Although words like butch, femme, masc, and fem have been applied to nonbinary folk since their inception, they don’t always meet the needs of non-binary people in comfortably describing the way we look.
So here are a new additional set of options! We’ve considered two different “axes” here – one that relates most closely to the masc—fem scale, and one that considers “effort”, or a level of… drama or ostentation in a look. They can be combined as one pleases or used individually!
Additionally, please apply them at will to yourself based on your own ideas about what it means to dress femininely or dramatically or androgynously etc. These words are not to be held hostage to cissexism or gender roles. These words also describe presentations that are inherently not binary – the only reason we’re using words like “masculine” and “feminine” to describe them at all is for ease of communication. They can and should describe particular looks, including those that people are inclined to gender, without actually gendering them.
Note: These are not coined with the intention of being gender identities. They have nothing inherently to do with gender identity. You can be a demigirl stag, etc. (That said, if someone wants to use them as a gender because you feel it’s tied closely to your presentation, we’re certainly not stopping you.)
Stag: A “masc”, “butch” or “tomcat” equivalent, describing a presentation one considers to be associated with ideas about masculinity, or a presentation others might consider masculine.
Fox: Describing an androgynous, fluid, or combined presentation; can be applied to any presentation a person feels doesn’t resemble the other sides of the spectrum.
Swan: A “femme/fem” or “doe” equivalent, describing a presentation one considers to be associated with ideas about femininity, or a presentation others might consider feminine.
Sparrow: A casual, minimalist, muted or low-effort presentation. For example, for those folks who just roll through their closet and go.
Crow: For presentations that are in-between, combined, or fluid along a scale of effort/ostentation.
Peacock: For presentations that are high effort. Glam, dramatic, flashy, flamboyant, attention-drawing, etc. Dressed to the nines, so to speak!
(chart meant purely to be silly and fun, not to suggest actual criteria or associations. Disregard entirely if you resonate with the terms but not these goofy tidbits.)
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me @ nonbinary people who’s chosen name is gendered: 💙💜💛💝💞💟💖💚💕❤💙💜💛💝💞💟💖💚💕❤
me @ nonbinary people who’s preferred pronouns are he/him or she/her: 💙💜💛💝💞💟💖💚💕❤💙💜💛💝💞💟💖💚💕❤
me @ nonbinary people who don’t present androgynously: 💙💜💛💝💞💟💖💚💕❤💙💜💛💝💞💟💖💚💕❤
me @ anyone who hates on them: 🔫😡✊❌👊🔫✊🔫😡✊❌🔫😡✊❌👊
Most everyone knows that she’s trans and dating my friend and there’s quite a bit of controversy on the topic, but I never knew how my friend reacted to it. I got to see a glimpse of it today and it was beautiful.
We’re sitting in class, waiting for the bell to ring and I’m sitting by my friend. Some random girl is in front of him who we don’t really know that well. Most kids in the class were on their phones, including my friend and I. This girl turns around to my friend and asks,
“Your girlfriend is trans, right?” And I look up to see how my friend is gonna react. This kid doesn’t even look up from his phone, gives this girl no attention whatsoever but responds.
“Perhaps. Why?” He asks and I can tell he’s obviously not pleased.
This bitch has the audacity to then say, “I don’t know. It’s just kinda weird. I mean, she doesn’t have a real girl body.” And my friend doesn’t even hesitate with his response nor does he give this girl the satisfaction of a reaction. Instead, he says,
“Yeah, well neither do you with the amount of botox in your system, but that really doesn’t matter, does it?” And he looks up at her with this shit eating grin and she just looks at him all disgusted and offended before turning back around and my friend looks at me and we both burst in to laughter
This is how you should ask trans and non-binary people about their identity
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let’s see how many transphobics we can weed out
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