Gender And Sexuality Is A Fickle Thing. Sometimes Two Gay Cisgender Men Will Be Dating For Decades And

Normalize going into people’s ask boxes and ask them random ass questions.

Tumblr used to be so much fun with all the asks (anonymous or otherwise), and we need to bring those back, especially now that we finally have a half-decent blocking feature in place.

Ask people things! Message them! Don’t let tumblr inbox die! It’s one of the features that made tumblr tumblr.

Some of you aren't being progressive as you think you are.

Proship positivy<3

It's okay to like problematic fiction

It's okey not like problematic media

It's okey like l0lish0, because is fictional

You're not a terrible person if you like problematic fiction

It's okay to use proship as coping mechanis

It's okey not use proship as coping mechanis

It's okay to enjoy problematic fiction

It's okay to take a break from proshiping if it's negatively affecting your mental health

It's okay to be open about proshipping

It's okey to be private about proshipping

You are still important and you deserve to be happy. You don't deserve to suffer. Do things that make you happy and remember to drink water!

Heres a reminder for you that being dissociated isn't limited to the common misconception where you are frozen in place, incapable of doing anything or even thinking, or experiencing a significant time gap,, those things. (This is a very important post, read till bottom so im happy!)

And while its hard to spot the milder signs when you're dissociating, don't worry i got you covered by bringing awareness, im showing what those signs could look like:

Dazing/blanking out several times

Hands looking weird (depersonalization)

Surroundings also looking weird (derealization)

Feeling detached emotionally, physically, or both

Light-headedness

Less reactive in responding

Forget things more often

Unable to focus or keep concentration straight

And many more..!

When you have multiple of those signs at once, then chances are you are dissociating (extra note that it can also co-occur with derealization/depersonalization). While it can be caused by various factors, i would like to add that it may or may not get worse as time passes and no one wants that thing to snowball until it got too bad (remember, preventing now is better than dealing later) so having a few tips would help:

Grounding (sensory): listening to music, feeling different textures, paying attention to things in your surroundings, trying different fragrant or scents, have some snacks to occupy your senses

Grounding (physically): feel your chest as you breathe, get your body moving to redirect focus, splash some cold water, hold something you can squeeze (such as a stress ball)

Practice being mindful. As it can help you re-anchor back to reality faster, regulate better, building more resilience, increasing awareness of oneself's state

Sometimes we go do our day without giving a thought that were detached from reality, usually by going autopilot and scrolling through social medias without being aware (well, atleast for me) and forget lots of things while being dysregulated at the end. So by being aware of the mild signs and incorporating grounding skills im sure memory gaps and those funny aftermath stuffs won't be a problem anymore, have a good day peeps.

EDIT: I forgot to mention that another sign is your hearing feels muffled, that you can hear sounds feel more distant despite close, i thought it could be grouped with the “less reactive” before.

EDIT 2: It is true that sometimes these techniques will not work,, so it's recommended to create a peaceful environment in hopes of going away sooner when waiting it out. grab some videos to watch, put some of your favorite musics or cuddle your soft pillows (if any, pets) and stay comfy! Do not stress about it because it'll be counterproductive. Full explanation at here.

- j

happy disability pride month to ADHDers. people with ADHD that prevents them from being able to work or study or maintain friendships. people with ADHD who forget to eat or can’t cook or burn anything they try to cook. people with ADHD who are restless and impulsive and do dangerous things because boredom is physically painful. happy disability pride month to people with ADHD who are sick of people acting like ADHD isn’t a proper disability

we are in a media literacy crisis

"Oh so i'm weird for not liking incest and pedophilia?!" No dude you're weird for sending rape threats to an abuse survivor over pixels kissing are you avoiding that fact on purpose or what

It's not your tastes dude, it's your actions.

ive worn heart shaped glasses for almost 4 years and they are just like my Thing and i love them so much and so often people will say shit like Oh Id Love To Wear Something Like That But I Could Never Pull It Off and like... babe no one can theyre heart shaped glasses u dont wear them to look flattering or stylish or whatever u wear them to make ur soul happy

AMAZING news: the Reproductive Freedom Act in Ohio has now officially been CERTIFIED to be on the ballot in this November's election. It gathered 495,938 signatures from 55 counties across Ohio. Republicans messed around & women & young people will make them find out.