I Always Get Skeptical Of A Client Who Request To See Me At 11pm But Don’t Want To Screen Or Send A

how does this sound "Hey, I've viewed your profile and I see that we have similar interests and needs, if you're interested message me back." i really appreciate your help btw ;;

It sounds really boring. So boring in fact that your message is only a word or two different from the generic statement that SA attaches to “winks.” Since joining SA I’ve easily sent over 300 spam messages to POTs yet I’ve only been called out with “Is this a collect message?” or “Nice generic message” twice. If I ever sent out your version, I think that number would increase tenfold, or I’d simply be outright ignored. Likewise, whenever POTs send me messages like this, I know that they’re merely sending me an ounce more effort than a wink and are messaging 40 other women that same note.

Why I message

Realistically, everyone on these sites is talking with multiple people at once, but as humans we love to feel uniquely noticed. So the two key things I try to remember for an initial spam message are to stroke the ego and elicit interest. You’re doing a really great job with taking initiative but now it’s time to crank up your messages and get the responses you want and deserve, girl!

Think of an initial message like a voicemail. If you get a voicemail saying, “Hey it’s Andy. Call me back.” You’ll be like what does this bitch want? If you get a voicemail saying, “Hey, gorgeous. It’s Andy! Haven’t heard from you in a while. I have the FUNNIEST story to tell you. You’re gonna die. Call me back some time tonight before 10pm or else I’ll be asleep. Can’t wait to hear from you. Bye!” What are the key differences here? The first one lacks motive or reason and has no sense of urgency. You have no idea why Andy called or what he wants. Consequently, it’s not enticing and it’ll either take you hours/days to call Andy back or you’ll text him and say “Hey got your voicemail. What’s up?” You never want a POT to have to ‘What’s Up’ (aka wtf do you want) you! When people write on their profiles “Not a fan of endless emails/texting” THIS IS WHY. Make your point and make sure your point is a good one! The second voicemail not only makes the point but it leaves the receiver begging for more. What’s Andy’s story? I’ve got to hear it! I might even walk out in the middle of class just to call Andy back and hear what he has to say. This is the difference between a green check next to ‘sent messages’ and an inbox full of responses.

When I Message

On SA, there’s a daily quota of how many messages you can send so choose wisely! Winks are unlimited per day, but as I mentioned above, they are the crutch of the lazy and unimaginative. Your words carry much more clout! Rather than wasting messages on men who are too cheap/indecisive to pay for a premium membership, always make sure that the yellow “Premium” is highlighted on the banner on his profile. This way he can actually see, read, and respond to your messages!

How I Message

This might go without saying, but don’t waste your time reaching out to splenda, salt, and meatsuits. Just because BigDickDaddy69 lives 10 minutes away from you and has a million dollar income doesn’t mean meeting with him will be worth your time (but if you want a free dinner, go for it girl!). READ THEIR PROFILES. Ctrl + F for “sex”, “kinky”, “stamina”, and other TRIGGER WARNING: TACKY AS FUCK words. If he’s in the clear, move on to extracting tidbits about him that you find interesting – his career, places he’s visited, sports he’s into, activities he loves, etc. Ctrl + T his profile in a tab right next to the message you’re writing for him so that you can refer back to it quickly if need be (I say this because Doctor is technologically challenged and idk you might be too lol). While spamming out your daily email quota should not take more than 30-60 minutes and you are not here to write each individual man an ode, you do want to have some specifics.

Who I message

Assuming I’ve found a premium member who is not a meatsuit, there are two categories that he’ll fall in: Silent Sam and Fun Freddy.

Silent Sam is the standard SA user who, for reasons of extreme discretion, novice sugar profile experience, weak self-selling game, or all three, lacks a well-defined profile. His About Me and About You are brief and vague with phrases like “let’s talk”, “message me for more”, “Handsome, fit, gentleman seeks SB”, “looking for a mutually beneficial arrangement” or other NO DUH type shit. He may have little to no photos, or, worse, have several tailored-suit or beach bod selfie shots thinking that his looks speak for him. He is probably using a vague username like “NYCbanker” or a fake name like “Mike.” Although his hazy wants and needs are frustrating, he is not to be discounted for reasons such as his high income/net worth, high allowance (or it may be open/negotiable but his income is high enough), handsome photos, or ideal location. Thus, I conclude that Silent Sam has the potential to be a good SD and simply needs me to extract this from him.

