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Better Left A Fantasy

I came across a post on Tumblr the other day that brought me back to this thought. The post was from a man’s blog, he was talking about how he was never going to fuck his wife again because he was loyal to a woman here on Tumblr. The concept was very hot. The idea of submitting to a younger more dominant woman, and sacrificing physical intimacy with his wife; quite an extreme within the world of femdom. At least in my opinion. Extreme, because realistically, morally, I find the idea absolutely terrible. To abandon a spouse for another person, to ignore their physical and emotional needs to fulfill your own lustful fantasies and fetishes. Absolutely disgraceful.

Yet, within the realm of fantasy, that level of taboo. That level of it being so wrong. Makes it hotter.

A few years ago my wife and I explored the concept of open marriages. Multiple partners. Cuckolding type scenarios. The fantasy was always hot, and to an extent the reality was too. But I found that it was too much of an emotional strain. I found that my beliefs about marriage and loyalty and monogamy outweighed my fetish about sharing my wife. It was, better left as a fantasy. One that we still role play with toys often enough! Lol.

Everyone has different moral codes. Different levels of what is ok or what is too far. What is better left as a fantasy for me, might be absolutely fine with another person. Just makes me think about how varied people’s limits are within this kinky and complicated world we all share. Exploring is healthy, finding what is right for you and your partner is healthy, just keep in mind that some things might be better in your mind than in reality.