Praying That $1500 Randomly Comes To You When You Need It The Most This Year.

Just in case you were feeling discouraged.

I’m tired of older sex workers discouraging younger sex workers. Like I’m trying to tour Newyork and La soon. It will be my first time going there. So I go in this sex worker group chat I’m in asking some hotel recommendations. Here comes this lady trying to talk down on me saying “You won’t do well in Newyork or I tried New York and I lost so much money when I toured.” Mind you I’m already nervous to your alone but the last thing I want to hear is me not doing well. So I quietly just remove myself from the group chat and go about my business. I’m not going to waste my energy going back and fourth with this lady. Just because you didn’t do well won’t mean I won’t do well. I don’t know is it because your age or persona that didn’t make the cut but I’m already getting inquiries and prebookings. I don’t know if it’s a jealousy thing or she just wanted to disturb my spirit.

What Makes Her Classy?

When it came to refining my image, I knew instantly what persona I wanted to portray: The Classy Lady. I wanted potential clients to take one look at my photos and know automatically that the purchase of my companionship would not be cheap. 

But I also didn’t want just any client either. Just because he has the money doesn’t mean we would be a great match. For example, I’m not great with young guys or partiers. So I wanted guys of that type to take a look at my pictures and know that we most likely wouldn’t be a good match as well. I’m most compatible with romantics and laidback, professional types. 

I knew my persona. I knew my ideal client. But there was a problem:

I wasn’t quite sure how to depict this in my photos.

I need my photos to do most of the “talking” for me (because we know men don’t always read your blog, site, ad, etc. but they always look at the pictures). 

So I begin browsing various providers’ sites that I felt emulated the persona that I wanted to portray. And were most likely getting the type of clientele that I’m aiming for.

Once I gathered enough pictures, I asked myself, what is it about her pictures/album/gallery that makes her fit this persona? 

Or to put it bluntly: how the hell do I look high-end in my pictures?!* 

Here’s what I noticed: 

She picks one asset at a time to show off (if she’s showing off her breasts, every other asset is covered up)

The lingerie always matches. And there’s usually stockings and/or a garter belt added as well.

Professional/Quality photos. Even the “candid” photos are clear with lots of lighting. 

Adding “feminine” touches to the pictures like flowers.

Having name brand/designer items in the photos. The red bottoms are shown off (literally). The Chanel bag is in her hand. The Agent Provocateur box is on display. I noticed that this is never “over done”. There’s usually only one noticeable luxury item in the picture and it’s never the focal point. 

Makeup is always kept neutral/natural. The boldest I’ve seen is a red lip.

Hair is styled simply and always looks “touchable”. It’s usually lightly curled.

The surroundings are neat and clean.

No explicit posing (no “spread leg” shots).

Nude pictures are done more “artistically”. Less Playboy. More Italian Vogue. 

Business attire. This is one that I hadn’t really noticed but it’s everywhere. Dresses are knee length or longer. The clothing is “work/office appropriate”.  

Plenty of clothed photos. In some cases, I’ve noticed some providers would almost have as many clothed pictures as lingerie or nudes photos. Almost. 

Few casual pictures. Obviously if you’re going for “girl next door”, this wouldn’t apply. However, I’ve noticed that there will be one, maybe two pictures of her dressed “casually”, i.e. jeans and a t-shirt. The majority of the clothed pictures will be taken in skirts, dresses, business attire, etc.

Robes. This was another one I hadn’t really noticed at first but almost every provider’s site that I visited there was at least one picture of her in a robe. And it was usually long, flowy and “feminine” (light colors, lace, etc).

Simple jewelry. Or no jewelry at all. 

If anyone else is using this persona (or plans to), feel free to add to the list!

*Yes, I’m aware that there’s more than one way to look “high-end” and that not every provider wants to portray this image. There are multiple personas that a provider may embody such as Playboy/bombshell, girl next door, bad girl, etc. However, because this is the persona I’ve chosen, this is the “look” that I’m focusing on.

Slowly cracking the code on how to sugar via Yelp🔥

Will update in a week or so after testing it out a little more!

Sugar Baby Tip: Allowance Talk

$1k/month= $12k/yr after tax is the same value of $17k/yr before tax

$3k/month= $36k/yr after tax is the same value of  $51k/yr before tax

$5k/month= $60k/yr after tax is the same value of $ $86k/yr before tax

$10k/month= $120k/yr after tax is the same value of $171k/yr before tax

                           WHY IS THIS IMPORTANT?

