Curate, connect, and discover
I know I am not everyone's cup of tea, and that is ok. But it never ceases to make me a little sad whenever I see a post from a blog and think "oh that's cool, let me see what else they got" only to find out they have blocked me despite having never interacted with them lol. I guess my content is just not for everyone.
Pro-tip...do not fall down the stairs in your 30s. Especially don't fall down and cause your lower body a muscle strain that leaves you limping for days.
Born to conquer dungeons and vanquish dragons.
Forced to do Excel spreadsheets and corporate meetings.
I should start reading again. Been a very long time since I read a book but with my interests in watching any show other than anime dwindling down, I figure it's a good a time as any. Maybe I'll finally give Red Rising a chance.
So something happened recently that normally I would just forget about it a day or two after, but I figured it presented me with a perfect opportunity to share something that is very important to me as well as the kink community.
Recently I met up for the first time with this potential Lee I have been talking to online for a few weeks. Our talks online had good chemistry, and even our facetimes went well.
The day we met, our date seemed to go fine at first, but eventually I did notice that she felt off. It was as if she just didn't really wanna be there, and I was not sure why. I asked if there was something I said that made her uncomfortable and she said no. Our date concluded, and we said our goodbyes with the promise of talking later to see if we would like to set up some sessions.
She messaged me 30 minutes later, saying she decided to meet me on a whim, almost on an impulse, and that she never really intended to go that far. She never really wanted to set up a session and was just seeing how far she could go before backing out.
As confused as I was, I simply said "no worries. I completely understand. Best wishes on everything and let me know if you ever changed your mind".
And this brought to mind a concept that I think many people in the community seem to not understand...NOBODY OWES ANYBODY NOTHING.
Lees; you don't owe any Ler a session. If you do not feel comfortable at all, no matter the reason, you do not have to accept to any demands from anyone wanting to session with you. Remember that "NO" is a full sentence.
Lers; you don't owe any Lee a session. If you don't want to tickle someone, no matter the reason, you don't have to. Plain and simple. But in that same vein, if a Lee says no, then you don't need an explanation. No is no. You aren't going to be every Lee's cup of tea, and that is OK.
I only bring this up because I have seen far too many posts lately about Lees saying they felt pressured when they rejected a potential Ler, and were asked to give an explanation. You don't owe an explanation to anybody. And Lers, you will have Lees that reject you. It is part of the game. And that is OK. It is not an indictment on you. Sometimes you simply do not connect, and that is ok. You simply have to respect their wishes and move on.
Thank you for coming to my TED talk.