I Sat With A Crying Second Grader Today. (The Age Range Is Outside My Wheelhouse But I Was The Most Convenient

I sat with a crying second grader today. (The age range is outside my wheelhouse but I was the most convenient adult.) He was crying, the other adults said, because his brother took a phone he was playing on. “Phone addicted,” everybody said. “If he would get up and play games with the other kids he wouldn’t be crying.”

He told me everyone lets his brother take things from him because his brother is younger, and doesn’t know better. He told me he doesn’t want to play because he’s tired, he has too many extracurriculars this summer and can’t get good sleep because “everyone in my camper is so loud when I’m trying to sleep.” He’s exhausted and only eight. His mom’s an acquaintance and told me she and the kid’s father are going through a separation — mom and four kids left the house to stay in a camper.

But people will seriously not listen to kids crying over seemingly minor things because on the surface it looks like a tantrum. If kids are given the space to articulate themselves they often will.

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its just people (ironically) baby kids too much it’s to the point where they don’t even see them as people they’re incomplete both incapable of making their own decisions but also expected to have better emotional regulation than adults because their emotional expressions make adults uncomfortable as a kid who was labeled ‘too sensitive’ or ‘too shy’ followed right up by ‘too loud’ kids are people too and they’re more than just receptacles for your prejudice and comfort

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starteller-7

1 year ago

give her a CHANCE!!!

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yes yesssss absolutely

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1 year ago

Sherlock Holmes pushed him down into the easy-chair and, sitting beside him, patted his hand and chatted with him in the easy, soothing tones which he knew so well how to employ.

thinking about the way the trope of the autistic detective is a cold calculating machine, someone with no human empathy, but the actual autistic detective who inspired the whole trope is passionate, thoughtful and wildly kind, a person who has a very shrewd understanding of human nature.

In many adaptations, Holmes is a huge dick, and those adaptations are wrong because he is above all a good man.

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yes THIS IS WHAT IVE BEEN SAYING

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starteller-7

1 year ago

get ready everyone

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sigh 😔 I mean I guess it’s better than the alternative the alternative being raging homophobia for some reason these are the only two options

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starteller-7

1 year ago

Jumpscare of my life

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same agh I went soooo hard into trusting my guardian cuz I made her hot and then fuckin she’s actually an illithid AND (spoilers) fuckin Balduran bourgeoisie as fuck

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starteller-7

1 year ago

A reasonable one

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starteller-7

1 year ago

hey. HEY. artists. writers.

take your TIME

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starteller-7

1 year ago

My queers, we really need to put the "no men" thing away. Men are not inherently bad. There are queer men. There are questioning men. There's men that are just plain cool. Denying these men a space at our table is not helping - except the TERFs. I just came off the back of reading a transphobe gleeful rant about the need to have pride without men - They of course mean me. This kind of stuff is damaging to me and I really need us all to take a step back and maybe kill this "men dni, men not allowed" stuff. What you mean is "no men who are going to do mean stuff to me." And frankly those men won't give a shit about that kind of boundary.

But I promise you there's a fleet of good honest men who will see that and be sad they're not allowed in your version of queer spaces.

PATRIARCHY is what you hate. Dni Patriarchs.

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starteller-7

1 year ago

MASSIVE NEWS FOR LINGUISTS: the sphinx of black quartz has just befriended the quick brown fox and the lazy dog.

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