$1K/month= SD/SM NEEDS a GROSS income of at LEAST $85k/yr

$3k/month= SD/SM NEEDS a GROSS income of at LEAST $255k/yr

$5k/month= SD/SM NEEDS a GROSS income of at LEAST $430k/yr

$10k/month= SD/SM NEEDS a GROSS income of at LEAST $855k/yr

                                 WHY IS THIS IMPORTANT?

Gross Income= the total amount a person makes before taxes.

So BEFORE discussing allowance ask your suitor the EXACT TITLE of their profession. You don’t have to ask for the company they work for blah, blah, blah, because then they may think you’re crazy/stalker type. Let them voluntarily release sensitive information like that or pick it up in context clues.

Once you have the title, research it. Do A LOT of research. If they bring up allowance before you have had time to research their profession, give them some bs excuse like ” I know it’s a sensitive topic, but also relative to our relationship, but for now let’s continue to get to know each other to make sure we are compatible and the allowance will follow.” It gets you brownie points and untitles you money hungry b****, even though we all are secretly. Lolz. But you know what I mean

How do you phone reverse?

It’s easy-First you want to google the number using quotations as in “444-44-4444” - That will allow searches of all the variations of that number.The searches should provide you with all the results were the number appears or is registered .Spokeo is a golden mine. The service costs 0.99 the search or 7$ the month - it will allow you to reverse any number and find the name, address, criminal charges, property records ect.The free option of Spokeo only gives you the carrier it is registered to, and the location of the user (which is sometimes all you need to back up someone’s story)But if you want to go free - They are far better options- White Pages : my favorite - it is a people and public record search. It allows a phone reverse search or simply a name search. It provides you with name , criminal records (as little as traffic ticket), employers, education, address (city-state), and relatives (if registered)- Anywho: another alternative to White Pages with weekly updated database - same information provided.-Www.addresses.com offers similar services- Spydialer: one of my personal favorites. It allows reverse with cellphone names and even emails (you can use that option to see which other site the emails was linked with and find linkedin facebook ect) - Spydialer will also provide available pictures (another fact-check)-ReversePhoneLookUp.com : it does not always come up with accurate results and in that case it will provide general location - call complaints and phone service.While it works better with landlines than cells - it offers : name, location of number registration, email and owner’s address.

If none of these work - Social media is your best bet- Facebook: simply type the number in the facebook search bar. If it associated to an account, the latter will pop up regardless of privacy settings or friends status (you don’t need to send them a friend request to view the profile to which the number is linked to)

Hope this helps.If you have any other questions please feel free to ask me !

Capitol xoxo

“you’ll never meet another girl like me again. i can promise you that”.

“you seem very sure of yourself”.

“yes, because understand, there’s no other girl in the world quite as perfect as me”.

do it like tomie affirmations.

people just look at me and become murderously infatuated with me to the point that they’ll do anything for me and i absolutely take advantage of that.

compared to my beauty no one’s even on the scale.

there’s no better pleasure than to live as a beauty.

i have everyone hypnotised into a loving trance with my beauty so that they will do anything for me.

my only real interest is myself.

i’m so used to people just being immediately in love with me and doing exactly what i want.

i’m frequently described as almost impossibly beautiful by those i meet.

my mere presence seems to drive people to become fixated on me, positively.

the more i look at myself, the more beautiful i look.

mark my words, you’ll never find another girl of my caliber.

i’m the prettiest girl everyone has ever seen.

my beauty captivate people utterly.

i’m the protagonist of the world.

people will never stumble on another girl as beautiful as me.

not even the highest quality camera can capture a tenth of my beauty.

when people see me all they can think about is “what a bewitching girl”.

i have the ability to seduce people to do my bidding.

through my perfect tactics of seduction i eventually draw any person to fall in love with me.

my beauty’s eternal.

poor thing, it’s a pity you weren’t born with my natural charms.

everywhere i go people can’t take their eyes off me, not even for a second.

everyone desperately confesses their immense love for me.

my beauty’s otherworldly and everyone agrees.

people worships the ground i walk on.

“this woman has this… strange supernatural power. they’ll do anything for her – even murder if she asks for it”.

I’m not a sugar baby anymore (hence the name change).

