Sorry, hijacking a post here. I wanted to add my own thoughts to this too. As some one who is largely a Dean fan but also as someone who also loves Sam.
I agree partly. I agree that Sam not looking for Dean or cas hurt him. I don't think he was upset with Sam because he decided to stop being a hunter but rather cause he expected Sam to look for him, to try to save him no matter what because that's kinda what they do for each other.
Despite their flaws, these brothers will go to hell and back for each other. That's what we know as an audience ever since Season 1 and that's what Dean knows too.
They can always be sure that if the other was in danger, or dead that the other will fight tooth and nail to bring them back. Even if they aren't comfortable talking with each other, or having conversations without their walls and shields. (Mostly Dean because he doesn't like putting his feelings on Sam. 1. Because he was taught to help/take care of Sam. 2. Because his trauma made him believe that his feelings don't matter and he is there to help others. Which of course isn't true but John sucks)
The reason why I really dislike Season 8 Sam is because his decisions and actions don't match up with any other season of Sam. I was blind sighted. Completely baffled when I watched it.
Because the Sam we know WOULD of looked for Dean and Cas. From everything we know, he would of. There's so many examples of him desperately looking for ways to save Dean. From Season 1 to 5, then again in season 10 and on. Season 1 episode 12. All of season 3. Flashbacks in season 4 to when Dean was dead are all examples of this.
My favorite trait of Sam's, other than his snarkiness of course, is his stubborness and the things he's willing to do to get what he wants. It reminds me of John but not, because while John will push until he dies to get revenge even if it hurts his kids, even if HE hurts his kids in the process, Sam cares about Dean and those around him. He will hold back if it means itll hurt Dean. Exp: Season 1 finale. The exception being, if Dean is dying. The things he's willing to do to save his big brother is insane and I would do the same thing if I were him.
In Season 8, Sam was weirdly apathetic about Dean being gone. I was very confused. I thought he was possessed or something.
So I'm with Dean. I would be hurt too. Simply because saving each other from death is their love language. Really. Its how they show their love--- by protecting and saving each other. When Sam didn't do that it was odd. Even I as a viewer had to wonder if Sam still cared about Dean, even if it should be obvious he does. Cause Sam, as we know, cares about Dean alot. However, season 8 didn't feel like Sam so I didn't know what to expect.
If Sam just looked for Dean, even for a week I would of been totally fine. Dean probably too. I would literally give not two shits that he started a life with Amelia, because I too, if I was sure my brother was dead and I was still hurt by my time in hell, would also look for some simple peaceful times. Do I think Sam, as characterized previously would settle down? Um, actually maybe. With season 7 basically being the 'sam suffers' season I do think he might of wanted a break.
I also have opinions on Sam not looking for Kevin but it doesn't really have much to do about this discussion and it's so out of character I can't even-
Now, my opinion is quite different from yours later in your post. I do not think Dean is controlling. like at all. He's not upset about Sam's independent thinking. And it's not like Sam cares about Dean's opinion on the healthy food he eats. Dean calls the salads he eats 'rabbit food' but Sam also comments on the junk food Dean eats. Its just these brothers teasing each other. It doesn't really mean anything. They aren't deeply insecure about their food.
Sam is also a VERY independent thinker. Hes constantly doing what he wants to do. He went with Dean in season 1 because he wanted to get revenge on the demon. He wanted to do hunts in season 2 (at least in the second episode) because he thinks it's what his dad would want, sure it's because of someone's (his stupid father) opinion but ultimately it's what he wanted to do. John isn't even there. In Season 3 he wants to save Dean, even if Dean doesn't want him too. Season 4 is literally Sam just doing what he wants despite Dean's warnings (which were correct of course. 😌 I'm proud of my boy) In season 5 he wants to stop the apocalypse. It was even his choice to let Lucifer take over his body in the end. Then it was his choice to sacrifice himself.
Most of the time Dean is encouraging Sam to do normal things. Hes actually quite upset that Sam didn't get a normal life. Like in Season 1 in the Shtriga episode when he admits that he wanted Sam to have kept his innocence as a child.
Dean WANTS Sam to have a normal life. So that's not what he was upset about in season 8. It was cause Sam didn't even bother to look. Even for a bit. Even with the amount of energy and time it takes to do a simple hunt. He just decided that Dean was dead i guess and moved on.
However, Dean isn't insecure about Sam's independent thinking.
Man, season 8 Sam makes me mad.
I’m on S8 of my rewatch and man, Sam not looking for Dean after he disappeared into Purgatory really triggered Dean’s abandonment issues. 
I mean, yeah, Dean was pissed off because Sam didn’t even bother looking for him, and just kind of started a new life for himself, which is understandable. But it just clicked for me how much that would have exacerbated Dean’s abandonment issues.
Dean’s abandonment issues are so severe, that he even has difficulty with Sam having independent thought. Sam thinking about things differently or viewing things differently set Dean off. So many times, Sam expresses his independent thought, and Dean takes it as a personal attack on his own views and quickly snaps at him.
I mean it even trickles down to the choices Sam makes about the food he eats or the fact that he likes jogging to stay fit. 
Man…. that’s some serious shit right there.
