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My nameâs Natasha, Iâm a 25 year old black trans woman currently living in Washington. Due to COVID weâre running into a massive supply shortage at work, leaving me again with drastically reduced hours and lower wages. My SO works full-time, but she is currently experiencing COVID-like symptoms and thus canât work for two more weeks (on top of the week and a half sheâs already missed). Our bills are piling up, and even when we can pay them off, we literally have less than $5 to our names for food, transportation costs, etc.
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It terrifies me that thereâs so much raging passion in the lgbt+ community that insist on marginalizing asexuals and implying that asexuals donât deserve to have safe spaces. Thereâs still so much acephobia so I just wanna know which blogs are genuinely supportive and a safe space for asexuals
- The picture test: If you canât tell if something is a hallucination or not, take a photo! If it shows up in the picture then you have a keepsake of that crazy creepy Halloween decoration. If not itâs a hallucination (or a vampire. No, iâm kidding itâs a hallucination.)
- Is some kid in mask causing paranoia? Ask them where they got their costume. Did they make it? How did they get the idea? Focusing on the person inside of the costume will help you remember that itâs just a person!
- Avoid haunted houses, haunted hayrides, ect. Actors will not stop scaring unless itâs an emergency, and Iâve yet to find a place that teaches actors how to deal with anything other than physical injuries. (I once met a haunted house actor who said causing a panic attack meant he was âdoing his job right.â)
- Thereâs no shame in asking friends and relatives to avoid sending jump scare videos or anything else that could cause paranoia.
-Â Here are some tips on how to tell if a video is a screamer.
- (from freeasthepaperburns) Boggart it! If something is making you upset, make it silly. dance with the shadows, sing to the creepies, I bet if make a fish face at the scary face itâll be a little less scary. I know this is harder than it sounds, but Iâve gotten better at it over the time, and find it helps!
Stay safe babes!
Happy Anniversary to Undertale! (September 15, 2015)
Iâm going to give you the best piece of Adult Life Is Hard advice Iâve ever learned:
Talk to people when things go to shit.
I donât just mean get it off your chest, although thatâs good. I mean: Somethingâs wrong with your paycheck/you lost your job/you had unexpected emergency car repairs and now youâre broke so your credit card payment is late. Like, not just 15 days late. Weâre talking, shit got crazy and now youâre 90 days late with compounded interest and late fees and the Minimum Payment Due is, like, $390, and youâve got about $3.90 in your bank account. Call the credit card company.Â
I know itâs scary. I know you feel like youâre going to get in trouble, like youâre gong to get yelled at or scolded for not having your life together. But the credit card company isnât your parents; theyâre just interested in getting money from you. And you canât squeeze blood from a stone or money from someone who doesnât have any. So what you do is you call them. You explain youâre experiencing temporary financial hardships, and youâre currently unable to bring your account up to date, but you donât want to just let it get worse. Can you maybe talk to someone about a payment plan so you can work something out? Nine times out of ten youâll be able to negotiate something so that at least itâs not just taking a constant, giant shit on your credit score.
- Canât pay your power bill? Call the power company.
- Canât pay your full rent? Talk to your landlord.
- Had to go to the hospital without insurance and have giant medical bills looming in your place? Call the hospital and ask if they have someone who helps people with financial hardships. Many do.
- Got super sick and missed half a semester of class because flu/pneumonia/auto-immune problems/depressive episode? Talk to your professor. If that doesnât help, talk to your advisor.
You may not be able to fix everything, but youâll likely be able to make improvements. At the very least, itâs possible that they have a list of people you can contact to help you with things. (Also, donât be afraid to google things like, âI canât pay my power bill [state you live in]â because youâd be surprised at what turns up on Google!) But the thing is, people in these positions gain nothing if you fail. Thereâs no emotional satisfaction for them if your attempts at having your life together completely bite the dust. In fact, they stand to benefit if things work out for you! And chances are, theyâll be completely happy to take $20 a month from you over getting $0 a month from you, your account will be considered current because youâve talked to them and made an agreement, you wonât get reported to a collections agency, and your credit score wonât completely tank.
Hereâs some helpful tips to keep in mind:
1. Be polite. Donât demand things; request them. Let me tell you about how customer service people hold your life in their hands and how many extra miles theyâll go for someone who is nice to them.
2. Stick to the facts, and keep them minimal unless asked for them. Chances are theyâre not really interested in the details. âWe had several family emergencies in a row, and now Iâm having trouble making the paymentsâ is better than âWell, two months ago my husband wrecked his bike, and then he had a reaction to the muscle relaxer they gave him, and then our dog swallowed a shoestring and we had to take him to the emergency clinic, and just last week MY car broke down, and now my accountâs in the negatives and I donât know how Iâm gonna get it back out.â The person youâre talking to is aware shit happens to everyone; they donât need the details to prove youâre somehow âworthyâ of being helped. They may ask you for details at a certain point if they have to fill out any kind of request form, but let them do that.
3. Ask questions. âIs there anything we can do about X?â âWould it be possible to move my payment date to Y day instead so itâs not coming out of the same paycheck as my rent?â The answer may be âno.â Thatâs not a failure on your part. But a good customer service person may have an alternate solution.Â
Anyway! I hope that helps! Donât just assume the answer is ânoâ before youâve even begun. There is more help out there than you ever imagined.
Sunset stroll artfight attack.
Ok but real talk here, big, important question for everyone:
Why do you like but not reblog?
It feels like the bare minimum in fandom to reblog stuff you like. Itâs the easiest way to support artists/writers and guarantee they do more of that same kind of thing.
Reblog = repost and reposts are evil!!!
Reblogs are different than reposts. As long as the original post came from the artist, the artist gets the credit for it and thatâs what they want. REPOSTS are when you find a piece of art you like, save it to your computer, and later make your own post with it, and thatâs not cool
Reblogging is too much effort!!
It really, really isnât. On mobile? Press and hold the reblog button. The post has now been reblogged. On desktop? Hold the alt key and then click the reblog button. Off it goes, letting more people enjoy the beauty of the post you just enjoyed yourself!
I donât want to tag things though
So then...donât? Just reblog it with no tags. You want to tag it later, you can. You never want to tag things? Cool, neither do I most times!
I DO want to tag things but I feel like Iâm bothering people
I guarantee you, 90% of the time, artists love tags. Even the keyboard smash tags. The ones they donât love are the ones demanding more art/for the artist to do things in a specific way/to change the art to suit one specific viewerâs preferences.
If I reblog things a lot, itâll annoy people!
If people are following you, itâs for your content. If it annoys them, they can unfollow you. Thatâs on them. If you mean itâll annoy the ARTIST if you go in and reblog their whole art tag...wrong, false, no, definitely not, they might even make more art specifically for you if you do that. Especially if you tag with âI love this piece because...â and then give a reason why you love it, that is the most encouraging thing.
Reblogging doesnât fit my blog aesthetic.
Idk what to tell you here, youâre in control of your aesthetic. Make a side blog maybe, reblog there and leave your main âcleanâ. Or vice versa. No reblogs = a quickly dwindling supply of art that people are willing to post.
Reblogging is an important part of fandom/tumblr community in general. It encourages more people to make more content which means more things for you to do/see/read.
Itâs part of the fandom ecosystem; we have content makers and we have content viewers. Without makers, we have no art. Without viewers, thereâs no reason to post it online. If viewers are limited, people start reconsidering whether to bother posting their art online or just share it with their friends they know will give feedback.
Reblogs are how you contribute to the fandom. Try it.
Completed comm for someone over on the bird site