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It’s been a really long time since I came on tumblr, but I started thinking a bit about how difficult year 13 was for me and what I could have done differently. they’re lengthy but there’s a lot to be said!!

These are some things that helped me when I was studying with depression - I have to say these don’t always help, and nothing will replace getting medical help. These just helped me take each day as it came, so I hope they’re of some use!

Please, please, please think of your health and really take care of yourself whilst studying and even more so in exam season. 

⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️ lots of love

This stuff is kind of relaxing to draw hmmm

A week ago, I made a conspiracy board about the history of CaitVi… I didn’t anticipate that making conspiracy boards to become my new hobby, but then I saw one too many debates/discussions on reddit about League and queer characters… So I made a conspiracy board about a bunch of the explicitly queer and queer-coded characters from Runeterra.

I’m aware this list isn’t entirely definitive, but I hope it’s a handy resource nonetheless!

Tethered to the ground Store

Has anyone done this yet??? Because if not here ya’ go.

JOJO PLES COM BACC I MISS U U CINNAMMON ROLL ILU SO MUCH—

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signs that your family is abusive:

you feel the urge to hide from them whenever you’re vulnerable

you cannot bear the idea of them seeing you cry

when you’re hurt or in pain, you don’t go to them because you feel they’ll tell you that you deserved it or that it was your fault

you don’t feel like you can confide in them, either because they don’t seem to care, or try to control how you act, or yell at you and punish you, or use the information against you

you feel very self-conscious around them and keep expecting criticism and insults

you can’t tell them about your struggles because you already know they’ll side against you

you keep things in your life secret from them because you have a feeling they would ridicule, humiliate, and judge you if they knew, or take everything away from you

you feel scared of letting them know when they hurt you

you feel scared and guilty when you so much as think about them in a bad way

you feel the urge to remind yourself of all the things they did for you, whenever something bad comes up, to be sure that you’re seeing them the way they want to be seen by you

you’re scared of being accused of being a burden to them

you’re scared to hold them responsible for things they did to you, because you know they would argue otherwise, and insist they had full right to do what they did, or that you made it up

you have the inner sense of dread that nothing you ever do or say will be taken seriously by them, and your life will always look like a joke to them

you dream of living far away from them and feel guilty for wanting to cut them from your life

you don’t feel like you’re really important in comparison to them, it feels like it’s better to just step aside and let them be important, your life doesn’t matter as much anyway

you’re worried about how your every action might affect their life, their reputation and social standing

you feel that they’re ashamed of you and you’re trying your best not to bring further shame on the family

you feel like you’ll owe them for the rest of your life and nothing you ever do will be enough to erase the debt, and this fills you with dread and feeling of being trapped

you don’t count on their help when you’re in trouble, you’re scared of them finding out and punishing you for being in trouble in the first place

you don’t count on them sharing their resources with you, you know you have to be grateful for how much they’ve given you already and feel like you have no right to ask for anything more, even if you need it

you can’t feel warmth or safety when surrounded by family, instead you wish you didn’t have to be there, and seek a place to hide and protect yourself

holidays spent with family are just painful and something you try to endure instead of enjoy

you can’t imagine a world where you’re free and not defined by these people

so while I’m thinking of this, I wanna make a post with some tricks I’ve learned for handling my adhd; probably applicable to anyone, but especially people who struggle with executive dysfunctions

Add it to an Existing Routine

Even if you’re the most disorganized person in the world, there are moments in the day where you have SOME habits and SOME routines you stick to. Whether that’s that you brush your teeth every day, ride the bus in the mornings, or make food at home; you have some regular thing you can actually remember to do. 

So build on this structure to add in more habits. If need be, put a reminder where you do the existing routine. I could never remember to wash my face until I realized I could do it while I showered, and started keeping my facial cleanser by the shampoo. I clean the dishes while I wait for the oven to finish preheating, convenient since they’re both in the same area. Whatever makes sense to you. 

The 5-minute Rule

I wasn’t the one who came up with this, but I use it a lot. Basically, since it’s easy to forget things, as SOON as you think of something you need to do, if it takes less than 5 minutes, do it now. (Otherwise write it down.) These little things can pile up otherwise, and it feels nice to get them done. I also find doing little tasks makes it easier to move onto bigger tasks, as I’m already in the right mindset.

For bigger projects, if your main problem is getting started:

Just Set it Up

Need to work out? Put on your workout clothes. It’s okay if you then keep messing around for a bit. But a lot of times you’ll then have enough momentum to go ahead and go. Either way, it’s an easy step, but now you’ve commited yourself. What, are you gonna take off the workout clothes without going?

Same with other tasks. Open up the instructions for your assignment. Maybe just read them over. Then maybe open up word and type in the header (your name, title, etc.) This also helps break down tasks into very small steps. It can really get you over sticking points. Treat even the smallest step as a success.

Last but not least, this one is less of a trick and more of a general attitude:

Focus on the good feelings, not the guilt

A clean room feels fresh and invigorating. Brushed teeth are nice and minty. A completed assignment is such a relief. Focus on your desire to achieve something, rather than “ugh I’m such a mess my life is a mess my room is a mess why am I like this.” It makes the whole thing more pleasant, and I atleast find it way more motivating.

Hope this helped someone!