It’s The Little Things He Does Now Without Me Even Asking For That Makes Me Feel I Made The Right Decision.

Better than nothing, right? ❤

COMMON DOM RED FLAGS 🚩

Never saying “I don’t know”. Like many other subjects BDSM is always evolving so no matter how experienced you think you are you can always still learn and should regularly do your research on your interests. Also watch out for the 20 year old Doms with 10 years experience that will “train” you. It’s common sense , be careful.

“You don’t need a safe word/signal”. Yes you do. Always. And it’s sacred. It’s not a mood killer. It’s not weakness. It’s necessary so you can enjoy a nice time while being SAFE.

Refusing to provide or receive any form of aftercare. Aftercare should be present in all forms of sexual interaction, even sexting, for both sides.

Comparing you to a previous partner or saying things like “my last sub would have done what you said no to”. Shows zero respect for your limits , boundaries and you as a person. It’s one of the early stages of abuse. Stay away.

Punishing you outside of a sexual act or acting like he owns you 24/7 without this being discussed and agreed upon beforehand.Another clear sign of abuse. Leave.

Pushing your limits without your permission. Physically or mentally. It’s something that should never happen if you are not feeling completely safe and ready for it.

Getting punished for saying no. You can say so to anything you are not feeling ok with. And a real Dom will respect it.

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