Formerly sugarbabynola, After almost 2 years in the bowl and 3 SDs later I’m giving up the whole pretense of the bowl. I started escorting last year and was mixing the two but I’ve finally decided to just settle on being a full time paid whore. I don’t have the patience for being a sugarbaby anymore, I don’t have the patience for men in general. Being an escort is fast, freeing and to the point. Men know that if they want to see me they HAVE to pay and they HAVE to pay whatever my rate is. No more trying to get money from men who don’t want to give it and it’s like pulling teeth to get a small £100 for groceries. Escorting has been a much better way for me to get money from men and we immediately both know what the stitch is. They’re here to have sex and a good time and I’m here to get money and leave. Two people leave happy and most of the time will see each other again, and again. Until I’m looking for something serious, I won’t be entering the bowl again. For now, I’m sticking to freestlying and escorting.

I freestlye for clients too. I go to hotels and get a drink at the bar and just wait. When I’m approached I lay the sexy on thick and get them talking about sex. I show them a few pictures on my website and say something like, “trust me I know every devilish way to make your toes curl” simultaneously showing them a picture of me with my nipples peaking through my lingerie or something. 8/10 the men give in and ask how much it’ll cost to spend the night with me. I double my rate and they pay it. They’re way too horny to turn me down. After they cum and the realisation sets in that they’ve paid for sex I’m long gone and probably onto the next hotel if the night is still young. Obviously sometimes it doesn’t work this well and they either haggle on price or say no that they don’t pay for sex, sometimes I press harder or I give him a kiss on the cheek and tell him to enjoy his night, depending on the vibe.

Anyway, was just keeping you guys up to date with what this whore is up to. Do what works for you darlings. The bowl is over saturated at this point in time. It seems that when you pretend you don’t want money men think you’re in it for just them and they get offended when you ask for money. But when you put yourself in a position where you demand their money off the bat, they’re more than willing and eager to give it to you.

Men are dumb. Just take their money anyway you can.

Part 2: How to hunt. 

First, I go to the ladies’ room. This gives me the chance to scope out the men at the bar/lounge as I walk by. It will also give you a chance to collect yourself if you’re nervous. If you can (depending on the building’s layout) take the long way back. This will give you more time to look at any potential men and pick out a place to sit. Try to sit in the “middle” of empty seats. Ideally, you’ll want an empty seat to both your left and your right (so men can come and sit next to you).  

As you’re making your way to the bar (and to your chair) if you’ve already spotted a man that seems like he’s potential (and he’s at the bar). WALK PASS HIM AND SMILE SOFTLY AT HIM. He will watch you until you sit down at your seat so do this slowly (and practice at home if you have to). Once you’ve sat down look at him once again IN HIS EYES FOR 1-2 seconds and smile. 8 times out of 10 he will walk over to you (if he doesn’t I’ll explain what to do in the upcoming paragraphs). 

If you haven’t spotted anyone that has any potential yet, that’s fine. Have a seat and order your drink. While you’re waiting for your drink, take a look around. You want to make sure you’ve chosen a good “viewing” spot; somewhere you can see people and people can see you. Do not take your phone out and start tapping away. It’s okay to glance at it every now and then but remember: you’re there so men can talk to you. Gluing your face to the screen not only screams “DON’T TALK TO ME” but you may also miss out on POTS because you can’t see the men coming and going.

So let’s say that you’re sitting alone at the bar and men are coming in and you see someone that has potential (or it was the guy that you were looking at earlier but he hasn’t made his move yet). Look at him for 2 seconds. And if you’re a bit bolder, look at him strait in his eyes for ONE SECOND then slowly look him down AND back up until you reach his eyes again and then turn back around, look straight ahead and take a sip of your drink. Now, depending on how bold he is he’s going to either: 

a). walk up to you and introduce himself, 

b). he’s going to move closer to you or,

c). he’s going to stare or start glancing at you a lot.

If it’s © take a few sips from your drink and then look back over at him. Wait a second or two until he’s looking at you (if he isn’t already) look him in his eyes and smile. This can be a sexy smile or a bubbly smile, whatever you’re natural at. Turn back around and wait. He’s making his way over now. 

And if by chance he’s not, it’s his loss and you don’t want to be dating someone that so’s fucking clueless lol. But seriously, if by chance he’s doesn’t come over, don’t beat yourself up about it. He could be in a relationship. Or gay. Or just received some bad news. Or really insecure. It could be a number of things. Just gather yourself and get ready to do it again. 

