When You First Started Working With Deities Were You Scared? How Did You Know If They Wanted To Work

Deity Disconnect Got You Down?

Disclaimer: This is a more personal post and involves a bit of UPG.

I didn't start witchcraft by doing deity work, in fact, I just started actively working with deities in the last two years! Before that, the only experience I've had with a god was the Christian God, but even then I only interacted with him* in the way that I was taught to: You pray to him but he probably won't respond. I was even told when I asked why God doesn't answer me, "That's just not how God works"...

This is no slight towards Christian witches, as I know they interact with the Christian God differently than non-witchy Christians and I would never claim to know their relationships with him.

However, due to this upbringing, I didn't know how to interact with deities. I had to unlearn what I had been taught about interacting with a god.

One of the things I had to unlearn is that, unlike how I was taught growing up, many deities aren't always going to be there to talk to you, they're a lot more human-like than we think. They aren't like how the Christian God is said to be: always there, always watching. w

I got scared when the interactions with my deities started to wane/ I wasn't feeling them or hearing from them as often and I started to worry that they'd abandoned me. That's not true! As with any relationship, there are times when you can't always be with someone, it's totally normal to go days, weeks, and even months without hearing from your deities. That doesn't mean that you've been left behind!!

So if you're feeling disconnected from your deities here are some things to keep in mind:

Just because they aren't always around doesn't mean they aren't always there for you.

Call them when you need them if you don't feel like they're around at the moment. Gods are used to being called to by humans, it won't offend them.

They may not show up right away sometimes. They are feeling, thinking beings, they have their own will and generally act accordingly to said will.

Deities are allowed to step back. If they feel the need to take a break from your relationship, or simply not interact with you as much, then that's just fine!

It's not always a reflection of you, your character, or your craft. Sometimes they just want to take a break and that's perfectly fine!

Sometimes, the problem is that we are too busy and we put our relationships with our deities on the back burner. In this case, most of the time, in my experience, they understand and if they need to reach out to you they will find a way.

If you feel like you've been disconnected from your deities and would like to take some actions to reconnect, here are some ideas:

Read up on their mythology. Even if you've read it all before, give yourself a bit of a refresher!

Do some divination. I use tarot but you can use whichever form works best for you. Use tsk the deity what you can do to reconnect with them.

Talk to them. Even if you feel like they aren't around, just talk to them. Tell them how you feel, how your day went, and tell them you want to reconnect. You can also write to them.

Give them an offering. Since this post is focused on reconnecting with deities, you probably already know which offerings your patrons prefer. So give them an offering and let them know you're thinking of them!

Do something that makes you feel more connected to that deity. This could be going on a walk, making a certain food item, creating art, playing a movie, and so on. Just do something that makes you feel closer to them.

All in all, everyone's experiences with Deities and Deity work is going to be unique to the person, as with any relationship in life. Do what works best for you, this is just a post to help remind people that deity work isn't always having your life fully devoted to a deity. Most of us aren't able to put that much of our time or energy into deity work. If you can and want to, that's perfectly okay, too!

*I was raised using he/him pronouns for the Christian God as that was how he manifested in my life and upbringing. However, I am aware that there are folks who choose to use other pronouns for the Christian God and I'm not disregarding nor disrespecting that. Use whatever pronouns for your chosen deities as you want, Christian God or otherwise. <3

TAROT TRICKS: How to Avoid Blanking When Reading

To truly master tarot, you have to put in the time to learn the cards’ traditional and evolved meanings. You cannot rely on your intuition alone. That would be cheating. But, when you are a total beginner, your intuition could somehow be your tutor.

1) Use common sense.

Read the room, so to speak. Observe the mood of the card or the spread. Look at the facial expressions. The colors. The setting. The atmosphere.

This way, if the question is, “Does he love me?” and you get the Nine of Swords, you do not have to remember that card’s meanings.

You only have to look at the card and see that the figure in it is stressed, not happy. The color of it is black – a shade of negativity. The background has a bunch of swords hanging on someone’s head, like a threat.

Does this card look like someone who is in love? Not at all. You have your answer.

2) Refer to the name.

The Major Arcana is a cheat sheet in itself. The cards’ names contain their meanings.

