“The world taught woman nothing skillful and then said her work was valueless. It permitted her no opinions and then said she did not know how to think. It forbade her to speak in public, and said the sex had no orators. It denied her the schools, and said the sex had no genius. It robbed her of every vestige of responsibility, and then called her weak. It taught her that every pleasure must come as a favor from men, and when to gain it she decked herself in paint and fine feathers, as she had been taught to do, it called her vain.”
-Carrie Chapman Catt, 1902
"Defining women as "adult human females" is so limiting"
Literally how? It's just defining the most basic physical traits, and you have complete freedom from there. "Adult human female" prescribes nothing about personality, interests, values, style, talents, skills, careers, or capabilities. Defining womanhood or non-womanhood as a feeling based on stereotypes of gender, meanwhile, is EXACTLY what I'd call "limiting."
full research:
https://www.telegraph.co.uk/news/2024/03/08/trans-identification-skew-crime-statistics/
Chances are, you’re not fridgid or asexual- patriarchy probably killed your natural, healthy sexuality.
Things that ruin the sexuality of women:
1. Habitually forcing yourself to have sex you don’t want to have out of duty + obligation.
2. Habitually having sex with someone who is selfish and only cares about their pleasure.
3. Being treated like an object or treating yourself like an object (getting all your pleasure out of being desired, never thinking about what you desire/find physically attractive or what feels good to you)
4. Sexual abuse, rape, exploitation and being exposed to violent kinks.
5. Habitually having sex totally disconnected from emotional intimacy and care.
6. Having sex with someone who disrespects you, disregards your needs, emotionally neglects you or full blown abuses you on a daily basis.
7. Participating in sex work. Biggest kept secret is that women who have sex for work are prone to becoming sex repulsed.
REAL sex positivity for women would come from addressing these issues. But we don’t hear about it. 👂🏽🚫
Keep on running up that hill, ladies.
“the most confident women i know are women with short natural nails”
reminds me of that one video that went viral recently where the woman was saying something along the lines of “i only take advice from women who have a full bush” and it’s crazy that most of the comments tend to agree but only a few are pinpointing why that might be. like hmm… i wonder what it is about a woman who doesn’t adhere to unnecessary beauty standards and simply lives in her life in natural body without wasting the mental/physical/emotional energy it takes to endlessly spend money on hair removal nails makeup etc and WHY it makes her more confident in her body as a dignified human being
i wonder what it is!
I hope this is fine with the OP, but I wanted to make my own seperate post about this subject.
That is why I feel as if misogyny is so rampant. I feel as if misogyny is truly the backbone of society. It has the most equal ratio between the oppressor and oppressed, plus the nature of our sexes being to work together for procreation. Therefore, men did their best to separate women, to alienate them from one another. Many women feel more connected to the male of their race or ethnicity when compared to a woman of another race or ethnicity. Many women are taught to be hostile to other women. We see this a lot with the constant attacks on white women instead of white PEOPLE. White women can be very racist and uphold white male supremacy (another facet of alienation of women. White women want to be white men's best version of "woman" and, therefore, attack WOC) but it confuses me why I see white women as a sole demographic in most cases. It feels as if its an excuse to morally surrender a group of women to leftist men without hurting the feelings of the white leftist men who also oppress minorities and women. It's also a way to appease men who, despite characteristics they are oppressed for, still hate white women on the basis of them being women. I'm not saying white women are innocent little babies, but my point is that women are taught to attack women on the basis of womanhood to appease males of all kinds. We constantly downplay an aspect of our female experience because to us it is just innate. Feminism, to most who are more liberal feminists, is just about becoming a humanely treated animal that a man owns. To identify with him but as a subset of him. If women started to identify with each other across race, sexuality, and disability, men know we would overthrow their control. Humans were meant to be a matriarchy, so they isolated women from their fellow leaders.