The more I debate with TRAs, the more I realise that they genuinely believe that masculinity and feminity DO NOT exist as social concepts but rather as individual traits that can be mixed and matched and then attached to a word. For example, talking to a transman, I asked them what masculinity is, and they responded with "it is whatever you want it to be" or a good one I always hear is "masculinity means different things to different people".
TRAs genuinely believe that the concepts of masculinity and femininity are traits that are just attached to words. These words are empty vessels that THEY attach meaning to. They aren't defining a word; they are describing THEMSELVES. So when you ask a Trans person, "What are masculinity and femininity?" to them the question is received as "Describe who you are? or Describe yourself?" Thus, why, gender is something that is/can mean anything to anybody.
They have no structural conceptualisation of gender because, to them, gender is not a tool or even an ideology. It is the self. So when radfems say "woman is not a gender" or "women are adult human females," they cannot conceptualise or even grasp this because, to them, gender is the self. How can women be without the 'self'?
If you are Trans and reading this, you are describing gender as a personality. LMAO.
This reminds me of this one post, I can't even remember where I saw it or what it said exactly. But I remember it saying something about how a lot of incels or manosphere misogynists base their theories and "observations" of how women act not on real life, but from porn. Like, incels or men in the manosphere will claim the average bodycount for a 21 year old is like, 70, which doesn't make sense if you regularly talk to actual women, but makes complete sense if your most frequent exposure to women is through porn. This post feels like one of those claims, despite the poster seemingly being female? Maybe she's just trying to appeal to the men in those spaces, or maybe she's NLOG-ing and just thinks that she's different from most women for not riding peen at the drop of a hat.
we really went from "women and girls can do anything" to im just a girl i only do girl math im a passenger princess i dont drive i dont eat i just do haha girl dinner im so sillyyyy i wear makeup bc i want to i also try and define all women into categories that are marketable omg what if we were just girls and we were so useless and helpless
why do men want to be gynecologists? why? why. gynecology is for females and should be practiced solely by women imoÂ
"4b is misandrist" don't care "4b is unpatriotic" don't care "4b hurts men" don't care "4b will cause incels to rage out" don't care "4b is just purity culture" don't care "4b is problematic" don't care "4b is xyz-phobic or xyz-ist" don't care "4b is too radical" don't care "only ugly/unfuckable women do 4b" don't care "no one would want to sleep with you anyway" don't care "4b is bad for birthrates" don't care
I think it's interesting how often "femininity" expects women to cover our faces. From the BDSM masks to Muslim women veiling to the expectation that women wear makeup and not our natural faces. I think it's to stop us from empathizing with each other and to mask the inhumanity in how men treat us. So that for onlookers, there's a clear demarcation between "person" and "woman".
As a black woman the more radleaning I go the more I realise how much leftist men and libfems hide their misogyny by putting "cis white" in front of woman.