- 8w9s Are Take A More Diplomatic “take You Under My Wing” Approach To Control. They Are More Likely

- 8w9s are take a more diplomatic “take you under my wing” approach to control. they are more likely to want to control their intimates on an interpersonal level and are more into maintaining than pushing outward. despite their more gentle demeanor (externally at least) the 8w9 is often more intrusive than the 8w7 in this way and is intent on keeping his post as the head of whichever organization/group he is overseeing. - 8w7s on the other hand are more openly aggressive, but they are less into/don’t really care about interpersonal control. if the 8w9 is the Patriarch maintaining his realm, the 8w7 is the conqueror, expanding outward and trying to grow his territory. as such, the interpersonal control of the 8w7 is more limited to “you there! do this for me!” after which point they really won’t think of you because their desire for power is turned more towards tangible ambition, such as financial success, personal/career goals, skills acquisition or resource acquisition. - 7w8 is the bad boy of the enneagram. the 8 wing gives them a more visceral feel, more drive, more focus, and more ability to stomach the unpleasant aspects of pursuing their goals. 7w8s are impulsive, action oriented people and are usually more thrill seeking and competitive than their 7w6 cousins. 7w8s like to play rough and often enjoy pranks or practical jokes that cause the “victim” a little bit of pain. overall, the 7w8 has an energy like a race car, zooming toward the object of it’s desire. Examples: Jack Nicholson, Joan Rivers, Steve Jobs, Scarlett O'Hara 7w6: for comparison, 7w6 is typically more imaginative, fantastical and has an energy more like a fox (7w8 typically comes off more like a wolf, hyena or chimpanzee). they typically have a slightly nervous energy about them and a more childlike charm to their personalities. being 7s, they are still core assertive types (3, 7 and 8), but the 6 wing softens 7’s narcissistic tendencies (in contrast to the 8 wing, which magnifies them), adds a touch of caution and often results in a stronger tendency to second guess oneself.

TBH ENTP #118

Just read a few blog titles and watched half a youtube video and now I’m an expert on this subject nbd

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scintillatingramblings

7 years ago

7 is the best type in the head triad. 6s are too anxious and 5s are….5s

everyone get a 7 fix it’s fun 10/10

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7 years ago

A collection of So-blind descriptions

Here are some theory-grounded descriptions of So-blindness that we relate to:

“ Soc blind spot

It’s hard to concern self with another’s agenda. Don’t want to deal with ‘their stuff’

Dismissive

Cynicism around idealism—connecting socially will cost me something. Interactions are draining

Fear of being emotionally crippled

Can’t connect with people

You’re ‘broken’

A self-knowledge of being ungracious

It’s hard to take in the gifts and generosity of others

One doesn’t let oneself try to interact or find out

Projected fear - if I ignore others, they will ignore me

There’s an expectation of humiliation

A desire not to impose self on people in fear of not being wanted, or being klutzy

And you can’t repair the social blind spot in isolation. You need others. Ask for help ”

“ So blind spot

Neglect of social groups, detrimental withdrawing tendency or socially antagonistic streak, overemphasis on self or a partnership, lack or altruism, overindulgence, preference of a private setting, pessimism

Self-importance

Obsession/addiction, impoliteness, unrealistic views, misanthropy (!)

Snarky, desperate lone wolf. (You and) me against the world

Hatred for social gatherings

Rejecting everyone but expecting help/ pitying oneself when all hell breaks loose

Clingy

Assuming everyone´s out there to get them

Isolating self-image from societal context

Too rebellious for their own good ”

“ More on SO blind spot

When the social instinct is least developed, the individual [finds] it difficult to see why it is important to form social connections or to cultivate multiple relationships

This [leads to] a certain amount of social isolation

And, as we all must find a niche in the larger whole, those whose social instinct is least developed, can find it difficult to negotiate the needs of the social realm which make this possible

[They] find interdependence difficult and dependence on others barely tolerable

But all human beings are interdependent, and sometimes, dependent [for instance when they are] young, weak, sick, old, or dying

Those whose social instinct remains undeveloped are trying to attain a type of independence and self-sufficiency which is not possible for human beings

This ‘false independence’ almost certainly leads to unnecessary suffering and impoverishment of experience ”

From these three descriptions it can be seen that the most negative aspects of So-blindness is not necessarily how one comes off to others (as in rudeness or creating an anti-social image, though that may be a by-product), but rather the problem that is created for the so-blind themselves when they over-isolate and try to be impossibly independent. These are key qualities of So-blindness, the rest is up to how the individual manages those qualities.

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scintillatingramblings

7 years ago

me @ me 24/7: are we really doing this rn

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