Trans-health - Trans-Health

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re: the dating ppl who recently transitioned poll. I'm t4t and I probably wouldnt date someone who very recently realized they were trans, bc as someone who has been out for a long time (self discovery starting 15 years ago) I often take a mentorship-like role with ppl just starting on that journey. I absolutely LOVE having the opportunity to walk with ppl through the rollercoaster of feelings that early transition tends to pose, and I'm honored to be able to support and affirm them. but the mentor-mentee experience gap does feel kind of like "dating younger" so I'd feel like I was taking advantage of them being vulnerable with me, until they've found their footing. It's an honor to be there when someone's egg cracks, but in a partner I want someone who, like me, has already processed a lot of those feelings and with whom I share in confidence and joy for our transness. Also, when I was newly out I had a bunch of crushes on more "senior" trans ppl that turned out to be gender envy and looking-up-to-them rather than actual romantic feelings. And I've had multiple experiences of being on the other end of that with friends too, so when a "young" trans person tells me they like me, I say "give it some time and get to know yourself, then if the feelings are there in a couple years we will revisit this." Bc honestly it feels really bad when it turns out someone didnt like *you*, it could have been any supportive trans person and I just happened to be there. So it's not about who is more trans, just about matching life stages.

i agree completely, thanks for sharing!

if you are a trans boy, especially a teenage trans boy, i wanted to say that as a trans man in their 30's, you have my deepest respects and condolences for what you may be going through right now.

it has become socially acceptable and basically online custom to bully teenage trans boys & mascs, call them cringy, or excuse misgendering them for whatever reason. people put trans boys on this pedestal of "must perform masculinity and manhood to cartoonish degrees" even though they're still children.

people make trans boys fight for their manhood before they can even be boys. i am sorry people can be so judgmental and harsh on you. you are not wrong for wanting to be a boy. you are experiencing something wonderful. it's okay if you still want to be a boy even if people have treated you poorly, or tried to make you feel bad for being a boy. there is nothing wrong with being a boy.

it's okay if you never socially transition. it's okay if you're afraid to come out because it's not safe. it's okay if you never change your outward appearance. it's okay if you try very hard to pass but struggle to. it's okay if you wear "women's" clothing and shoes, bras, makeup, etc., it's okay if you're gay and love other men. it's okay if you're scared of hrt. it's okay if you don't want surgery. it's okay if you mainly occupy girl's spaces still. people will find every reason to pick these things apart and ridicule trans boys for, but they are all perfectly fine experiences that do not make you any less of a boy. you are the one who is in control of your transition, presentation, and state of being- you should be able to prioritize your safety over the comfort of random strangers who have no impact over how you live your life.

i've been put through this too, but later in life as i came out when i was an adult. people still try to make me feel bad for identifying as a trans man, for whatever reason they have in their head to justify hatred of a trans person. i've had enough. there will never be an excuse for how people try to excuse the infantilization and abuse that trans men and trans boys face.

take care of yourselves, no matter what age you are, if you are a trans boy, man, or masc you deserve to know that other trans men care about you, especially when people are scrambling to find ways to punch down on you. there are people who suck, but there are also a lot of people who care about you. keep your chin up. you know who you are

Went to Stonewall today to fight back! Let’s continue to be proud of who we are and show the world we are all beautiful and here to stay!

w/ @harper-sage