I Develop Oddly Deep Emotional Connections To People In My Life That Are One-sided. I May Just Be A Passing

ENTPs are great masters of tricks and deceits, often more than ESTPs, and what’s more they do it in a very skilful manner. ENTPs are masters of arrangement and sharp psychoanalysts, able to foresee exactly how others can react to a situation. They can turn the whole world against you, if you are not careful. ENTPs also have the unique ability to make a deal with their conscience. They can successfully justify almost any wrong doing, thus ensuring that they will sleep well at night.

Hospitals are full of people having the worst day of their lives, the best day of their lives, the last day of their lives, and the first day of their lives.

A collection of So-blind descriptions

Here are some theory-grounded descriptions of So-blindness that we relate to:

“ Soc blind spot 

It’s hard to concern self with another’s agenda. Don’t want to deal with ‘their stuff’ 

Dismissive

Cynicism around idealism—connecting socially will cost me something. Interactions are draining

Fear of being emotionally crippled

Can’t connect with people

You’re ‘broken’

A self-knowledge of being ungracious

It’s hard to take in the gifts and generosity of others

One doesn’t let oneself try to interact or find out

Projected fear - if I ignore others, they will ignore me

There’s an expectation of humiliation

A desire not to impose self on people in fear of not being wanted, or being klutzy

And you can’t repair the social blind spot in isolation. You need others. Ask for help ” 

“ So blind spot 

Neglect of social groups, detrimental withdrawing tendency or socially antagonistic streak, overemphasis on self or a partnership, lack or altruism, overindulgence, preference of a private setting, pessimism

Self-importance

Obsession/addiction, impoliteness, unrealistic views, misanthropy (!)

Snarky, desperate lone wolf. (You and) me against the world

Hatred for social gatherings

Rejecting everyone but expecting help/ pitying oneself when all hell breaks loose

Clingy

Assuming everyone´s out there to get them

Isolating self-image from societal context

Too rebellious for their own good ” 

“ More on SO blind spot 

When the social instinct is least developed, the individual [finds] it difficult to see why it is important to form social connections or to cultivate multiple relationships

This [leads to] a certain amount of social isolation

And, as we all must find a niche in the larger whole, those whose social instinct is least developed, can find it difficult to negotiate the needs of the social realm which make this possible

[They] find interdependence difficult and dependence on others barely tolerable

But all human beings are interdependent, and sometimes, dependent [for instance when they are] young, weak, sick, old, or dying

Those whose social instinct remains undeveloped are trying to attain a type of independence and self-sufficiency which is not possible for human beings

This ‘false independence’ almost certainly leads to unnecessary suffering and impoverishment of experience ” 

From these three descriptions it can be seen that the most negative aspects of So-blindness is not necessarily how one comes off to others (as in rudeness or creating an anti-social image, though that may be a by-product), but rather the problem that is created for the so-blind themselves when they over-isolate and try to be impossibly independent. These are key qualities of So-blindness, the rest is up to how the individual manages those qualities.

Cashier the other day: “have a nice night!”

Me failing to load one correct response from multiple possibilities: …….“YOUP!”

You know you're an ENTP when #103

you go at about 30% of your capabilities most of the time and then when the chips are down, your P flips to hardcore J and you show everyone the badass within - you then wonder why everyone is surprised.

Socializing as an ENTP

-Being nice, charming and finding everyone great and magical one minute -Turning into an irritable douche and being cynical about everyone thirty seconds later

enneagram & unconscious beliefs that are holding them back

type 1: "I have the moral high ground. I need to make sure all of my actions are justifiable."

type 2: "If I am loving, I will be loved back. If I don't go the extra mile to meet others' needs, I won't be."

type 3: "I am the most competent and impressive because others don't work as hard to succeed as I do."

type 4: "I deserve to be victimized. Others reject me because there is something wrong with me."

type 5: "Withdrawing until I arrive at a complete understanding will compensate for my vulnerabilities."

type 6: "If I stay vigilant and observe who is the most trustworthy, I can stave off danger and loss."

type 7: "I'll stay positive and keep my mind stimulated, because dwelling on pain and fear is pointless."

type 8: "I have the most strength and grit; I need to make sure nothing poses a threat to me or those I protect."

type 9: "Whether or not I am okay with what's happening, I need to avoid provoking conflict and unease in others."

It is important to view knowledge as sort of a semantic tree – make sure you understand the fundamental principles, ie the trunk and big branches, before you get into the leaves/details or there is nothing for them to hang on to.

Elon Musk  (via entp-mess)

Why do we love the people that rejects us and reject the people that loves us?