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Hey chat, its me i was in a hole

Anyway, said hole was a new fandom and I am still in the hole

I am enjoying the hole, DO NOT PULL ME OUT OF THE HOLE.

Anyway heres a fantastic explanation as to what this new interesting fandom is:

ive been seeing your talk about this on my dash a lot and i really would like to (politely) clear up a misconception i think you're having. i think you're confusing "kink" with "bdsm". "kink" is ANYTHING that is considered "unconventional" with regards to sex. thinking feet are kinda sexy is kink. wanting to see pregnant bellies in otherwise normal sex is kink. men wearing lacy lingerie is kink. "bdsm" is "bondage, domination, and sadomasochism" which is a TYPE of kink that can involve inflicting and receiving pain (sadomasochism) as well as handcuffs and restraints. it's meant to be negotiated by everyone involved. kink isn't always "hardcore". sometimes kink is wanting to fuck a guy with a paper bag on his head

no I know that, trust me I do..... I've been hypersexual for the majority of my life, wanting to recover. I know too much, seen too much.

I'm just using it as an overall term that I'm more comfortable with than bdsm, which is probably wrong-

but since I think kink ≠ bdsm

but bdsm = kink

and many others seem to use it wrong colloquially too so... I'm just wanting to make myself understood

rest under the cut bc nsfw talk!

there's a difference between fetish and kink too as far as I know? there's like those that are pretty cool to you but not necessary to reach satisfaction, those that are preferred bc it's hard to reach satisfaction otherwise and those where it's necessary and nothing else will work. I forgot the english words but it was in a scientific article-

but the last option is definitely a fetish, right

yeah so apart from 1 thing I consider myself vanilla.

I'm into Flug bc he's fictional and I don't consider him masked, I think of him as an object head (and I don't wanna see his face, I wish the bag was his head) idk if being objectum is kink or a sexuality. I would have labeled myself as latter since this applies to romantic feelings for me too. the bag/mask itself isn't the object of my desire.

and for pregnancy; I think a better description of it would be impregnation then, huh. I don't fw that personally. (that's mostly what's being found under the "pregnancy kink" tag, a lot of nonconsensual impregnation fantasies or "hyper" stuff, and lots of pain related things. at least during the 1 time I checked it out, maybe I was unlucky!) but the way you describe it, yeah I can see it! that doesn't make me uncomfortable. even tho I don't get any kind of sexual feelings out of this thought. I just think it's aesthetically pretty, whether clothed or naked.

but I would draw that for example. bc I'm neutral to that.

I don't ever really feel sexual feelings.

so ig I am not into kink... nor bdsm... but more comfortable with all kinks outside of bdsm (the clothes are cool tho. like just in general, I'd wear that for fun outside if it wasn't socially inappropriate.) (and clearly I'm ace)

extremely interesting conversation tho, thank you!😭