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and also dean never understands sam as a person, he only sees them as parents see their children. Not as another human capable of decisions, and containing thoughts, but as a being that will make mistakes and needs to be protected. He never saw sam’s addiction for what it was, his coping mechanism, but saw it as a fuck up from foolish choices. He never came out of thinking how anything sam does is just a bad decision, that he could have prevented. ANd he does go fucking things up to take control whenever given the chance, like killing whichever ‘monster’ sam decided was just as human as them. He never understand’s sam’s arch on having demon blood in him and first thinking of purifying himself of it and then embracing it and battling in between. It’s the same war crime parents commit on their kids. Like zero empathy space, because they are “children” and don’t know what they are doing, and god forbid they have “thoughts of their own” that are not “phases”. The whole toxic shit goes so much both ways and that’s why siblings aren’t supposed to be in the parenting dynamic.
still fucked up about the fact that sam started the series without like. Knowing dean. in dead in the water sam’s comment about dean caring about the kid - “who are you and what have you done with my brother?” and deans subsequently offended yet defeated face; sam knows dean like a child knows a parent, not really at all, distorted and incomplete, as figure and not person