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me in the. me in. the. uhm.

pssst. while forgiveness is an option that the survivor can make for their own sake, the way it’s written in bnha is not a good handling of a forgiveness narrative. this is because all of the arcs dealing with forgiveness have so far been narrated through an abuser’s thoughts, prioritizing his hopes and unfulfilled desires (desires that are unfulfilled because of his abuse), rather than the emotional journey of his victims. shouto started softening his stance not when the story explored shouto’s thoughts, but when the story began exploring the thoughts of his abuser. as a result, what happens on the page is the abuser stops abusing and starts to feel bad, and therefore shouto begins to have a more positive relationship with him. rather than forgiveness resulting from a survivor coming to terms with his abuse and making the decision to forgive for his own peace of mind, the forgiveness is primarily framed as the abuser doing and feeling things, and therefore forgiveness happens. shouto does not make a decision to start forgiving; his abuser makes a decision and gets forgiveness in return.

forgiveness can be an empowering decision when made by a survivor with their full agency. its portrayal in fiction is not always empowering, especially when the narrative focuses on the feelings and thoughts of the abuser over the survivor. that is propaganda, plain and simple, particularly when we as a society already vastly overestimate the importance of an abuser’s feelings both in general, and in relation to stopping their abuse. in a social climate that already promotes forgiveness—not for the sake of the survivor but for the abuser—it’s difficult to write about forgiveness in a way that won’t be taken as modeling the behavior of “good” victims. we cannot treat characters like independent human beings, who all make “valid” decisions in response to their abuse. how are their decisions framed? who are we being told to sympathize with? who is being prioritized narratively? we can’t engage in discussions about representations in fiction without considering these kinds of questions.

Hmmm I just wanna put it out there that

Who cares if you’re ‘inherently evil’ (which is a concept I don’t believe) or more likely, might have a predisposition to antisocial tendencies? You can still change. You can still modify your behavior. It’s never too late to do better. Sure, maybe there’s stuff you can’t fix, but you can still do better.

"Touya loves his dad" and "Touya hates his dad" both don't get the full picture. Dabi loves the IDEA of Enji as his father but he HATES the person Enji is. Any love he has is for the idea of what his father *should* be or *should* have been and his hatred is based on the reality of who Enji is as a person

happy womens day everybody

Still laughing at endeavors “disguise”, I see where dabi gets it from

Masters of disguise - Todoroki family edition:

Enji, Rei and Fuyumi are all partial to silly hats, Shouto and Touya both change hair colors and Natsuo’s disguise is that nobody ever gives a shit about him…

‘She wasn’t a good mother’ great are we evaluating this character trait as one of her many facets or are we just damning her for not being the most maternal womanliest woman who ever womaned

this game is good actually bc Dabi starts negging you every time you try to level him up

A+ game mechanic

I wanted to do a speedpaint for this drawing but didn’t in the end.

Why are you acting like it was Endeavor’s idea to face AFO instead of Dabi? It was part of All Might and Hawks’ game plan and even Shoto had a part in convincing him.

Yes, by all means let’s blame Hawks, All Might and Shouto of all people.

After all, when Shouto held out his hand to Endeavor to team up one month ago in the hospital, Endeavor didn’t just turn around and ditch him without a word

And when Shouto tried to text him like - dad, did you forget about me, Endeavor obviously didn’t ghost him

And when Shouto asked again, Endeavor didn’t immediately make it about himself and admit that he took it more as an inspirational “I support you dad”

And when Shouto gave him another chance surely he jumped on it immediately, right?

And Shouto was jumping for joy that his dad wouldn’t come along surely? That he broke yet another promise to the family?

And of course even if Endeavor tried to find Touya, it would have been impossible because he was so cautious hiding and never out in the open right? Almost begging to be found?

Poor Endeavor, he was trying so hard to do the right thing, but a wingless bird, a quirkless skeleton guy and his youngest child bullied him so he couldn’t.

You are really funny.