I Need Friends Like This To Hang Out With...

I do.

This is an awesome story. I so wish it was mine.

The beginning

When I first brought up this fantasy to my wife I think she was confused. Her concern was why would I want to share her with another man. I must admit, I kinda felt the same way. I mean I wasn’t even sure why I felt the need to see her with someone else. The thought of someone’s hands all over her body would make me feel all kinds of mixed feelings. On one hand, the naughtiness and lustfull feeling of my fantasy coming true would get me really excited, but on the other hand the taboo feeling and the way people would judge us if anyone found out would scare and make me feel wrong. All my life society has taught me that a man should marry have children and live a monogamous life, but what I felt was not that much different. I felt as if I could have all that and still have this secret sex life with the person I loved. I explained to my wife my thoughts on this fantasy, how I felt sex was just that sex. No strings attached no feeling involved and as long as we were both OK with it there was nothing wrong. We were not hurting anyone.

After the initial conversation we made the mistake of only touching the subject when we were fooling around. Up to this point it was just a fantasy nothing more than dirty talk and a bit of role playing. I think I enjoyed it more than she did, I would later come to find out this was true. Even though she played along she was still skeptical about the whole thing. A couple of months went by and I really wanted to make my fantasy come true.

At this time I was working as a security officer at a factory. The majority of my time during my shift consisted of me sitting in a booth with my supervisor who was only a few years older than me. We would just talk about all kinds of random stuff. One day… not sure how but my fantasy came up during a one of our conversations. This was the first time I had ever told anyone outside of my relationship about how I fantasized and how I felt about it. I told him how much I wanted to see my wife with another man, and how my conscience and morals made me feel like I was doing wrong. We talked about it for a while before he said to me something that launched my emotions into overdrive, he said to me “look man I don’t want you to take this the wrong way but I think your wife is beautiful” he then paused and said “I would love to be in your fantasy if you would allow me to” at that moment I felt a bit jealous and angry. This was the first time anyone had ever told me that they would love to fuck my wife, but at the same time I was really turned on by the fact that he wanted to. We both joked about it and left it alone.

A few days went by and then one night while my wife was her knees giving me a blow job I told her about my conversation with my supervisor. Her reaction was not what I expected, at first she thought I was kidding or just trying to talk dirty. I told her that I would really like to see this happen. It took me some time to get her to go along with it, but when she finally said OK I couldn’t wait.

The following day I decide to invite my supervisor to come over for a beer, he had no clue what my intentions were. The plan that night was for my wife to try and seduce him, she was nervous but since she knew that he liked her she wads ok to try. After a few beers she began to get closer to him and began to be flirtatious. As I watched this happen I could feel my cock begin to throb I was so excited. A few minutes of this went by then my wife pulled me into the kitchen and told me she couldn’t make a move, she felt nervous with me being there watching. I decided to give her some space and walked into the bedroom for a while. I stood by the door for a few minutes trying to listen to what was happening in the living room. When I finally decided to walk out the first thing I saw was my wife sitting on my supervisors lap and him sucking on her tits. At that moment I felt like could’ve exploded in my pants. My wife looked over at me with a look I could only describe as lustful, she told me to sit and watch. I sat their and watch her take off her shirt and yoga pants, he immediately pulled her panties off and began to eat her sweet pussy. As they began to fuck she asked me if this is want I wanted to see, to wich I responded yes many times. I watched them fuck until she told me to pull my cock out and started sucking it. We took turns fucking her pussy and mouth until we came. We all got dressed and called it a night I didn’t know what repercussions this night would have.

Since this experience we have had many other great sexual adventures and partners. Not all have been great but the majority have been full of naughty fun.

Can I recommend "harder" as a safe word?

‘then may I suggest you pick a safeword baby’…..

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Gosh, what an awesome journey.