Fun Freddy, unlike Silent Sam, details his love of Russian ballet and need for an SB who shares it at length on his profile. Indeed, his wants, needs, hobbies, etc. are described explicitly on his About Me and About You which are each a solid one or two paragraphs at least. He may have several photos, or still have little to none for needs of discretion or otherwise. Like Silent Sam, his income/net worth, allowance, and location work well for you but he has a leg up on Sam in that his personality and ideal arrangement align with yours as well.

What I message

(I’ve italicized the template and the rest is just content I scraped from his profile)

Subject: Hey there, (Sam/handsome/nothing if he has no name or photos)! :)

Body: SO jealous that you live in Neptune! It’s a mere four planets away from me so I drive out often for the amazing rock climbing scene. Do you dabble in that at all? Unfortunately there’s not much of that on Earth where I’m from but it’s probably my favorite hobby. Have you ever been to Earth before? As a Management Consultant, I’m sure that you travel to several fun planets and I can tell there’s a ton I’d love to pick your brain about as I too enjoy sight-seeing in various corners of our galaxy. I’ve enjoyed your profile thus far and would love to hear a bit more about you and your ideal arrangement sometime soon.

Cheers,

Kelly Clarkson

^ Silent Sam is more time-consuming to message because you have to pull teeth to fatten up your template. You can’t spew generic compliments like “You’re so handsome!” or “You seem like a fun, active guy” when you have no idea about either. You must rely a bit more on speculation. But this message does a great job of inserting yourself into the narrative of his life. Now he knows that you’re available to meet for coffee in Neptune often. He knows you love to travel and he doesn’t have to feel shy about asking you to join him on his bi-weekly business trips to Pluto. You also shoot him a few questions highlighting your interest in his life and give him action-steps (tell me more about yourself and your arrangement) to steer the conversation where you want to go and to give HIM a template for how to respond. Nothing worse than a message from a guy that says “How are you?” right? Ugh! This makes YOU have to do all of the guesswork. Don’t be that guy. Save your busy CEO the trouble and give him three or four key points to come back at you with, which will be helpful as you’re trying to learn more about him in spite of his blank ass profile. Ultimately, this message shows that you’re impressed with him all off of a few words that he wrote down – what an incentive to divulge more!

Subject: Hey there, (Fred/handsome/nothing if he has no name or photos)! :)

I couldn’t help but gush over your profile! Not only are your photos absolutely scrumptious, but you write so eloquently! It’s evident that you are an intelligent, successful, well-traveled gentleman who knows how to have a lot of fun. We definitely share a lot of values and passions in common. I LOVE that you’re a veterinarian – I have two puppies myself. What made you want to study that line of medicine?Your photo line-dancing was very handsome! Have you ever tried salsa before? If not, I’ll simply have to teach you as it is my favorite form of dance :) You seem like you’d be an absolute blast to spend time with and I’d love the chance to find that out for myself. Can’t wait to hear more about you and your ideal arrangement soon!

Xoxo,

Beyonce

^ This dude could be the most boring guy in the world but I’m still gonna what? Stroke that ego! I act like his profile blew me away. Best I’ve read since I joined the site. He worked really hard to craft those paragraphs so I reward him accordingly. As Drake says, “I’m telling every girl she’s the one for me, when I ain’t even planning to call.” Make him think that you think that he is the shit! You might be wary of doing so because then he’ll think you’re puddy in his hands, but it really has the opposite effect. These men get dozens of messages that commit the below-mentioned offenses (or are boring like yours lol) and to read from someone passionate, exciting, and lively is a breath of fresh air. Remember the voicemail thing. If you have ten “Hey call me back” voicemails and one enthusiastic, inquiring, fun voicemail, who are you going to call back first? The more interest I show in him, the happier and more inclined to learn about me he will be. Moreover, just like your message to Silent Sam, you’re seeking to insert yourself in the narrative of his life by allowing him to envision you two salsa dancing together. Once you plant this image in his mind, he’ll simply have to make it a reality!

AN INITIAL MESSAGE IS NOT THE TIME FOR:

Rapid-fire interrogation into his merits as an SD OR to bring up how much allowance I want.

“Hey there, John! I’ve loved your profile. So tell me, what brings you to SA rather than a more traditional site such as eHarmony? Have you ever been a sugar daddy before? If so how much allowance did she get? And why did it end? Can’t wait to hear back from you!”

