Everyone forgets that Icarus also flew. It’s the same when love comes to an end, or the marriage fails and people say they knew it was a mistake, that everybody said it would never work. That she was old enough to know better. But anything worth doing is worth doing badly. Like being there by that summer ocean on the other side of the island while love was fading out of her, the stars burning so extravagantly those nights that anyone could tell you they would never last. Every morning she was asleep in my bed like a visitation, the gentleness in her like antelope standing in the dawn mist. Each afternoon I watched her coming back through the hot stony field after swimming, the sea light behind her and the huge sky on the other side of that. Listened to her while we ate lunch. How can they say the marriage failed? Like the people who came back from Provence (when it was Provence) and said it was pretty but the food was greasy. I believe Icarus was not failing as he fell, but just coming to the end of his triumph.
-Jack Gilbert, “Failing and Flying” from Refusing Heaven
You’re so much prettier when you smile.
It’s good to grow and learn to be better. But that doesn’t mean your past self was bad or unworthy or anything like that.
Your past self got you through everything, no matter how hard that might have been. And no matter how much you might think you could have done better.
The important thing is you’re here now and even if your past self didn’t do their best, they still survived and got you here.
“I want us to have history, something longer than the small window of time we’re actually sharing, with an even longer future.” — mateo
i've read this book two years ago but i'm crying harder now ;(
If we all die eventually why does it matter if I want to go earlier?
To be beautiful means to be yourself. You don't need to be accepted by others. You need to accept yourself. When you are born a lotus flower, be a beautiful lotus flower, don't try to be a magnolia flower. If you crave acceptance and recognition and try to change yourself to fit what other people want you to be, you will suffer all your life. True happiness and true power lie in understanding yourself, accepting yourself, having confidence in yourself.
— Thích Nhất Hạnh
trying to have the same mindset as “just cut your hair, it’ll grow back” when making decisions. they’re not all make or break.
Perhaps there’s always a tiny part of me, the 16-year-old girl, who believes that after everything, we’d come back to each other. But perhaps we’re just meant to walk this road together for a while, and that’s good enough.
(via tranquilist)
“Someone somewhere is searching for you in every person they meet.”
— Unknown
I want romance. I want laughter. I want the 3am love making. I want consistency. I want loyalty. I want the random looks of admiration. I want to know you're just for me. I want date nights and flowers. I want truth. I want priority. I want love that's pure and calming.
the worst part of "you'll understand when you're older" is that you really do understand when you're older