How my Wife became a Hotwife:

"JUST PLAY"

We’re happily longtime married couple having experimented in many role-playing situations, you name it we probably have tried it. I bugged my wife forever about watching her with another man or woman which led to many arguments. In her words it was NEVER going to happen! So I decided to “JUST PLAY” a game :). I ran an ad in craigslist for a MFM without her knowledge and picked 10 guys (pictures), then one night when we were role-playing I asked her to pick one “JUST” for fun and we could “JUST PLAY” like we were going to meet him. What I hadn’t told her was that I had corresponded with all of them and had even secretly met the one who I thought she might be most attracted to meeting him for coffee. She agreed to play along and AMAZINGLY ended up picking the same guy I had met out of the group of guys I showed her (WOW I couldn’t have been happier). We had incredible sex that night with me fantasizing about her possibly being with him! While role-playing a couple weeks later I asked if she would really want to meet him and confessed that I had already met him. She was pissed saying “NO WAY” which I was expecting and countered with well lets “JUST” meet him and then come home and pretend that something might happen to just kick up our sex. Again she said no but as the days went by I kept persistently bugging her until she finally she agreed to, but only to “JUST PLAY”! I was ecstatic and very aroused, we had great sex that night AGAIN! I set up the meeting a couple weeks later and I can’t tell you how nervous both of us were. We met him at a bar and hit it off really well and after a couple drinks I excused myself to the bathroom to purposely leave them alone. When I came back my wife was practically in tears reaching over and gave me a kiss whispering to me that he had kissed her while I was gone. OMG I was so perplexed as to if she liked the kiss or not by her reaction. All I know was I was very excited that he kissed her and was hard as could be. I couldn’t gauge if she liked that he had kissed or not but finally got reassured by the fact she stayed engaged in conversation with him. We stayed about another hour befor going home and had AMAZING sex!!!! She kept reminding me it was only “JUST PLAY” and we had many great nights of sex living and talking about the what if's of the meeting. I was sure she liked him, but wouldn’t admit it to me because she knew I wouldn’t let it go (she was right). I continued emailing with him sharing sexy pictures of her to keep his interest. In the meantime, I would make pins of the pictures I had shared with him and put his responses to them posting them on a secret shared board me and my wife had in Pinterest. I could tell she enjoyed his flattering comments because she responded to them in the comments. One night I told her he wanted to get together again for drinks and dancing? Shockingly to my amazement she agreed to and once again we had great sex that night. Hurriedly I set it up for the next week before she could change her mind. We met him for a second time for drinks and more conversation. After a while he asked her if she would like to dance (which she loves). It got intimate on the dance floor and he kissed her in front of me and everybody else that was in the bar. I was flying off the ground in excitement knowing after all these years my fantasy might just come true. She came back to the table smiling knowing that I was happy by the look on my face, kissed me and went directly to the restroom. When she came back, she had taken off her panties and handed them to me under the table. WOW!!!!!!!  She then climbed on his lap and kissed him telling him that she was ready and willing to play. It took a couple months to happen but we arranged to meet him in a hotel. That night I FINALLY got my favorite fantasy to come true. My wife became a Hotwife that night and we haven’t stopped since.

I couldn't resist making a pin of that night

WOULD BE GLAD TO SHARE MORE DETAILS IF INTERESTED

Excellent.

Ground Rules

Another day of Hotwifing advice and of course..your questions and stories is upon us. Today I am going to address the topic of Ground Rules.

I have heard some major horror stories in the lifestyle from couples who swing and from couples who Hotwife and all due to this one most important topic. Due to the fact that there are 2 people involved in both lifestyles, you have to remember that feelings and emotions matter not just with you, but also with your partner. Without solid ground rules that address the feelings of both partners, this lifestyle can and does destroy marriages and relationships.

As a Hotwife myself, my goal in the lifestyle is not just to fuck other men, but to enhance my marriage with my husband. In fact, the latter is priority number one! And if you don’t do the same, then you are not Hotwifing….you are just dating and playing the field.

To avoid the tragedy, ..set ground rules….both of you! My Stag and I do not have many ground rules now but we started off with a ton of them. And if you are just starting off in this lifestyle, I can recommend a few to use on your own. Experiment with them. Use them if you like. Add to them if you like. Delete a couple if you like. It really is all about what works best for you both as a couple.

A good one to start with is to set the ground rule of ..You do not message or contact men without your Stags approval. And you do not agree to meet anyone without his approval. This will eliminate the possibility of jealousy.

Another good one is that you will not have a playdate without your Stag being present. The truth of this one is that your Stag most likely really will demand this anyway for safety sake.

Another is that there is no kissing (I can’t do this one at all and my Stag has never laid down this rule but there are those who are serious about this one)

Couples who are ok with the wife playing alone, some set a rule for the Hotwife to take pics and video each and every time they have a playdate. (This is one of my Stags rules).

