Fun Story. When I Was Actively Being Stalked (both Online And IRL), I Contacted The Police Exactly One

Fun story. When I was actively being stalked (both online and IRL), I contacted the police exactly one time. I showed them the physical notes that had been left under the wiper blade on my car after I blocked the man on social media. I showed them the previous Facebook messages this man had sent me that described, in detail, what he wanted to do to me.

The police said they couldn’t help me because the man had not actually physically done any of those things to me. He’d just talked about his desires. They even made excuses for him. He’s awkward. He’s lonely. You’re pretty. It’s a compliment.

So friendly reminder that when a man with a record and weapons makes verbal/written threats against a woman, there’s nothing police can do.

But when a frustrated woman being denied medical coverage with no record and no weapons makes a “verbal threat” against a corporation, she’s arrested immediately.

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4 months ago

[cw blood, canon-typical violence?]

a wordless lineart comic page of the Red Hood: Prometheus version of Bruce Wayne/Batman beating the shit out of Jason Todd/Red Hood

first row of panels, panel one: low view of Jason trying to get away, his helmet broken to show one frightened eye, as Bruce looms over him, yelling, and grabs him by one shoulder

first row, panel two: above view of Jason being flipped over, still terrified and trying to shield himself. all that can be seen of Bruce are his hands, one doing the flipping the other grabbing Jason by the front of his hood.

second row, only panel: Bruce punches Jason, enlarging the hole in his helmet and sending pieces flying. all that are visible of him again are his hands and now the ends of his cape, reaching toward Jason as if to grab him

third row, six panels: a recreation/reference to Joker beating Jason in A Death in the Family, showing Bruce from head-on at slightly different angles and closeness in each, yelling and beating Jason until the last panel, where he looks down in horror and realization, his fist lowering. his hands, particularly the main one he’s using to punch, get bloodier over the course of the panels.

final row, only panel: an above view of a badly beaten Jason, bleeding from the nose, mouth, and one eye, face swollen and bruising, crying and looking blankly through one partially open eye, the front of his helmet having been fully busted open, blood pooling on one side under his head and blood and pieces of his helmet scattered around. the only parts of Bruce visible are one hand letting go of Jason’s hood and the ends of his cape, curling up and out of frame, over the border, as if trying to escape what he’s done.
a wordless lineart + spot color comic page of the Red Hood: Prometheus version of Bruce Wayne/Batman beating the shit out of Jason Todd/Red Hood

first row of panels, panel one: low view of Jason trying to get away, his helmet broken to show one frightened eye, as Bruce looms over him, yelling, and grabs him by one shoulder

first row, panel two: above view of Jason being flipped over, still terrified and trying to shield himself. all that can be seen of Bruce are his hands, one doing the flipping the other grabbing Jason by the front of his hood.

second row, only panel: Bruce punches Jason, enlarging the hole in his helmet and sending pieces flying. all that are visible of him again are his hands and now the ends of his cape, reaching toward Jason as if to grab him

third row, six panels: a recreation/reference to Joker beating Jason in A Death in the Family, showing Bruce from head-on at slightly different angles and closeness in each, yelling and beating Jason until the last panel, where he looks down in horror and realization, his fist lowering. his hands, particularly the main one he’s using to punch, get bloodier over the course of the panels.

final row, only panel: an above view of a badly beaten Jason, bleeding from the nose, mouth, and one eye, face swollen and bruising, crying and looking blankly through one partially open eye, the front of his helmet having been fully busted open, blood pooling on one side under his head and blood and pieces of his helmet scattered around. the only parts of Bruce visible are one hand letting go of Jason’s hood and the ends of his cape, curling up and out of frame, over the border, as if trying to escape what he’s done.

finally returned to one of the pieces from October I wanted to return to, in this case the Red Hood: Prometheus test page/scene idea feat. Bruce & Jason and a direct reference/callback to A Death in the Family. might do a full color version of it it later? but for now lines and spot colors

A general cane guide for writers and artists (from a cane user, writer, and artist!)

Disclaimer: Though I have been using a cane for 6 years, I am not a doctor, nor am I by any means an expert. This guide is true to my experience, but there are as many ways to use a cane as there are cane users!

This guide will not include: White canes for blindness, crutches, walkers, or wheelchairs as I have no personal experience with these.

This is meant to be a general guide to get you started and avoid some common mishaps/misconceptions in your writing, but you absolutely should continue to do your own research outside of this guide!

This is NOT a medical resource!!! And never tell a real person you think they're using a cane wrong!

[Image text] Arm bends a little. Cane height at hip joint. Many canes have adjustable height. Cane sits within the natural center of balance. Causes stress on: Triceps, upper back, wrist (pressure) fingers (grip). Helps with: Joints (lower back, hip, knee, ankle, foot), weakness, balance, pain.

The biggest recurring problem I've seen is using the cane on the wrong side. The cane goes on the opposite side of the pain! If your character has even-sided pain or needs it for balance/weakness, then use the cane in the non-dominant hand to keep the dominant hand free. Some cane users also switch sides to give their arm a rest!

A cane takes about 20% of your weight off the opposite leg. It should fit within your natural gait and become something of an extension of your body. If you need more weight off than 20%, then crutches, a walker, or a wheelchair is needed.

