this post is especially dedicated for my fellow neurodivergents, specifically those who have add/adhd.
it’s normal for all of us to feel stressed sometimes. stress, as well as anxiety, are both feelings we all experience from time to time. however, dealing with a lot of stress is proven to have a negative impact on your body, more specifically your (autonomic) nervous system. by understanding how to regulate your nervous system, you will have an easier time managing stressful moments, and overall live a lot more balanced and peaceful life. ⋮ © credits
your nervous system is the control center of your body. it is the part of your body that’s responsible for regulating your breathing, your heartbeat, your blood pressure, your digestion, and also the way you feel. the part of your nervous system that deals with the emotional wellbeing of yours is called "autonomic nervous system".
when feeling stressed, your body naturally reacts in a way to prepare you for the situation. it could respond through an increased heart rate, sweaty palms or the tension of muscles. nevertheless, our bodies cannot constantly withstand stress. continuously experiencing high levels of cortisol and adrenaline can lead to (sometimes serious) health issues.
a nervous system becomes dysregulated when the body cannot properly handle certain situations the way it used to. the body's way of responding to certain situations falls out of sync. it indicates a state of imbalance as you experience your body not being able to keep up with you.
these are some of the signs indicating you might have a dysregulated nervous system:
anxiety
easily irritated
memory problems
difficulty concentrating
headaches
quickly overwhelmed
mood swings
panic attacks
digestive issues
trouble sleeping
constant fatigue
chronic pain
persistent muscle tension
weakened immune system
here is a list of stressors that are known to disrupt your nervous system balance:
chronic stress
burnout
traumatic events
poor sleep habits
unhealthy diet
no time for relaxation
here are things you can do to help regulating your nervous system again:
meditating and resting
listening to music
dancing and moving
stretching and walking
eft tapping
massaging yourself
affirming
practicing mindfulness
reconnecting with nature
hugging someone or yourself
somatic shaking
rubbing ice cubes on face
taking a cold shower
sleeping and waking up early
grounding yourself
humming, singing and laughing
talking to someone
reading or listening
using a weighted blanket
drinking herbal tea
engaging in calming activities
deep breathing exercises
prioritising your sleep
with love, ella.
**I am capable and resilient, even when faced with challenges.
I embrace my unique way of thinking and processing information.
My worth is not determined by productivity or external achievements.
I am deserving of understanding and support from myself and others.
I acknowledge my strengths and celebrate my accomplishments, big and small.
I am more than my ADHD; I am a complex and valuable individual.
I deserve self-compassion, especially during difficult moments.
I am constantly learning and growing, and that is a significant achievement.
My worth is inherent, and I do not need to prove it to anyone.
I am not defined by my challenges; I am defined by how I overcome them.
I choose to focus on what I can control and let go of what I cannot.
My self-worth is independent of external judgments or opinions.
I am worthy of taking breaks and practicing self-care without guilt.
I have the power to create positive change in my life.
My journey is unique, and I honor the progress I've made.
**I am deserving of love and acceptance just as I am.
My journey with ADHD is an opportunity for growth and self-discovery.
I release the need for perfection and embrace my authentic self.
I am not defined by my mistakes; I learn and move forward.
My worth is not determined by the pace at which I accomplish tasks.
I choose to focus on my strengths and use them to my advantage.
I am a valuable and important part of my community and relationships.
My creativity and unique perspective bring value to the world.
I am resilient, and I have the strength to overcome obstacles.
I am worthy of setting boundaries that prioritize my well-being.
Joel protecting Ellie on the ground while he's up in the building. Him seeing the truck at the same time she did, following her as she ran to it for shelter. Him being so zoned in on her and only her. Him seeing that she's going to make a run to save Henry and Sam, and her looking to him for cover, and him knowing what it means and nodding, "go for it, I've got you."
Holy fucking shit.
Y/N: HYDRATE OR DIE-DRATE!
Y/N: *Aggressively throws water bottles*
Donna: What's up with Y/N?
Alcina: Y/N is trying to yell mental health and wellbeing into us.
Y/N: I APPRECIATE ALL OF YOU!
Moreau, close to crying: It's working.
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In the middle of a fanfic and this shit happens
The world hates me
re8 spoiler
me, when Ethan kills one of the dimitrescus and he has to make some stupid comment:
*screams* (cr. @joonie)
Since the post I made last night about improving executive functioning was so popular, I figured I should pull these out of my comments and give them their own post, in case it's helpful for people.
I have worked with the publishers of all of the books linked below and can vouch for their psychology books. The publisher of most of them, New Harbinger, is an extremely credible evidence-based psychology publisher.
Obvious disclaimer that everyone's brain is different and what works for someone else may not work for you.
Is there evidence that executive functioning can be improved? Yes. This book appears to be a very thorough overview of the field, and contains both advocates and detractors of cognitive training, for a balanced perspective. From the table of contents, I would really recommend jumping straight to Part 3: Developmental Perspectives for executive functioning (EF) writ large.
Certain therapy modalities are specifically designed for skill-building in areas like impulsivity, decision-making, emotional regulation, and cognitive flexibility, all of which are EF skills or very dependent on EF skills. Dialectical Behavior Therapy (DBT) is probably the best field to look at for these - skill-building in those areas is its core goal.
Some DBT workbooks:
The Dialectical Behavior Therapy Skills Workbook: Practical DBT Exercises for Learning Mindfulness, Interpersonal Effectiveness, Emotion Regulation, and Distress Tolerance
The Dialectical Behavior Therapy Skills Workbook for Teens
There are also a lot of workbooks for ADHD that are sometimes more broad but also can help with executive functioning:
The Adult ADHD and Anxiety Workbook: Cognitive Behavioral Therapy Skills to Manage Stress, Find Focus, and Reclaim Your Life
The CBT Workbook for Adult ADHD: Evidence-Based Exercises to Improve Your Focus, Productivity, and Wellbeing
The Neurodivergence Skills Workbook for Autism and ADHD
General executive functioning workbooks:
The Executive Functioning Workbook for Teens
Executive Functioning Workbook for Adults: Exercises to Help You Get Organized, Stay Focused, and Achieve Your Goals
Hope these are helpful to someone!!
The brother who perpetuated the cycle of abuse vs the brother who broke the cycle of abuse ( from @theoriginalsapphic)