have to get bored
You are allowed to go for a walk or work out (no music tho!)
You can journal and meditate
A little bit of cheating: if you feel to desperate you can read
Spend this week with others as much as possible
Make small gifts for others
Hang out playing games or just talking
Make sure to tell people what they mean to you
Make sure to change up things in this part depending on your goals, health and your body’s needs!
No meat, bread (and other pastry) and sweets
No fried food
Drink water only
Fast for 16 hours a day (imtermittent fasting -a lot of you are concerned but don’t worry about me personally. It is safe for me. If you consider doing this do a proper research!)
Work out daily
Go for walks/jogging and spend as much time outside as possible
Take medications and vitamins properly
Declutter and organise your closets and cupboards
Go through your clothes
Deep clean your space
Donate things you don’t want or need
3 days resting completely (like the first 3 days)
4 days of active rest
Follow routines
Be creative
Garden/clean/cook
Work out/go cycling/do yoga
Read or learn something new
Create something every day
Plan your future
Find new routines
Get into stable routine that makes you happy
Keep in mind that these are all suitable for me and you can change things up as much as you want! I hope you find some inspiration in this and good luck on your journey!
Hieu Minh Nguyen, from “Outbound”
Caddo Lake, Texas by Fred R Cox
some of my favorite tiny love stories
L. A. Johnson, from "Birthmark"
Too much joy, I swear, is lost in our desperation to keep it.
Ocean Vuong, On Earth We’re Briefly Gorgeous
Jonathan Safran Foer
Madeline Miller, Circe
Richard Siken, Crush
Edith Wharton
Slavoj Žižek
Richard Siken, Crush
Every lover’s got a little dagger in their hands…Communications and Media Scholar📚
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