How do I know if I'm dealing with a bad or fake Dom? And is it possible to be used by a bad Dom for sexual purposes?
I'm going to answer the second question first then the first question.
Yes. Absolutely. 100% yes. Bad doms are primarily only interested in sex. They only care about their own pleasure and their own comfort. Bad doms have little to no consideration to others about how you feel and what you want out of a dynamic.
Dynamics are about structure, safety, and communication. With bad doms some of this maybe missing.
Some bad doms will give you "structure" but not enforce it. For example you have to drink 32 Oz of water Per day. But they don't check in on it and they don't enforce with a agreed upon punishment when you dont complete the task.
Some bad doms won't be safe when playing. Using toys in an improper and unsafe way like using belts around your neck, using unsafe rope putting you in a compromising position not checking in on you during a scene.
Some Really Realy REALLY bad doms will cast aside or just ignore what you've communicated to them. For example if you don't like anal then either preessuring you to do it or just doing it when you don't have the ability to say no or when your in a position you can't move. Or if you say your safeword and they don't care and keep going. Or if they punish you when you use a safeword.
Bad doms may miss a couple of these or just miss one of them. But they will show themselves eventually. And it's never your fault. It's never the fault of the submissives for what's done to them. It's the fault of the dominant that you have given the power to that needs to act accordingly.
Being away from home and regressed is hard. I wan bao and blankie and paci. I wan lay cuddled in bed wif my stuffies aroun me and be warm. I wan cuddles too. I can't wait until I'm home wif all my tings and snuggled in bed 💕🐻🐰
secret age regressors and age dreamer, I love you. Don't be ashamed of what makes you happy. Your peace is more important than what other people think.
i think in general, it would be nice for the agere community to remember that age regression is primarily associated with abused or traumatized children as both a natural coping mechanism and a reflection of developmental delays
and this is to say that everyone can regress, absolutely, but please have more kindness for regression being difficult for many. for a while now regressors like us have been thrown under terms like impure, vent, trauma, etc. and have been shoved out of tags and sent a message that our regression is secondary to the happy go lucky soft baby regression people want to see
and its fine if thats what you want. just have some compassion in your heart for the kids who are struggling. maybe your inner child is, too. for DID/OSDD littles who only exist because of trauma and often are dealing with a horrific reality.
regression IS difficult, upsetting, traumatizing, dysfunctional. it is also happy, fun, safe, rewarding. all of these things are true of regression and we dont need to separate it semantically. if you dont want to see the kids who are hurting, maybe unpack why that is. and if youre hurting, youre not impure or whatever other term people come up with to section you off with
love yourselves and others in turn, and it'll make for a better community :}
- mama K
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Bun bun!! 😊😊💕💕💕
5 shades of bun
Or a kitty!!
I wan paint this!! 🐻💛
renaissance painting
Blue and brown are my favoriiitteee 💙🤎
blue and brown cottagecore agere outfit!!! (child safe interaction only!)