B. The Obsessions Or Compulsions Are Time-consuming (e.g., Take More Than 1 Hour Per Day) Or Cause Clinically

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im so fucking sick of people saying “you know what you did.” because no i dont. i have no fucking idea what i did and i cant fix it or apologize to you or not do it again if you dont fucking tell me what to be sorry about. if im asking what i did wrong, I DONT FUCKING KNOW WHAT I DID WRONG.

hunter "luz better think i'm the coolest guy around" deamonne

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You don’t need to go into a spiral every time you have your intrusive thoughts. You don’t need to spend time feeling guilty and bad about them to be a good person.

Honestly, it got easier to ignore my intrusive thought when I reacted neutrally to them. When I’d get one and go “oh, you’re an intrusive thought”. It allowed me to roll my eyes at it and move on.

Where spending time feeling bad about them because I thought I needed to feel bad about them to still be a good person just got me stuck in them. It left the thoughts happening for longer and more intensely for me. It was also more distressing to me.

You don’t need to feel guilt for your intrusive thoughts. It’s okay to just move on and carry on with your life. They don’t define you.

Wow so who else gets extremely worked up thinking they have to confess to their partner a “big secret” or “bad thought” or “deal breaking worry” and then immediately after confessing it (and sometimes having a full on conversation or even argument about it) gets into a state of cuddly bliss and feels super in love despite having just been extremely stressed and feeling like everything was about to come crashing down????

and followup what the hell is this??? Is it rocd?? Is it just relationship anxiety??? Is it just general like anxious attachment?? What is this pattern bc it definitely happens to me like I feel intense distress and think the relationship is about to end with this conversation and then immediately afterward I feel over the moon in love relieved wanting to make out whatever the whole 9 yards

Neurotypical: You should help me put more it's the nice thing to do.

Autistic: Okay, I'll do whatever you need me to do. Just tell me what to do.

Neurotypical: I shouldn't have to tell you what to do, just help.

Autistic: How can I help????

Neurotypical: You're so inconsiderate for not helping even when I don't ask directly for help.

This is a personal experience of mine and I can't describe how frustrating it feels!

I will literally do what you tell me to if you just say it!

I can't understand when you might want my help, so all you have to do is ASK DIRECTLY!

Don't do shit like "oh I wish someone could help me." Because I won't know if that'd a joke or not!

Just say, "Hey can you help me clean this?" Or "Hey do you kind getting the mail for me?"

It's not that hard.

I'm not inconsiderate for not helping you when you didn't ask.

what it’s like to learn that you’re autistic as an adult.

“im a seed

and i’ve been sowed on to sand.

my whole life i’m raised as a crop seed, like my friends and family. so that’s what i believe i am.

but i can see them growing, and im still just a seed.

i just don’t fit in.

i wonder whats was wrong with me.

i start to think maybe i’m a bad seed, not meant to be successful.

When i turned 18 i was pulled into the ocean by the tide.

i’m panicking because i know i can’t survive out here alone. no one prepared me for this.

i get to the bottom of the ocean.

i realize this is reality. there’s nothing i can do about it. this is just adulthood.

i start to sprout.

the only way this is possible is if im actually a sea plant. but there’s no way. my parents would have told me.

but i never was a crop seed.

i’ve always been sea weed.

i start to grow.

and i realize there was never anything wrong with me.

so now i know who i am, and i can live the rest of my life. happily, a sea weed.”