Right, I Have Journaled. I Have Even Picked Up Therapy. I Have Prayed To Allah. I Have Had A Haircut

Right, I have journaled. I have even picked up therapy. I have prayed to Allah. I have had a haircut and even changed the colour of my hair. I go gym and changing my body and work on myself - mentally and emotionally. I have changed my life around 180degrees. I have even made a sad playlist.

sit in the darkness? What does that mean?

My heart is not open to people but is open to new experiences and opportunities and acquaintances.

Yet I still can’t move on. I get dreams and feelings just like you. Yet I’m stuck.

I might need to do the Tahajjud itikhara combination.

Well done for doing all of that already. That's massive. Im proud of you. Appreciate yourself and all you've done so far.

Sitting in darkness; not literally but metaphorically. You're already doing it. You're prioritising your own development and are allowing yourself to feel all the emotions.

You're already in the darkness.

This will take time. Weeks, months, maybe even years.

Getting over someone is very much case by case. Eg; If you done wrong in this relationship and have guilt, it can take years to get over, or even better, you don't ever get over it but you learn to live with it.. If you did no wrong, you'll get there eventually. Time is the greatest healer. Consistency matters. You will fall and will feel low, but you just gotta pick your shit up and carry on.

Definitely perform Tahajjud and Iskithara. Sometimes just stay in Sajdah, feel the negativity departing your soul. Prepare for Ramadan also, insha'Allah this will be a good one for you.

Feel free to dm me if you want a chat, I don't bite.

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Hi. I think I’ll miss him forever. I think he’ll still be on my mind in 10 years. I wish I never experienced him. I cannot seem to pursue another person because it’s unfair. I think I’ll miss him forever and death will be at my door and I’d wonder if he’s alive or not? (My thoughts are currently in darkness and for some reason I felt you might know how that feels. Thanks for the safe space.)

I can relate to you. I was also in a similar situation.

Years went by but I was still there, the memories were fresh. Not a day went by where I didnt think about her. Sometimes I'd even smell her perfume randomly and it would throw me off and I would plummet into the darkness.

What I found beneficial was to analyse my feelings, what did I "miss" exactly. I missed my life at that time, It was a great period of my life. I had the girl that I wanted, the flash car, mates at my place every day, nothing but pure panga/shenanigans. But it came to an end. All those things went wrong or just ended. Lost the girl, sold the car, moved back home, lost the friends.. What im saying is that period of my life I loved, she was apart of that. But if that was now it just wouldn't of worked anyway.

I realised I felt guilt more than I actually missed her. The guilt crippled me.

I did wonder too, I wonder what she's up to, I wonder who's on the phone to her keeping her up at night..

But man it's all pointless, they're most likely not thinking about you. Its a hard pill to swallow. But it's probably true. You just gotta swallow that pill and run it.

It's a good shout to get yourself out there again, make the new connections, even as friends, just get out. You might start prioritising a new person in your mind and that haunting feeling of your past might leave you.

Honestly I don't know if this is good advice but it works for me. I'm cold, cutthroat. My advice usually is too..