However, let’s say that you’ve snagged his attention (because 9 times out of 10 you did) and he’s made his way over to talk to you. What do you say? This will depend on the guy. Some guys love to talk and all you have to do really is nod and smile. But not everyone’s like that. If the guy doesn’t automatically start talking after introductions are out the way, I will break the ice by giving him a compliment. Men hardly ever get complimented and it instantly makes you more likable. 

What to talk about? Most will ask the typical questions “What do you do, do you go to school,etc.” so it’s always good to have pre-planned answers for these. I also take the same question and throw it back at him.  

The biggest takeaway here is that you don’t want to talk too much. Remember that the goal here is that you’re trying to access if this guy is POT material. Plus, if you don’t overshare it makes you look more mysterious. If the guy isn’t a natural talker, you’re going to want to ask open ended questions. Open ended questions are questions that someone can’t really say yes or no to, they have to give more of a detailed answer. There’s a book you can get on Amazon called “Conversationally Speaking” that covers this. I also wrote about this on one of my old blogs, if I can find the post, I’ll send you the link and also edit this post with the link. 

Remember that you want to find out what he does for a living (that’s usually easily done by asking the standard “what do you do?” question) and you want to find out his interests and hobbies. I also think that finding out if he travels a lot is also a good indicator.

When he asks you a question, keep your answer simple and then REDIRECT and bring the conversation back to him. Even if you’re asking him the exact same question he asked you. You want him to do most of the talking.

So, let’s say that so far he’s looking like POT material and you want to keep the conversation flowing. A good way to do that is to pick one of his interests and start asking questions about it. And one of the best things you can say is “OH I’VE ALWAYS WANTED TO KNOW MORE ABOUT [INTEREST] BUT I’VE NEVER MET A MAN THAT COULD TELL ME MORE ABOUT IT” 

And now your work is done because he’s going to talk for the next 30 mins. And all you have to do is nod, smile and laugh. 

Okay, now let’s say that you want to wrap this up. He’s either boring you or you think he’s going to try and get you to come back to the room with him or maybe you’re just tired and you want to go. Or maybe you just want to leave and try another place. I’m not the type of person that can just jump up and tell someone “Oh I’ve gotta go!” But if you’re that type more power to you lol. Usually what I’ll do is excuse myself to the ladies’ room and I’ll either get a friend to text/call me in 10 mins or I’ll use an iPhone app to either send me a fake text message or a fake call in 10 minutes. Or I’ll just call Uber lol.

Which reminds me, whenever someone asks you what brings you to the bar/lounge/whatever ALWAYS TELL THEM YOU’RE MEETING A FRIEND. Or if you’re at a hotel, your friend is in the room and she’s taking forever and a day to get ready. For safety reasons I never like to tell someone (especially a man) that I’m somewhere by myself. 

You also get to use the “friend” as an excuse for when you’re ready to go. 

Don’t just get his cell phone number. The goal is to get the business card.

Sometimes I think it might be a tell when you ask for the card. Maybe that’s just me being paranoid or maybe I just look transparent when I’m asking. Who knows. But because of my uneasiness of asking for the card outright, I’ve done some odd things to get that card. If you’re more straightforward, good for you. But I’m not built like that so I do odd things lol.

Usually I’ll act like my phone is dead or updating the iOS. I’ve done this a few ways. When I’m ready to wrap things up and I know he’s going to ask for my number I have excused myself to the bathroom, turned my phone off and walked back to my seat and when it’s time for me to get his number I’ll start taping on my phone. “Oh crap, I think my phone is updating. Do you have a business card?” 

I’ve taken 2 phones (with identical cases so no one will notice lol) and when I go to the bathroom, I’ll turn one of them off, put the other one in a hidden compartment in my purse) and then pull out the “dead” one. I know it may seem like I’m doing too much but I always feel like when I ask for the card directly I’ve just outed myself as a gold digger lol. But that’s just me.

FYI – If you want to do this trick and you only have one phone make sure your uber/lyft has called you before you do this lol.

This also works if he leaves first. While he’s getting my number (make sure he’s getting your number first), I will grab my phone and indiscreetly turn it towards me and turn it off. And “Omg, my phone just went off to do that update thing – do you have a business card?” 

I have done some off the wall stuff to get that card.😆 But I can’t research “John who works at Wells Fargo” with a cell phone number that 10 other people have had before him. But I can research “John B. Smith - Assistant Director at Wells Fargo” with his work email address and phone numbers all over that card.

Okay, I think I covered free-styling at a bars/lounges- but I want to mention one more thing. Never leave your drink unattended. Safety first.   

I’m back and better