Chastity Training

I've heard that men into being locked up have this "be careful what you wish for" mantra. I wonder how many couples are out there where the wife takes to it way more than the husband ever imagined? Or way more than the husband wants? 👿

Orgasm Control Cheat Sheet

Harnessing, The Male Orgasm: “Karezza”

Karezza’s side effect not only increases his energy and libido, but also mystifyingly alters his Psyche into one that’s much more acquiescent and venerating.

Chances are good that you haven’t a clue what karezza truly is, even though it is rapidly evolving and becoming “mainstream” worldwide. But before I give my progressive explanation, here’s a bit of context… Human mating has some very un-Disney characteristics. True, new lovers are jacked up on thrilling honeymoon neurochemicals. For example, they have extra nerve growth factor and cortisol flowing through their veins when they’ve first met. Dopamine-releasing areas of the brain are activated and stimulated frequently. Their serotonin is often as low as the levels of OCD patients—which is why fresh lovers obsess over each other. In addition, odd things are going on with their testosterone levels: They’re lower than normal in men during early romance and courtship, and higher than normal in women—bringing their libidos more into sync.

Yet all these potent neurochemicals return to their base levels by the end of year two or three at the latest. Once that booster shot wears off, cracks tend to appear in the relationship. That’s when habituation can set in, if couples don’t learn to actively counter it. The standard sex advice for committed couples—which is to heat things back up to earlier intensity with more variety in the bedroom—often backfires. “Heat” can gradually numb lovers’ response to pleasure, making vanilla pleasures even less fulfilling. Mates may end up on an unsatisfying, but very demanding, treadmill of seeking new highs, while feeling less overall pleasure.

Karezza is an organic (female empowering) way, to hack our pair-bonding machinery and remain hormonally (neurochemistry) attracted to each other. The fundamental enlightenment pertaining to Karezza has turned up in various cultures over thousands of years. In the simplest of terms, Karezza is affectionate, slow sensual intercourse without the goal (or reward) of explosive MALE Climax. Healthy Healing Intercourse is generally frequent, although not necessarily daily (but could be). But couples typically engage in daily “bonding behaviors” with Karezza. These attachment cues are very powerful, and have been shown to reduce stress as well as strengthen bonds.

Part of the challenge with Karezza is that we ladies think we already know everything important about SEX. Actually, we have a lot to learn about the subtle, lingering changes in the brain that follow the intense neurochemical event of male and female orgasm—and even more to learn about the neurochemical effects of excessive orgasm (that is when male orgasms are not properly harnessed and preserved).

These brain events haven’t been studied much, but even the limited research that has been done makes it clear there’s a lot going on that could have a subtle impact on lover’s post-climax perception of each other as well as their moods. As this kind of female empowering information becomes more common knowledge, the wisdom and benefits of Karezza will be evident. For now, experimentation is the best way to see its transformative benefits.

·        What is the point of sex without “allowing” the male Ejaculation? Wouldn’t it be frustrating?

First, a bit of context. As a culture, we have psychologically trained ourselves that sex = male orgasm, but for many primates this isn’t true. Various apes and monkeys often copulate without ejaculation.

Even among humans, the karezza concept has cropped up repeatedly over the countless centuries, going by various names: “Taoist Dual Cultivation,” “Cortezia,” “Amplexus Reservatus,” “Tantra,” “Polynesian lovemaking,” and so forth. Of course, cultures sometimes regulated sexual activity in other ways, too, such as kosher sex or taboos on intercourse after a wife gives birth until a child was walking.

The point is, that a less fertilization-driven approach to sex is not as unnatural as we’ve been led to believe by the Modern Church and today’s Sexperts… It’s just unfamiliar.

With Karezza, Frequent and Prolonged Feminine Pleasure (Bliss) becomes of paramount importance to the male, as well as Revered and Habitual.