Putting more pressure on the cane, using it on the wrong side, or having it at the wrong height can make it less effective, and can cause long term damage to your body from improper pressure and posture. (Hugh Laurie genuinely hurt his body from years of using a cane wrong on House!)

(some people elect to use a cane wrong for their personal situation despite this, everyone is different!)

A General Cane Guide For Writers And Artists (from A Cane User, Writer, And Artist!)

(an animated GIF of a cane matching the natural walking gait. It turns red when pressure is placed on it.)

When going up and down stairs, there is an ideal standard: You want to use the handrail and the cane at the same time, or prioritize the handrail if it's only on one side. When going up stairs you lead with your good leg and follow with the cane and hurt leg together. When going down stairs you lead with the cane and the bad leg and follow with the good leg!

Realistically though, many people don't move out of the way for cane users to access the railing, many stairs don't have railings, and many are wet, rusty, or generally not ideal to grip.

In these cases, if you have a friend nearby, holding on to them is a good idea. Or, take it one step at a time carefully if you're alone.

Now we come to a very common mistake I see... Using fashion canes for medical use!

[Image text] 4 Major Handle Shapes (significant variation and uses). Tourist/Crook/Hook. Classic shape, fashion and medical, easy to hook on things (arm, door, chair, etc), generally solid wood (stronger, heavier). Offset. Newer design, not a fashion handle, only handle for quad-bases, generally better balance, usually aluminum (light + cheap), soft handle, adjustable (rattles/clicks when swinging). Derby/Fritz/Anatomical/Contour. Classic medical shape, many fashion variants, some fashion + medical, varies in many ways, sometimes contoured to hand, comes in foldable styles, many aluminum styles, many customizable styles. Knob/Decorative. Fashion exclusive, knob shape hurts the hand after prolonged pressure (especially with designs), tend to be heavy, "sword canes" have the same issues.

(These are 4 broad shapes, but there is INCREDIBLE variation in cane handles. Research heavily what will be best for your character's specific needs!)

The handle is the contact point for all the weight you're putting on your cane, and that pressure is being put onto your hand, wrist, and shoulder. So the shape is very important for long term use!

Knob handles (and very decorative handles) are not used for medical use for this reason. It adds extra stress to the body and can damage your hand to put constant pressure onto these painful shapes.

The weight of a cane is also incredibly important, as a heavier cane will cause wear on your body much faster. When you're using it all day, it gets heavy fast! If your character struggles with weakness, then they won't want a heavy cane if they can help it!

This is also part of why sword canes aren't usually very viable for medical use (along with them usually being knob handles) is that swords are extra weight!

However, a small knife or perhaps a retractable blade hidden within the base might be viable even for weak characters.

[Image text] 4 Major base shapes (significant variation and uses). Adjustable base. Aluminum, standard modern medical, adjustable height, rubber base, wears down over time. Tripod/ quad base. If you need extra balance. Terrain attachment (varies, this is for ice). Removable, helps stop slipping on ice/snow/sand/etc, some canes have a retractable tip for ice. Classic base. Non-adjustable, custom only, modern standard still has a rubber base.

Bases have a lot of variability as well, and the modern standard is generally adjustable bases. Adjustable canes are very handy if your character regularly changes shoe height, for instance (gotta keep the height at your hip!)

Canes help on most terrain with their standard base and structure. But for some terrain, you might want a different base, or to forego the cane entirely! This article covers it pretty well.

Many cane users decorate their canes! Stickers are incredibly common, and painting canes is relatively common as well! You'll also see people replacing the standard wrist strap with a personalized one, or even adding a small charm to the ring the strap connects to. (nothing too large, or it gets annoying as the cane is swinging around everywhere)

Two canes side by side. The one on the left is painted a light pink, and the one on the right is painted black with a fire/lava pattern.

(my canes, for reference)

If your character uses a cane full time, then they might also have multiple canes that look different aesthetically to match their outfits!

When it comes to practical things outside of the cane, you reasonably only have one hand available while it's being used. Many people will hook their cane onto their arm or let it dangle on the strap (if they have one) while using their cane arm, but it's often significantly less convenient than 2 hands. But, if you need 2 hands, then it's either setting the cane down or letting it hang!

For this reason, optimizing one handed use is ideal! Keeping bags/items on the side of your free hand helps keep your items accessible.

A General Cane Guide For Writers And Artists (from A Cane User, Writer, And Artist!)

When sitting, the cane either leans against a wall or table, goes under the chair, or hooks onto the back of the chair. (It often falls when hanging off of a chair, in my experience)

When getting up, the user will either use their cane to help them balance/support as they stand, or get up and then grab their cane. This depends on what it's being used for (balance vs pain when walking, for instance!)

That's everything I can think of for now. Thank you for reading my long-but-absolutely-not-comprehensive list of things to keep in mind when writing or drawing a cane user!

Happy disability pride month! Go forth and make more characters use canes!!!

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I think the most unintentionally pretentious part of me is I genuinely forget that most people do not have a near-encyclopedic knowledge of mythology and folklore. I literally just assume most people know at least the name of every Greek god. My mom and I were watching the Banshees of Inisherin and at the start, she asked "Do you know what a banshee is?" and I was so stunned because it would never occur to me to ask that question because I would never assume the average person doesn't know what a banshee is. The average person knows what a banshee is right. You know what a banshee is right. You know the names of the greek gods right. You know that norse myth where loki fucked the horse right. Right. RIGHT

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