What is a magician? Someone who can do magic. Therefore, in most cases, The Magician means having magic in your life, such as a wish come true or a last-minute miracle. Anything wonderful.

Who is the devil? Someone bad and evil. Therefore, The Devil is usually someone who has sinister plans. You are being warned against a toxic person, a dangerous situation, or self-sabotage.

When it comes to the Minor Arcana, all you have to do is remember what each suit means. Wands are passion. Cups are emotions. Swords are thoughts. Pentacles are foundations. When looking at a card, replace the suit names with the above. Suddenly, the Ten of Pentacles becomes the Ten of Foundations. That is, someone incredibly stable.

3) Form a sentence.

Remember this basic sentence structure: Subject-verb-object. Jason drank juice. Andy bought books. Stefan punishes bullies. Read spreads as such. Below is a nine-card spread read from top to bottom.

Queen of Pentacles + The Star + Two of Cups. “A woman (subject) wishes (verb) for love (object).”

The Empress + Six of Cups + The Lovers. “She (subject) will receive (verb) it (object).”

Knight of Wands + Six of Pentacles + Ace of Cups. “A Fire sign (subject) will give (verb) it (object).”

This way, you do not need to spend ages on interpreting one card. Instead, you are allowing them to interact and give you one coherent message.

4) Turn to basic math.

If you do not know anything yet about tarot numerology, remember your lessons in kindergarten. The bigger the number, the better. Would you rather have five chocolate bars or ten?

It is the same with tarot. Bigger often means better. The Nine of Cups is the card of satisfaction. But satisfaction fades. The Ten of Cups is the card of fulfilment. Something full takes longer to be drained.

When it comes to negative cards, the same is still true, except “better” becomes “worse”. The Nine of Swords is ridden with anxiety. But the Ten of Swords is reeking of death. Anxiety can get better, but death is final.

This even applies to the Major Arcana. But for that to make sense, you will need a deeper understanding of The Fool’s Journey – how the cards, even the negative ones, progress in wisdom and maturity.

5) Zero in on a detail.

When you are feeling overwhelmed by the amount of cards and their meanings, focus on just one detail to get rid of your confusion.

If the question is, “How will my finances be for 2022?” and you pull the Queen of Wands, focus on the throne, for example.

Do poor people sit on thrones? No. Only royals do. Royals are rich. They own jewels, land and castles. Therefore, the querent’s finances in 2022 are looking positive.

Direct your thoughts towards one object within a card, and start speaking about what that object generally represents. Simply voice out your thoughts, and you will arrive at the message.

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It’s amazing how in just about three years of practicing witchcraft, I’ve gone from the mindset of “I must follow every single thing that other witches post online,” to “I’m doing what I want.”

The Amulet of Samarkand, Jonathan Stroud//Small Favors, Erin A. Craig//Spirited Away: Themes, SparkNotes//Incantation (2022), Kevin Ko

Candle colors and their meanings

White: Purification, new beginnings, healing, spiritual growth, lunar work, and can also substitute for any color if needed. 

Black: Banishing negative energy, breaking habits, protection, and binding.

Red: Passion, love, power, vitality, strong energy, and the element of fire.

Blue: Peace, element of water, emotional healing, truth, and justice. 

Yellow: Element of air, arts, communication, focus and intuition, fresh ideas and inspiration. (As a writer and artist, I like to use this fairly often).

Green: Money magick, growth, prosperity, health, and any nature working.

Orange: Ambition and creativity, career workings, strength and individuality. (This is another candle I use frequently).

Purple: Psychic matters, divination, astral travel, and connecting with unseen realms.

Pink: Emotional well-being, sensuality matters of the heart, compassion, self love, attracting love, and forgiveness. 

Grey: Neutrality and balance, protection, and to gain discernment.

Brown: Grounding, emotional stability, balance, and trust.

Silver: The moon, psychic receptivity, dreaming, love, rest, and healing.

Gold: The sun, wealth, confidence, willpower, generosity, and optimism.

the philosophy of fluidity, the steady balancing flow, within all, the hidden symmetry, the asymmetric elegance, behind such: the internal dynamics, the reflective resolution, traversing one, our innermost aura, the steps of the soul, as pure as our lucidity; the dreamless infinity, beyond the self & beyond the soul, eternal.

persist with consistence