Logically It seems like karezza would be horribly frustrating for males, but surprisingly IT IS NOT —provided lovers (1) learn what they’re doing and why, (2) take a slow enough approach to sexual intercourse, and (3) make love in gentle “waves.” That is, when things heat up, the male is reprogrammed to relax their arousal, to drop down a notch repeatedly, and end in a relaxed, perhaps even trance-like (fully erect) state.

Karezza definitely takes a bit of getting used to however by both the male and female. He has to routinely “learn” to stay back just enough from the very edge of orgasm—as he helplessly throbs in mindboggling blissful “captivity”. (If you learn this the hard way, cold water should ease the pain.)

·        What benefits can couples get out of karezza?

As lovers engage in karezza intercourse consistently, they tend to become more sensitive to pleasure. Therefore, even though orgasmic intensity is absent (or rare) for the male, overall pleasure (both inside and outside the bedroom) is often greater. Because Karezza helps protect a healthy balance in the reward circuitry of the male brain (the part that governs our appetites, moods, cravings and behavior), it can make relationships less volatile and therefore more sustainable.

In addition, non-performance driven sex is very helpful in restoring powerful erections in men, with certain types of erectile dysfunction. It can even ultimately cure premature ejaculation—especially when combined with Michael and Diana Richardson’s “soft entry” technique.

Men describe karezza with phrases like deeply satisfying, can make love often without fatigue afterward, feel more virile, feel welcomed into her heart. They report greater attraction to their partners—of any age, greater ease in giving up addictions and having sex more frequently than before. Said one, “I have fallen deeply in love with my wife really for the first time. We’re like teenagers … and are able to have intimacy and sex now that was simply unheard of before.

Women say things like blissful, easy, pure contentment, heart-burstingly Loving. They report that their relationships grow more harmonious and playful. Some report less menstrual pain and feeling and looking younger. Paradoxically, women often report that they become Much More Orgasmic, probably because they can relax more during sex, and relish the feelings of the (throbbing) passion - “incarcerated” deep within them . (The absence of vigorous thrusting means that the vagina doesn’t naturally tense up to protect against the cervix being bumped painfully.)

It’s likely that one scientific basis of the improvements men and women see (when the male orgasm is properly harnessed) is the increased emphasis on soothing daily affection, which may help sustain the release of oxytocin (the “cuddle chemical”) or increases the brain’s sensitivity to it. Not surprisingly, oxytocin is vital for Potent (Virile) Erections and Sexual Responsiveness. It is naturally released throughout affectionate touch and lovemaking. Oxytocin also plays a role in orgasmic sex for the woman—but firm karezza “restraint” for the male - always sustains oxytocin levels better, as it doesn’t generally promote ejaculation, which triggers a rapid drop off of oxytocin.

Karezza is ideal for all couples who live together, especially those who are in female led relationships. It helps the woman keep the romantic feelings flowing in her relationship, even without the hit of those extra new-love neurochemicals discussed earlier. It often gives males something they may not even have realized they missed: a sense of being wanted, accepted and welcomed “in” by special invitation of one’s beloved, consistently…

Karezza can also be very helpful for couples in which the male is recovering from a porn addiction.

One drawback is that the woman’s appropriate harnessing of male orgasm (with karezza) is unfamiliar and easily mischaracterized. It’s therefore difficult to explain to an unaware partner. It’s off the radar of most “sex positive” mainstream advice. That’s somewhat ironic because couples practicing karezza tend to Make Love, much more frequently than they did with orgasm (ejaculation) driven sex, they just take frequent (repeated) calming breaks. Moreover, research is revealing that relaxed slow “Balls Deep” intercourse is especially beneficial (as compared with various other sexual activities).

Karezza is obviously more challenging for new lovers because of all those compelling honeymoon neurochemicals discussed above. For the same reason, it doesn’t work well in casual hook-ups, where novelty is the prime aphrodisiac. It’s also problematic for long-distance lovers. They don’t have the option of daily bonding behaviors, and when they reunite after a separation, there’s understandably a lot of intense sexual hunger present that makes a relaxed approach challenging.

·        What simple steps can you recommend to astute, curious ladies who want to try it?