^Hey there, SB, you’re hot. Why are you on SA? Do you like older men a lot? The harrier the better? How many older men have you been with? Did you let them do anal? How deep? ………………..Are you uncomfortable yet? This neither strokes the ego nor elicits interest. Instead, I pocket these key questions for the next message or two. Like real dating, sugar dating is about a personality match initially so I start off seeing what we have in common and then (soon, don’t wait forever) move on to see if our arrangement expectations align. As so many SBs say, treat him like a person, not an ATM.

Regurgitation my entire profile.

“Hey there, John! I’m a fun, sexy, college student at University of Tampa who is majoring in psychology. I love to dance, travel, and play with my cats. I keep in shape by running four miles a day and I’m training for my first marathon coming up this summer. Blah. Blah. Blah. Copy and paste from my profile.”

^After a guy reads my message, he will immediately go to your profile to learn more about me. So let’s give him more to learn! Don’t just say everything you’ve already said before. Your profile should do the telling and your message should do the showing. If you say you’re fun, flexible and like to travel – show it! This probably won’t elicit interest since it’s not anything he couldn’t find from just reading your profile. And it certainly doesn’t do anything to stroke the ego since it’s all about you.

Ultimatums.

“Hey there, John! I’m a fun, sexy, college student who is looking for a man to spend time with two to three times a month for wining & dining, enriching experiences, and a mutual beneficial arrangement with, on my part, a monthly allowance of $5000. Is that YOU? :)” ^ It can be tempting to send the latter message because it seemingly weeds out guys who aren’t what I’m looking for, right? Especially since guys send us these messages all the time a la, “I’m not looking to waste either of our time so here’s what I want yada yada yada.” Well these type of gun to the head messages are a big turn-off to a lot of people (especially shy newbies like Silent Sam); it’s better to start light and then delve into what you’re looking for a message or two later. While this message may elicit some interest, if anything, it hurts the ego by measuring this man against my standards right off the bat. Don’t be a salt baby. Don’t make it “Are you good enough for me? Why should I choose you?” But instead “are we good enough for eachother?” (at least not to his face)

SA winks and literal winks “;)” as they are universally tacky and creepy lol.

RECAP, AN INITIAL MESSAGE IS THE TIME TO:

Reveal specifically what I find appealing about a man.

Reveal my fun personality to this man.

Enable him to envision the exponential surge in his quality of life with me as his SB.

If you found these tips helpful, draft a few responses taking my personal experiences into consideration and send me your own ideas again off anon! I’d be happy to tell you if I’m now more enchanted and interested in having you as my SB lol

Ig: creme_de.la_femme

Why does everybody hate on high end companions? Like I will always see hoes that charge 300 or less pick on companions that charge over 500.

Do anybody got so good recommendations for professional photograph retouchers? This man tried to make look like a whole different race 🙃. I told him to just focus on the skin (Smooth it out), Take care of the flyaways and smooth my makeup a bit. Tell me why I look like a whole different skin tone 😂. I was like who is this women? It’s 2020 and y’all still don’t know how to work with black women skintone?

Thank you guys for 143 followers ♥️

Goodbye Tumblr

I wanted to give a 10 page letter but fuck that let’s keep it short and sweet. 

As of today, @strategicho, SbCaribbeanBeauty and @beneficeduvagin will be laid to rest. In my heart, I think this is a perfect time to say bye. Ever since last week,  I had this feeling and I’m ready. Thank you to the people who let me be myself without censorship and embraced me. I went from a curious mind, novice, sugar baby, confident failer, spoiled girlfriend, to a woman who is with a man who sponsors me/gets on my last damn blood vessel nerve and I created a business behind his back and now he wants me to return to being a basic beech again. 

I was offered an opportunity and yeah…THE SUITCASE MUST BE SECURED. 

I didn’t expect this to be emotional but it is. I will genuinely miss you, even the beeches who hate my guts here…I will miss you too.  I’ve intentionally removed myself from my comfort zone and I’m seeing a side of me I always thought I could be but never thought I was worthy of being. My word of advice is to always put yourself as a priority. The situations you have with men/women, make sure you always have something to look forward to when it’s over. Don’t ever take directions from someone who doesn’t know the address to your destination. (me being fake deep) 

If you see anyone who writes in behalf of me or claims to be me issa damn lie. (packs large bag) Meh leaving and meh fah never come back! Poopa Geezus! Kiss mehhh rasssssssss (starts catching the spirit in the bathroom)

 mi hav to leave mon. M'ap kite ou cherie. I LOVE YOU GREEN CARD. Menzami map dispose nan LIRR. Wooooooooy Jezu!

