What I Think Will Happen If I Message My Mutuals

it's like, in theory okay to point out that anti-trans legislation will inevitably misfire and start policing cis women as a way to point out that transphobia realistically is just a system that polices gender and scrutinizes and gatekeeps womanhood, but like. if all you ever hear is "what about the cis women this will effect" then that doesn't exactly inspire confidence that the primary targets of these laws (transfems) actually have like, allies.

Mr. J, where did you learn how to swear like that? 😫

OUTSIDE

how do you look at this and not see the obvious resentment of bi women?

these are all about misogyny toward LGBT women, yet it specifies every subset of LGBT women other than bi women (except by way of being bi trans women)

(especially if you were around for the years which lesbians on this site spent indignantly sputtering about any bi woman who called herself a Dyke for “appropriating Lesbian-Only terms”, how are you not wary of these sentiments by now?)

the implied unity between cis/TME lesbians and trans women is also really funny. do you know how much of the time cis/transmisogyny-exempt lesbians specifically pull all of this shit on trans women? including whinging about trans women being “Lesbiphobic” and Unfairly Targeting Lesbians when we talk about transmisogyny?

“being used as examples, tokens or ammunition for other people's arguments”—yeah, you mean like when cis lesbians dismiss any criticism of transmisogyny by invoking the existence trans lesbians? even when the criticism comes from trans lesbians ourselves?

how do you not recognize that this is both biphobic and also brushes off the transmisogyny among cis wlw

even if 'dude' were gender neutral why do you insist on using gender neutral language specifically for trans women? hm? hm?????

kitty need blunt NOW

tbh the whole "trans women are new to oppression" thing kind of gives the game away. the people who say this think of us as nubile sex nymphs of the kind they search for on porn sites, eternally newly transitioned.

even if they had a point about new transitioners — they don't — they betray that they don't think of us as a demographic with older women in. because they don't think of us as real at all; we're their porn creatures, and we should stop interrupting the real women and the real trans people.

how that slot machine gonna look if you pull again

Happy spooky month!

trans women do not only start to experience oppression or harassment when they start to present as women, and trans men do not stop experiencing oppression or harassment when they start to present as men. when you exist outside the status quo of the sex and gender binaries you experience these things constantly through your whole life, both before and after transitioning. the idea that trans women were "socialized male" and so grew up not experiencing sexism is bullshit. the idea that trans men have as much privilege as cis men and get to just stop experiencing sexism when they transition is also bullshit. both these statements are transphobic and are meant to diminish our experiences

“I’m an ally but I could never date a trans woman because I was abused by a man as a child and the thought of dating a trans woman reminds me of him” should not be as widely accepted an argument as it is.

Why do people feel the need to chime in on every conversation like that? No one is keeping track of who you’re dating. You could never date a trans woman in your life and no one would bat an eye. Why would you choose to come online and, as an “ally”, compare a trans woman being attracted to you to sexual assault?