Get educated. It’s almost impossible to make any progress with karezza unless you have a clear understanding of why you want to do it. It’s a duet, not a solo. Teach Him, Train Him and use your provocative feminine skills to talk him into practicing Karezza with you.

Through a Man’s Penis, Passion & Libido, Nature Has “Given” Man INTO Woman’s Hands, and The Woman who Does Not Know How to Make Him Her Subject, Her Slave, Her TOY, and How to Thoroughly Control Him with Her Smile in the end is Not Wise.

10 Chastity / Forced denial Benefits.

I’ve listed what i consider to be the 10 most positive things you can gain from Chastity or any form of long term or forced denial.

It stops your man from wasting his time and libido masturbating. If you are in a relationship, all of his sexual energy should be directed at you. It should not be wasted on him touching himself and thinking about other women. As long as he can masturbate, he is psychologically cheating on you - and lying to you by default. Even if your man is only thinking about you when he has fun alone he is lowering his testosterone which should be built up so he can please you better and more frequently.                              

Your sex life will improve. Because he’ll have to please you in order to get his release, he’ll become a more experimental and better lover. You will have more orgasms and more massages  per week than you’ve ever had before.                         

Your relationship will become stronger. Male chastity encourages open and honest communication about each others needs. This is an incredible benefit for any couple, and forced denial can help any couple improve their natural bonding not to mention will make him more attentive, passionate and caring.                                                                               

His orgasms will improve. As long as he can masturbate regularly, he is taking action that desensitizes his penis. Once he is on a more normal ejaculation schedule, his penis will become more sensitive and his orgasms will become stronger, usually he will last longer in bed too because cumming alone they do it in a few minutes and get used to that, after chastity I’ve seen men that could only go 5 minutes last a half hour after some training being locked up, this does not apply to all men but I’ve definitely seen mens duration improve from denial.                                                           

You’ll never have to worry about him cheating on you. Face it - most men, no matter how much they love their girlfriends, can’t turn down an opportunity with another woman you’re likely never to find out about. Male chastity makes it impossible for him to act on these urges, this enforced that he remain faithful. This is perfect if you’re in a long distance relationship it also ensures he stays locked up thinking about you for days at a time eager to please.                                                               

The romance will improve in your relationship. As long as he knows he can have cum any time he wants, there’s no reason for him to romance you. That’s why the romance stopped after awhile. By limiting his sexual access to you, you’ll train him to be the romantic lover he was when you were still dating.                                                                                           

You’ll never have to put effort into pleasing him ( blowjobs, handjobs ). Of course, you can if you want to; but he’ll be quite happy with any sort of release / stimulation, you could give him a single lick and he would thank you for it ( well, he better ;)  its good to use these things against him, teasing is just as important as denial. they go hand in hand.                                        

Your friends will compliment you on what a wonderful, attentive boyfriend you have. They will be jealous of your strong, committed relationship. No man is as ideal as one constantly denied.                        

He’ll become much more helpful around the house. Knowing that the only way he can get the release his body craves so badly is by pleasing you, he’ll actually volunteer to do the dishes, clean the bathroom and make the bed every morning. Won’t that be nice?                                                       

He’ll feel better about himself. Most men are ashamed that they masturbate so often (usually seven to 15 times a weeks!). But, they are slaves to their libido and can’t help themselves. It’s an addiction. Mostly it makes them feel like little boys who can’t control themselves. Once he no longer is able to give into the temptation to masturbate, he’ll feel proud of his self-control and behave more like a man who releases his sexuality into his girlfriend, instead of down the shower drain.

In summary, you will get a lot more pleasure in any way you want, and he will be stuck in a state of arousal that keeps him addicted to you more then he could have been before, he will do more chores, he will be more attentive, passionate, loving, last longer, be eager to please you, and will never cheat.

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If you agree with this list then please reblog so more couples are better informed and can seriously consider exploring chastity / forced denial

Just remember to keep it Safe, Sane and Consensual.

Yours truly, 

-Tatiana xoxo     http://maleslaveswanted.tumblr.com/