If you get strong emotional feelings, express them honestly to your partner. No one is a mind reader, and whatever enhances your experience, share it.
Want a really fun game? Lock up his cock and choose how long to keep him (10 days?), but every time he asks for release or to know when it is, you start over. So you always say, "10 days." You never explain about resetting the time. He just has to learn to stop asking. How long? 10 days. Next day: how long? 10 days, babe. Though if he does anything bad, like calling you a liar, feel free to add time. "I guess now it's 11 days, then!" For extra fun, I waited as long as possible on release day. 11pm he asks isn't today release day? I said, "Oh, honey. In 10 days..." and it broke him.
When you're a cuckolded husband, it may become awkward at times when she has enjoyed that freedom. You both go to the same gym, and you know she's bedded a couple of men there and even encourage it. But when you're in the locker room and one man is bragging about her to another you felt that initial angst when he talks of her being married. But when he describes the sex and says how amazing it was and it was the best he's ever had, angst turns to pride. A cuckold's pride.