Response Posts Are Valid Too. 🤷‍♂️

Response posts are valid too. 🤷‍♂️

Cw: abuse mentioned, long ass post

Hey, to everyone reading this post. This is a response to the callout post created by @/sweetlyticklish regarding me. I recommend reading it first, then coming to me.

First off: do not send any hate, anonymous or not, to my ex or anyone she has affiliated with. There's no reason to be spreading more vitriol in this weird ass community. Anything that has been or is being sent is done so without my knowledge. 

To anyone who has sent me anonymous hate: This is a serious matter, and it's always right to believe in someone claiming to be a victim of abuse or some shady shit when possible. I don't blame you. I also don't care that it was sent, and I'm not going to respond to asks, or any message that wasn't sent in good faith. And if you are uncomfortable with me or have any grievance of your own, that's your right.

Now, let's talk about it.

My ex is a compulsive liar. She won’t do so unless she knows she can get away with it and it gives her some type of sympathy or social standing.

We never seemed to be in sync, despite us both thinking otherwise. We had some massive arguments on a frequent basis. When we had some of our biggest fights, I received anonymous hate that had some information that only she could have known. From this, I knew she was telling other community members about that fight, and potentially others.

She has every right to talk to her close friends about relationship problems. But also, who would be sending me hate in that instance?

Second, I found messages to her friends in a discord I wasn’t in, with an assortment of strange false statements.

Here are some of those statements:

- She was pushed over by a homeless man at a target

Context: We were briefly harassed by a homeless man at a target. He was yelling about some random shit in the parking lot, and as we were walking towards our car, he started following and yelling at us about 100 feet back. He never touched either of us, and never got closer than 40 feet or so. I know it's the incident she was talking about because she messaged them about it the day this happened.

- She "made out with Flo Rida" (I'm not kidding)

Context: We were at one of her work events, and they managed to have FLO RIDA actually come and visit and perform for us? I have no idea how they managed to do it, but they did. It was a pretty huge event for work, they often went all out. Anyways, my ex got drunk and she went out to party in the mosh pit area, and Flo Rida was giving out drinks, and he ended up pouring some into her mouth. Idk how it went from that to making out with him? Maybe it was an indirect kiss with him taking a sip and then pouring into her mouth, idk.

- She mentioned that I was her "situation" and that I drove over to see her on her lunch break at work without asking and trying to "have a talk" with her

Context: I texted her: "hey do u want me to bring you lunch?"

She responded: "yeah definitely"

So I went and brought her lunch so we could eat during her break. We didn't "have a talk" we just sat in the car eating lunch together talking about our days. I'm not even sure she was mad at me during this time

I never knew she labeled herself "it's complicated" for her relationship status. This was before I even thought about being polyamorous, which was months later. My ex was living with my best friend, who confirmed to me later she was talking with this guy on calls and basically flirting with him nonstop.

Notice the pattern of these lies. They're based on real events that happen, but because I'm not there to say anything, they can be altered to a more extreme story and gain greater sympathy.

There were many instances where I've suspected some lie happening here and there, but was never able to prove it. She's also asked me to lie for her for seemingly innocuous reasons.

Real example:

-My friend saw her on the phone with someone while I wasn't there. They asked who she was talking to; said it was me.

-My friend messaged me asking what we were calling about. I said we never called.

-Friend confronts her, confused. She panics, begging me to tell her we actually were on the phone and I was the one who lied. I did it.

Sorry for any bad image quality. Do I know who she was actually talking to? I have no idea. She ended up telling me it was her family. Is it true? I dunno if I care to know.

There were other messages that involved her fear of my treatment of her, which I would contest but I cannot prove wrong as they were described very generally. We all have our secrets including myself, but this particular collection of statements were very strange to me.

I confronted her with these messages, to which she confessed were real. After a week of thinking, I broke up with her. Despite being angry with her lying, and confused why she would talk to her friends about me like this, I still loved her, and wanted to remain friends with her. I kept bonding with her, and we even had sessions which I seriously regret. It was deeply wrong of me to keep her attached, and I shouldn't have put her in that situation.

If you're someone who has talked to me in a sexual or otherwise intimate manner, it was likely after this point. We did eventually get back together, though.

I don't think she had any long-term character assassination plan or did anything out of malice, she simply wanted heightened sympathy from her peers. And I believe there were also parts where she genuinely did feel wronged or abused, which were reflected in other messages. It's not my right to tell her her own feelings.

To my old ex-friends, you are intelligent and kind. There is no shame in remaining friends with her, and I'm glad she's had the necessary support to get to where she is today. Your decisions only made sense based on the cumulative contempt that she's brought from her account of what happened. I hold no hatred over you for choosing her friendship. She is sweet, funny, highly spirited, speaks with candor when the time calls for it, and easy to talk to. It's why I fell in love with her back in the day.

As for stalking: Have you ever looked at an old friend's social media, with a wistful sigh of wishing things were different? Cause I sure have every once in a while. I’m not here to keep tabs on you. I don’t look at your account if you’ve blocked me.

As for twisting the narrative: I've told a grand total of 2 close friends I've made on this horny ass app about these types of stories of my ex. If you think I've been spreading some type of misinformation, you'd be wrong cause I haven't truly talked to people on this app much at all since the first breakup. I was just now working up the courage to spread out a bit more, which she probably noticed.

If there's some type of dirt she has on me, I'm happy to talk about it. Anyone who has sent me some type of content, rest in the fact that if there's something I have saved on my computer, I have no idea it's there lol. Saving someone's photos/content is not okay, and I've never had any intention of keeping anything. 

There are more things that happened in our relationship, but this post has gone on long enough.

I helped pack your things with your family into their truck. You asked for a goodbye kiss in front of them. I did it. I watched you all drive away. You wanted me to have your life360 on your drive to Texas so I'd know you got home safe.

And now you're spreading more bullshit about me. I'm tired of it. I'm not going to make another response post. Keep your friends, I don't mind them having you. I hope you and your new partner are doing well. I assume it’s B*****n? You know, the one you said you had  mutual feelings for, and they were telling you to leave me for them? Or maybe you’re with someone else. Like Carrot, the other B*****n who “called everyone bb” on the server where you set your relationship status to “it’s complicated” without my knowledge. The one where my friend told me they heard you flirting with someone on the phone, or the one you were texting while we were watching movies together in a group.

ALSO, does anyone have some type of tech that will let me gain access to texts from my old phone that I no longer have? It would help me with more concrete evidence on this.

I'm keeping my accounts btw. I'm not running away from being blocked or trying to avoid conflict, I'm keeping the username on here and FetLife. If it ever changes, I’ll update my tumblr to reflect that. I don't hide and leave servers when things get a bit uncomfortable.

Anyways, BOUNDLESS LOVE TO YOU ALL GOODBYE