(Vitamin C song starts playing)  As we go on We remember All the times we Had together And as our lives change Come whatever We will still be Hoes forever  

Sugar Profile Photo Inspiration: Jayde Pierce

You see how good her lighting, hair, makeup, angles, background, and outfits are? You see how nicely edited her photos are? This is how you should take photos for your sugar profile. I used Jayde’s photos as inspiration for my own a looong time ago and I gotten a lot more responses on sugar websites, including shitty Seeking Arrangement. 

About the corona virus

When I was a freshman in highschool my grandma would constantly remind us that a famine or virus will rise upon us. She would say that we are truly living in the last days. She predicted a drought, War and diease will wipe out majority of the human population. I always brushed it off thinking she was just some crazy old lady. But now as all these events are starting to unfold I’m starting to believe her.. I’m not saying I’m some crazy spiritual god fearing Christian. But it’s interesting people that have a strong spiritual presence with god or whatever they believe in predicted this stuff will happen eventually. My grandma been stacking up toliet paper, Canned goods, water, non perishable items, weapons, etc for years.

With that being said I’m still going to be a escort and travel for work. If my time come and I die from whatever virus comes upon me then I’m ok with it. I will not live in fear and stop making my money. I don’t really believe the whole ordeal is that bad. I feel like practicing basic hygiene is enough not to get sick. Plus there’s other worse viruses or diseases that can affect your body. But It just mind boggles me how everything she said 4 years ago have come to light. She even said most of this shit will start happening around 2019-2020. All I know if shit does get crazy I know my ass will be good. We stocked up for a couple of years due to her preparing over the years.

Key Differences In Sexes

I was reading this article by Dr. Nick Neave in which he explains how we are born predisposed to search for the best partner, because all of our ancestors before were doing the exact same things.

Here are some key points that stuck out to me.

Females are smaller and weaker than males, so, in prehistoric times, women and their offspring were prone to being the victims of predators and violence. They needed the support and protection of men who didn’t just have brute force but also had social status in the group, either through their sheer physicality or the strength of their personality. That’s why women still look for a mate of higher social standing. If a woman had a relationship with a socially dominant male, she would immediately get greater access to resources because her social standing would be elevated, too. As we shall see, modern surveys consistently show that women today ape [no pun intended?] those inherent characteristics by looking for partners who are socially dominant and have the respect of their peers, paying close attention to how men interact with, and are treated by, other men.

When couples meet at speed-dating events, typically a man will judge a woman on her looks and youth. His priorities are whether she’s healthy, interested in sex, and can give him children one day. He doesn’t care how much she earns or her social status. Typically, however, a woman’s first question will be: ‘What job do you do?’ It sounds a friendly overture, but what she really wants to know is his social position and earning capacity. Is he an industrious, hard worker, capable of providing for her and their children? Because of his power, even the ugliest politician on the planet has women lining up to go to bed with him… As American statesman Henry Kissinger put it: “Power is the ultimate aphrodisiac.”

Women will pick the powerful over the sexy. Neave goes on to quote a study in which the researchers presented women with photographs of men. The first group, described as doctors, wore designer ties, smart shirts, and sported Rolex watches. The second wore plain shirts and Swatch watches and were described as teachers. The third group wore Burger King uniforms. Women repeatedly picked doctors as potential boyfriends — even though many of the men in the third category were actually more handsome. To women, a man’s looks are less important than earning power and social standing.

It’s much less likely that a rich woman, or even a woman of average wealth, would be willing to reproduce with a poor man. He will not be able to support her during pregnancy and help her raise a healthy child. It’s better for a woman to be with a richer man, no matter how ugly he is. Similarly, beautiful women tend to have beautiful children. And the thing about beautiful children is that people treat them better. Not just adults, but also peers and teachers.

So the next time someone calls you a gold digger, whore, slut, or sell out because you want a strong, successful man, read this as a reminder and FUCK them.

Source: Pinterest.