YESSSSSSS

I know I go on fuck terf rampages every couple of months, but it's really alarming how many people in the ex cath and Christian tags have "terfs dni" in their bio and yet interact with and reblog posts from terfs!!

it can be hard to spot dogwhistles, but if you consider yourself an ally to trans women you have to make the effort. here are my tips for spotting terfs:

(disclaimer: i am a white, transmisogyny exempt trans lesbian, from a very white part of the united states. i was raised catholic, clearly am not anymore.)

If on desktop, download shinigami eyes. This is a browser extension that shows transphobic people in red, and trans allies in green.

Block the tags "radical feminism", "gender critical", and "terf safe". when these posts pop up on your feed, you can usually find a whole chain of terfs to block.

red flags in bios: excessive use of the word female; the word goddess; most mentions of vagina, vulva, or womb; the phrase "gender critical"; mentions of pagan goddesses (more on this below)

i have less than 100 followers on this blog, so i understand that this is not viable for people with larger followings, but if you take 30 seconds to search the word "trans" on a new follower's blog, you see either positive or negative posts about trans people.

another common red flag i see a lot is defensiveness over whiteness. i saw a post recently in the ex christian tag that said "well i am white and live in a predominantly white area but i am still oppressed by the patriarchy!!" and when i went to her blog she ticked off every point on this list.

i specifically mentioned pagan deities earlier. i know that a lot of people, once they have left christianity, jump into pagan religions and they find a lot of solace in them. most of these people are fine. but there is so much rampant transmisogyny, misognoir, and antisemitism in the pagan and witchcraft community, that anyone who advertises this on their blog instantly becomes a red flag to me (and I'm usually right).

I really implore everyone in the ex christian and ex catholic community here on tumblr to start taking action, and start blocking terfs. don't engage, don't argue with them, DO NOT GIVE THEM A PLATFORM, just block them, tell your friends to block them, and move on.

Can you really present Christian weddings as monogamous when they're inherently throuples?

There's you, there's God, and there's your side-person, oh right. The term is spouse.

I ship dis fellow and dis fellow. They are gay.

Call that a disfellowship

Please assign me a pokemon!

yamper :))

Yes please @ me if you do!

HEY TAKE MY PASTA UQUIZ AND SEE HOW MANY TYPES OF PASTA YOU KNOW

HERE

I worked so hard on it I even added descriptions to the answers

I'm a woman only in an occupational sense. Like a class in a video game. Sure I've studied the role and experienced the day to day, but it's not what I am as a person. I'm just a little guy. A dude perhaps. I don't understand why everyone is so insistent on making this random accumulation of expectations part of their very essence.

Okay but shout out to religious trauma/cult survivors who don't have the most talked about no-nuanced "I'm an atheist now" response to everything. There's definitely a sense that if you go from one state of believing in a god/religion to another that you're somehow weaker than other survivors or that you're trapped in a cycle, and whilst it is good to look for patterns found in your original religion, I don't think this is the case at all.

Like, if you worship another god now, if you found some other spiritual practice that's soothing, or if you just don't know what is out there and just kind of vaguely pray to anyone who might be out there, you're not delusional* or dictated only by your trauma. You're allowed to believe again, if you want to, in whatever helps you.

(* being delusional isn't a bad thing to be btw)

happy kagepro day!!!!