Another good one for beginners is to always include the Stag, whether that be by the sex itself or the constant eye contact or touching. This is used to assure the partner that you are his always and it also helps show affection in a very intimate setting.

Some Stags require their Hotwife to dress super sexy. But I think this is a given anyway!

Another very good one for beginners is to set the rule that anytime one of you is feeling uncomfortable with anything, that you immediately stop and talk about it until you come to an agreement and set the boundary or draw a line in the sand.

Remember you can set whatever ground rules that you like. And also remember that this isnt just about you. Do not get into this lifestyle thinking that your needs are to be met only. That doesnt work. This lifestyle is for you both. Keep each other in mind at all times and you will have a great time!

This will be a weekly posting just for Hotwives, Stags, Bulls, and Swingers. Every Tuesday I will focus on your questions, comments, and stories of the Hotwife lifestyle. Feel free to direct all questions or stories today through the submit feature of my Blog! Thank you and Happy Hotwifing! ♂️♀️♂️ ~LillybGoddess

I’m ready to be naughty 😈

The anklet tells a tale! To those in the know an anklet on a lady can say, “I may be married, but I’m free to enjoy some hot fun with you if I want to.”

Really well said. 80% resonates with me.

Why He Let Me Do It

I had asked my husband to write a few notes about why he "lets" me do it. I don't mean to seem like he controls me, because he doesn't. However, if he told me tomorrow he'd like me to stop having sex with other men, I would. Because in the end it is about our marriage. So here's what he wrote.

Because it absolutely makes our communication stronger. There are no secrets, and that is super sexy and hot. Even when we're out and you say something like, "that guy is super hot". Every woman thinks it, but few have the freedoms to say it because of their own insecurity, or the insecurity of their husband, which comes out as jealousy. 

Sex was always good with you of course, but it's way better since it started. Way better. It's more erotic, since we open up our marriage. It never fails either--when you've been with other guys, our sex after is more passionate. I can feel it. 

I see your confidence and the fun that you're having. It doesn't take away from us, it adds to us, and to you. I love seeing how erotic you are, and I love it when you describe an encounter with your guys. Most men would be threatened, I am not. I love it. 

I love surprising you by planning a date for you with a random strager men. I love how it brings out the femininity in you. 

I love the not knowing. I go to work, and I don't know if you're having sex with someone. That makes every single day erotic in a hard-to-define way. In the times that I "catch" you in the act? Super freaking hot. 

All of the different possibilities that are opened up by this--the physical, mental, are all a lot of fun, and thrilling. I love the fact that you get a lot of sexual satisfaction, from me and from others. But in the end, I know you love it, and it brings us closer together. That's the best part. 

I'm holding thumbs for you that the stars align and things happen.

Another Guy Returns

Recently, my wife ran into an old acquaintance of ours. We got to know him and his wife when our kids were at the same school. I went camping with him, we went over to their house for pool parties, it was a great connection. My wife had a crush on him. I encouraged it. I was into his wife. It was a lot of flirty fun. Not just the usual couple get togethers. It all seemed mutual. As our kids went to other schools, it faded away over time.

My wife told me she ran into him. She made it sound like I might not remember him, but I reassured her I did and told her how I thought he was an interesting person. She had made plans to go out for coffee or “something.” I told her that makes sense—the two of them work in the same field. However she pointed out that he doesn’t really work in her field. he’s a “dilettante.” I offered it would be fun to make the personal connection since he is interesting. She smiled. She got what she wanted to hear. I was very happy for her. This is something she would not have done in the past. She wouldn’t set up a get together with another man.

In the beginning of our journey, I would be a little nervous about her meeting a guy, possibly going out with him. Now I’m realistic about the whole situation. The stars need to align to make it work. Even though my wife and the other guy have a lot in common and enjoy each other's company, there are other factors. In this case, he would need to discuss it with his wife. Our rules are simple, we prefer to have it known what is going on vs sneaking around. Some others have similar ideas. Getting to the topic is delicate, it happens slowly or quickly if they are in the lifestyle.

In the meantime, I’m encouraging her to get a glass of wine with him. Something to reduce the tension. Something where it’s perhaps a little personal.

Absolutely.

Yup, that's me.