Ah Yes The Greatest Duo, A Boring Ass Man(/affectionate) And A Narrator Who's Done With His Shit(but

Had some fun with one of my bestfriends earlier <3333

Omg it's the guys

Supernatural never failed at its parallels

"He's a hundred and ten years old"

...did they celebrate bucky's birthday together?

the wiki has bucky's birthday as march 10th, 1917. and the celestial island summit in ca:bnw took place on april 16th, 2027. so bucky's 110th birthday was just last month. sam's not rounding. he knows bucky's a hundred and ten because they just had his birthday...

...I need to know how long of a time "missed you too" is covering...did they spend bucky's birthday together?? have they just not seen each other for only a month? or, if it's been longer...did sam call bucky on his birthday? text him?? he has their picture framed on the best shelf in his office for christ's sake; he must have done something.

how many old man jokes has he made.

I love personalization. I love stickers on water bottles and on laptops. I love shitty marker drawing on the toes of converse. I love hand embroidered doodles on jeans. I love posters on walls. I love knick knacks on shelves. I love jewelry with goofy charms. I love when people take things and make them theirs.

in my room on a saturday evening talking to myself like this

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Not that anybody asked, but I think it's important to understand how shame and guilt actually work before you try to use it for good.

It's a necessary emotion. There are reasons we have it. It makes everything so. much. worse. when you use it wrong.

Shame and guilt are DE-motivators. They are meant to stop behavior, not promote it. You cannot, ever, in any meaningful way, guilt someone into doing good. You can only shame them into not doing bad.

Let's say you're a parent and your kid is having issues.

Swearing in class? Shame could work. You want them to stop it. Keep it in proportion*, and it might help. *(KEEP IT IN PROPORTION!!!)

Not doing their homework? NO! STOP! NO NOT DO THAT! EVER! EVER! EVER! You want them to start to do their homework. Shaming them will have to opposite effect! You have demotivated them! They will double down on NOT doing it. Not because they are being oppositional, but because that's what shame does!

You can't guilt people into building better habits, being more successful, or getting more involved. That requires encouragement. You need to motivate for that stuff!

If you want it in a simple phrase:

You can shame someone out of being a bad person, but you can't shame them into being a good person.