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life has been so hard for me, i don't know how im going to survive. i have no hobbies, no friends and i spend most of my days looking at a screen

sometimes i just want to drop dead

If you want people to make characters that aren’t cishet white men, you have to actually tolerate people making those characters 3 dimensional, rounded characters with both good and bad qualities, otherwise you can’t expect more diversity or representation in fiction because if you bitch and whine about every single female/non-white/non-cishet character not being a perfect precious cinnamon roll capable of no wrong, nobody’s going to want to cater to you and nobody’s going to want to create anything if it’ll just be inevitably torn apart by a bunch of wild animals on some blue website.

An important thread by certified catboy.

Screenshot transcript: Whenever a new bl game or anime or manga or smthn comes out there's always ppl like "I better not see any women read/watch/play this" or "wait till the women get to this" and that is not the allyship to mlm u think it is. That's just misogyny. I say this so many times but you cannot have full queer representation and normalization in media without allowing EVERYONE to read and partake in it. I'm so tired of seeing this performative activism let people enjoy boys kissing. It's not fetishization until it's translated onto real mlm/nblm, by micromanaging who can read what queer media depending on their labels n shit is so sickening man, we WANT queer media to be enjoyed by all, not gatekept and further isolated from others.

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Dark Girly: the Sweet, the Bitter, and the Ugly

Dark girly... a term that seems to incite some sort of argument everytime it's mentioned. Some defend its position as a legitimate substyle, while others say it flat out doesn't exist in the Japanese sphere. I'd like to shed some light on the usage of dark girly in japanese SNS circles pre-2020, what constituted as dark girly, and where exactly does it fall in the lines of being a legitimate term.

Disclaimer: I will not be commenting on anything about jirai-kei and jirai culture, I am simply reporting on the existing usage of dark girly and other similar terms in Japanese SNS. I'll respect your opinion as long as you respect mine. If you have any problem with that then take it to the Japanese people who have used dark girly as a fashion/aesthetic term years ago if you seem to have no problem with taking it to english-speakers using dark girly.

First off, dark girly (ダークガーリー) has been used as an aesthetic term/descriptor even way back as 2013, with the example of Sugar Plum, a now defunct/inactive Japanese handmade shop that created accessories with a self-described dark girly concept. Their accessories featured edgy designs such as Kagome crests (not the Star of David) and crosses with some fantastical dreamy elements to tie in the girly atmosphere.

Though overall, dark girly was most commonly used by the jp fashion community to refer to the unique gothic-like girly styling that Larme sometimes used in their spreads, a morose, almost morbid style of girly kei that was bold and bitter (辛口) instead of mild and sweet (甘口) but still retained a dreamy "fairytale"-like quality (think Brothers Grimm).

But what exactly is dark girly? What makes a dark girly coord? Well girly-style.net (when it doesn't crash for non-Japanese users) defines dark girly as a gothic-inspired girly style, while lafary.net described it as a dark and dolly fashion with mysterious and cute clothes that give off a gloomy atmosphere. The characteristics of the clothing are majority black/dark colorways with little to no sweet colored accents, edgy gothic elements such as cross motifs (similar to things you'll find in gothic lolita), belts and harnesses, chokers, boots, but also accompanied with more romantic elements such as black lace and ribbons to keep with the girly style. Brands associated with the style are the likes of Jamie ank, Tsubasa Masuwaka's EATME, and Ma*rs.

The makeup is relatively bolder than the usual dolly makeup, dark eyeshadow and a deep red/wine colored lipstick is common.

The common view people have about this girly style is that it has a bolder impression than other girly styles. In Japanese fashion, there exists sweet or ama styles and hot/bitter kara styles. Girly kei usually falls under sweet, but dark girly is known for being more bitter with a dash of sweetness. If other girly styles are 75% sweet and 25% bitter, Larme is 50% sweet and 50% bitter, while dark girly is 25% sweet and 75% bitter. So when arranging a dark girly coord you need to consider the amount of "bitterness" you have, too sweet and it just becomes regular girly kei, too bitter and it stops being girly at all.

Now let's rip off the bandaid real quick, dark girly is not a mainstream term. Not as much as otona girly or french girly at least. While you will find a few Japanese articles presenting concepts along the lines of 「ダーク×ガーリー」 or 「ゴシック×ガーリー」, there is no universally agreed term for the girly styling referred to as dark girly. While ダークでガーリー and ダークガーリー are the most common descriptors people use for the style, other names and spellings people have come up with for the style are 黒ガーリー, 闇ガーリー, ゴシックガーリー but those are even rarer than dark girly. You will already have difficulty finding articles about dark girly as a solid girly substyle in Japanese, let alone in English.

But here's the thing, you will also barely find any substantial results looking up rokku gyaru and gothic gyaru, as there are barely any Japanese articles presenting rokku gyaru or gothic gyaru as solid gyaru substyles. Most of the usage of ゴシックギャル and ロックギャル is on SNS, where some gyarus use them as descriptors for their own style, just as jp girly wearers have used dark girly as a descriptor for their own style even if it's not a rock solid term.

I've noticed that there's this tendency in the overseas jfashion community to overcategorize things into separate substyles because they fear straying too much from the standard of a certain style to the point it stops being that style, so they try to make substyles to avoid any overstepping any boundaries of a fashion they might not be familiar with or have any authority over. Jp fashion communities tend to be more lax in terms of substyles (unless you're a lolita). Some choose to clarify they specifically like dark girly fashion, while others just say they like girly fashion even if they primarily only wear dark girly. This also applies to other jfashions like gyaru, decora, and gothic fashion.

So don't knock dark girly till you try it! You're not a poser for using dark girly as a term even if it isn't an "established" one.

im not even in fandom but after seeing small artists getting harassed on twitter for things like this . i couldn’t agree more

I'm allowed to find the interest in incest and underaged shipping a huge red flag and to compare that to religious brainwashing? Especially seeing as I'm someone who is a CSA survivor and survivor of religous abuse? That's vile.

The obsession with other people's shipping is the red flag part. It's not a red flag to dislike some kinds of stories, or to find them disgusting, or to believe that there's something wrong with the people who write or read them.

The problems come when they decided they, personally, have been appointed to "fix the problems" in the fannish community... and target marginalized creators instead of the institutions that those creators are reacting to.

(See them NOT holding protests against Game of Thrones. See them not "cancelling" anyone with an HBO subscription.) (HBO-Max costs about $120/year, but there's no threats against people who pay for that instead of donating to AO3.)

The similarities to religious brainwashing come in when they build communities based on a shared hatred of other people's activities, and go out of their way to (1) harass other people and (2) treat each other as the only good, noble, pure fanfic readers.

Notice the antis NOT reaching out to the Mil-SF communities that don't want any shipping in their fics, just tech and space battles. Notice them not talking to the mainstream romance communities that want non-problematic, happily-ever-after stories. They're not looking for people who share their interests or taste in fiction. They're looking for targets, and they're using that search as a way to force their own members into isolation.

They will insist it's not like religious brainwashing because there is no specific canon, no core scriptures, no specific leaders.

...But the patterns of isolation, abuse, and harassment are absolutely the same kind you find in religious cults.

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