I Hate Noticing How Being Aware That I Have A Woman's Voice Limits How I Use It And Limits My Ability

I hate noticing how being aware that I have a woman's voice limits how I use it and limits my ability to talk back to people because I know it's not perceived the same as a man's - commanding, believable, threatening.

Living in Finland, the apartment building I live in has a common sauna (you need to book your shift). Several times when I have been in there, I have heard someone aggressively trying to open the door. I assume it's just someone trying to go to the sauna for free, testing if it's vacant. I hate that I find myself thinking, I want to yell fuck off, but then that person will hear there is a woman in here, alone. So I do nothing and swallow my frustration.

I have a neighbour who has an animal that makes quite a bit of noise. What annoys me more than the noise is him shouting "quiet!" at the animal whenever it makes a peep. I want to yell "you shut up!" at him, but I don't, because I remember my voice doesn't boom like his. Would he even hear it through the walls like I hear him? Would he give a shit hearing a woman nagging at him? So I do nothing and swallow my frustration.

This happens in public spaces, too. I'm afraid to speak up because I'm too aware that as a woman, I'm perceived as weak, vulnerable, shrill, and easy to dismiss. A man taking a stand with his voice evokes a completely different response in people, at least that's how I feel. I hate noticing that in situations like this, I ask my male partner to speak up for me if he is there, knowing that his voice will lend my thoughts more credibility than my own.