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Reblogged for the comments on the post. Worth a read.

The Realities Of Hotwifing

There are so many hot picture captions/memes on Tumblr about hotwifing, cuckolding, the stag and vixen lifestyles, and all the other forms of alternative relationship arrangements we get out perverted and kinky selves into.

But you know what bothers me sometimes? 

How our perceptions and expectations about these arrangements can get skewed without us even recognizing it. 

Expectations for what it’s all like, what it should be like, how it happens, how often it happens, why it happens…all those expectations get influenced by the things we immerse ourselves in. 

This is especially the case for people who are new to the lifestyles or who are looking to get into the lifestyles.

Simply put, the eroticism and sexiness of hotwifing images/memes we see on Tumblr notwithstanding, they leave out some of the realities to it all. 

Sometimes though, it’s good to be reminded of the realities, and that’s what this post is all about. 

For example, you’ll never come across a picture like this…

…with a caption on it that says something like, “ “Honey I just got back from my date with another man, and he was a TERRIBLE kisser. I didn’t enjoy it at all.”

Or perhaps one like this…

Or how about one that conveys just how common it is to get all ready and excited for your first in-person meet, only to have the guy be a faker or flake…

We don’t see things like this because it’s not sexy to see or think about. We only reblog things that stoke our desires. And that’s normal for the most part. After all, sex isn’t the only thing that “sells”…SEXY does too. 

Don’t get me wrong though. I’m not saying the hotwifing lifestyle can’t be enjoyable or sexy or pleasurable beyond your wildest imagination, because it can. It can one of the most fulfilling journeys a couple can take together in their entire life. 

It just sometimes helps to be reminded every now and again that if it all doesn’t go down or happen like you read about in most online hotwifing stories or see in the hotwife pictures/memes,…DON’T WORRY…IT’S ALL NORMAL!

Nothing is wrong with you, or your partner, or your relationship, or your experience. You’re most likely not doing anything wrong. Navigating the lifestyle can be difficult and frustrating at times, and it comes with tons of challenges. 

So if at any point, you run into a challenge or a setback or have a negative experience along the way, remember that it comes with the territory and you shouldn’t fret too much about it. But most importantly…

Don’t be afraid to share your “negative” experiences with the online community! It can help you and it can help others to know that living out this lifestyle in reality is a bit different than living it out in fantasy. That’s why…

Share the realities you faced in your hotwifing, cuckolding, stag & vixen-ing journeys by replying to this post. Or simply like/reblog because after all, reality checks can be positive every now and again.

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Newbie here. We have been experimenting in the lifestyle for just a few months. My best friend is a long time swinger and hotwife. We have not played with them because we are afraid it would get weird. Mostly it has been good. We have played with 3 couples full swap and a single male for a threesome before this all with condoms. We met a couple and they had good chemistry. We went to their place. The man had mentioned fucking his wife that morning. When playing my husband went down on her and was totally into it. The man asked if we could go bareback. We all on the spot decided to try it. Something new. Our rule had been condoms. I know it is dangerous to change rules on the spot, but we did. Sex was good. Better than with a condom by far. After every play date before my husband and I had great sex again when we got home. This time he claimed he was tired. The next night I initiated sex. I usually sit on his face a while during foreplay. It gets him really excited. He pushed me away and said he didn't want the guys cum in his mouth. We got in a massive argument. I'm livid. I literally had watched him go down on the other woman and they'd had sex that same day. He admitted he'd said he wasn't in the mood because he knew he'd be expected to eat me out because that is always part of our sex. I'm so mad. He actually said we should just wait one more day. I called my friend and she said I should completely stop swinging which I don't want to do because we've mostly had fun times and even when not it has been interesting. I said I think I liked it to much. She then offered to loan me her husband. Said I could use him once a week and then my husband would have the option of either getting over it and eating me or go without sex. She called it training. Her husband never needed training though as he supposedly gets off on her getting creampies. Neither of her suggested ideas work for me. I'm hurt and angry about this. Our rule would still be condoms usually, but now I'm wanting to not have them just because of this. He should like me sexually at all times I think. I'm so mad. Advice would be good.

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