Here’s My Metaphor For Systemhood That I Tell My Singlet Friends.

This is a reminder that you can still serve cunt while using a mobility aid, hope that helps

Y’ever read something and have understanding that has eluded you interminably suddenly stop, curl up, and snuggle neatly into a fold in your brain because a new way way opened to it?

it's quite frustrating when you work up the courage to tell someone you have DID, but they hit you with "well, *i've* never noticed you switch" or "to me you're always the same person".

i think those statements are so misinformed to how DID (most often) presents. there are some things to note when observing DID from the outside:

not all cases of DID are overt. overt refers to your symptoms, switches & differences between alters being obvious to people from the outside. overt DID is less common than its counterpart *covert* (more secretive) DID. in covert DID, symptoms may be less noticeable from the outside, & that may lead to difficulty being diagnosed.

masking. masking is the ability some people possess to pretend to be someone/something that they are not. in DID, alters who are not the host part may mask as the host part to feel safe, undetectable, or simply out of instinct. before discovery of the system, this may be a subconscious effort; after discovery of the system, this may be purposeful in order to hide alter differences from others, for any reason.

complexity of identity. let us imagine that the host in a system is an ambivert - not quite introverted, & not quite extroverted. this host switches out, in front of their friend group, & a social part or other extroverted & friendly alter takes their place. their friends assume that they are just in a "friendlier mood", while in reality this person has switched. meanwhile this alter has a completely different set of interests, identity, & such, but since it is not brought up in conversation, the friend group does not suspect their friend has switched between separated self-states. identity is complex, & alters are (often, not always) able to feel & express a large range of emotions, depending in their mood. this can make it harder to tell the difference between an alter being in a strange mood, & a whole new part fronting!

so, next time you meet someone with DID, believe them. not all of our experiences are visible! edit: "DID" here can also be replaced with OSDD1, P-DID or UDD, but i just used DID because that's my specific experience.

SHE SAID. BITCH.

"ai is making it so everyone can make art" Everyone can make art dipshit it came free with your fucking humanity

sex is fun but it isn't sacred which is part of why we even fight for bodily autonomy and privacy in the bedroom. one night stands and quickies and casual sex are all morally neutral. to mythologize sex as the ultimate intimacy through which people eternally connect is ridiculous and serves only to empower the christofascist regime which uses sex and intimacy as simultaneous weapons of oppression and beneficiary incentives for everyone to stay in line with the status quo.

sex is fun and it feels good and there is nothing wrong with having sex. at the same time sex is nothing particularly special or great either. It's just another thing humans are capable of. we give the concept of sex too much power tbqh.

reading fanfic abt yourself as a fictive:

i always, always, ALWAYS immediately go "what do you mean?"

because then they have to explain what they mean and what they're asking for and usually

the explanation makes them embarrassed or confused enough to stop asking :)

Some funny/less paltable things you can say when people invasively ask why you have a mobility aid!

"It's a weapon."

Ignore them

Something dramatic like "Oh I was attacked by a shark" or "I got caught in a zombie apocalypse"

"It's to spice up my outfit"

"I tried to build an army of insert favorite animal and they turned on me :("

"What insert mobility aid?"

"Why do you have an insert mobility aid?"

"Why do you not have an insert mobility aid"

"Do I know you?"

"Yeah I guess I just couldn't wait for my 60s"

RB/comment your go-to when somebody asks about your mobility aid!

A Small Reminder For OSDDID Systems

There is no such thing as the "perfect system." Your brain developed this disorder in the best way it saw fit to help you survive. As such, your system structure and the way it functions is specific to you, the trauma you underwent, and the way you reacted to it.

You might have more nonhuman alters than other systems, or you might form introjects easier. You might have hundreds of fragments, or you might have none. You might have 2 alters, you might have 10, or you might have hundreds.

Your system is catered towards your specific needs. While we all share symptoms and aspects in common, our systems are unique to us. What that means differs from person to person. Some might have hundreds of introjects, and some might have none. Both system were needed for their body's survival.

Your system is valid as it is, even if others try to tell you otherwise. What your system "should" be like is exactly how it already is because it's your system, and it was made to help you survive.