All of the other campers are jealous of cabin 7 because Apollo is always with them and shows his love so openly and they just want a similar relationship with their parents
That boat has already sailed
I think about apollo and artemis so often. apollo is physically and emotionally abused by his father and his support system is basically non-existent, the only person he could've talked to is artemis because she knows how to deal with victims of abuse, she has been doing this for centuries but artemis unknowingly contributes to apollo's abuse by the nagging/lecturing (boo)which makes apollo believe that his father is in the right and the problem lies with apollo and this renders apollo even more unable to speak up. they're literally so special to me.they slowly drift apart because of the facade apollo puts on as a result of the abuse. artemis starts being constantly annoyed at her brother's presence because apollo now acts even more impulsively and triggers zeus' wrath and he's just an idiot in general who flirts with her hunters but she still gets worried when apollo doesnt drop in at the hunt atleast once every 3 weeks but tells herself that he must be fooling off on olympus with the other pompous fools or persuing some mortal. apollo doesn't listen to his father, doesn't pay attention at olympian meetings, calls her little sis despite knowing she helped delivered him and this all just makes her madder at him but he's her brother so she tolerates him. she thinks he's an idiot but is unaware of the fact that her dear little brother is an abuse victim, that too at the hands of their father. there's no way artemis has corelated apollo with abuse because cmon, apollo is an olympian, one of the most powerful beings, what creature would dare hurt him? and even if any did, he would take artemis' help because they're meant to fight side by side, as siblings, as they did against typhon and all the enemies of olympus.plus,apollo is very dramatic and expressive so either he'd tell her or she'd find it out herself.artemis is a daddy's girl, she knows that zeus is sometimes hard on apollo but it's because apollo was being an idiot again, and her father was just doing his job as king. apollo and artemis slowly drift apart as apollo tries to sheild his sister from the dark parts of his life and artemis is blissfully ignorant to the abuse happening behind the scenes and apollo thinks he's succeeded but he's left with loneliness and a constant sense of despair. he thinks his sister hates him because she never attends any of his concerts and she snaps and bickers with him whenever they meet and never has anything to good to say about him (ttc, boo) and doesn't want him around. as godlings they were so close and told each other everything ̶ ̶(except the truth about the python incident) and had secrets they kept from their mother but now they hardly have any meaningful conversation and all they do is bicker which is why artemis never told apollo about moonwater and the waystation. artemis never even defends his name in front of others (boo->its athena that steps in).
I love artemis unknowingly contributing to the abuse. themz<3
what i like about zettai bl is that the main character, seen by the eyes of other people who are Not Hatano and... sometimes... Not Toujou, he really fucking is a mob character. No face sometimes entirely, obscured or cut out of sight. His words just a help for others to develop, and seen as a flighty fucking bitch by Ayato because big bro is so much inside his own mind he does whatever he wants forgetting his arounds
He is fighting the world with no sword and shield but deflectiveness and acting autistic
Husk's secret weapon
I’m late to this party, but shhh here’s a comic
I need a fic where Lucifer doesn't like Alastor *at all* but the moment he finds out Vox has been stalking him and being just a fucking creep in general he's like "NOOO! He might be a fucking jackass but NO, NUH UH! HE SHOULDN'T HAVE TO DEAL WITH THAT!" But Charlie stops him cuz she doesn't want him to hurt sinners (cause let's be honest she would still try to defend his life) and it isn't until Vox, like, says something that ONLY the Hazbin group were around for that they all realize "OH. SHIT. HE'S LIKE, *CREEPY* CREEPY." Then when they, ya'know, protect him from the weird ass stalker, he's surprised SPECIFICALLY that Vaggie and Lucifer helped cuz they seem to hate him. Then comfort happens, with lots of them hugging and cuddling Alastor.
I physically need it, please.
everyone's favorite boy!!!
In-ho: I just want to destroy Gi-hun and make his life miserable
In-ho: *sees Gi-hun crying*
In-ho: I will destroy every aspect of known universe and burn whatever remains to ashes in order to be sure I eradicated whatever hurt him
Not my normal reblog but Idc, I like all Richard Graysons with my whole heart
My brother is obsessed with TTG, and I am baffled. We binged it, and I looked around in the... Fandom? I know the show is lighthearted, but I'm a psychology nerd.
Tw: Abuse, neglect, shitty people in general, mind conzrol and trauma. Progress with caution.
Not many people talk about the abuse Robin faces. I don't understand why is there basicaly no angsty content.
I also want to scoop that boy up and hug him and take him away from those people that surround him.
This boy has no positive influence in his life. Get him a therapyst.
He's neglected. I was sick watching this.
WHAT THE HELL DUDE this was genuinely hard to watch, and even the colour coded idiots aknowledge how badly he was treated.
Oh but they don't get away scott free. The little idiots.
They constantly hurt him (which I noticed is a reocurring joke, but it happens to him so constantly that it's not even humour. It's just... painful.)
What the fuck was that prank?
Considering I know his backstory pretty well (look, I watch enough dc), this prank just makes me want to cry. He smiles. His smile broke my heart. I genuinely started crying, alonside Robin. It was not a nice experience.
So they clearly don't have a problem with triggering traumatic responses.
Robin is also almost always the butt of the joke, even tough he is the leader nobody respects him.
Which would be understandable if he didn't try his damn hardest. He's resourceful and can make the best of a situation.
Like the time he got dance powers (which is just amazing, holy shit I want dance powers).
He found great use of an othervise "useless" pover.
Speaking of useless, his "friends" look down on him because he has no powers. Even though he is capable of beating all of them without it.
Yknow, like in the movie.
Oh yeah, nice recall to the movie the one where they competed with the Super Hero Girls team (love that show).
Y'know, where it started like this
And ended like this in like, five seconds.
Abandonment issues go brrr:
He's my angsty boy.
Also, the fact that he answered mind control on the last question, and it wasn't even on the board, broke something in me.
I can go on about this, but I won't. It's not like anyone will care.
Trans, Aroace, He/Him, Autistic, Artist, Writer. Lover of one-sided ships
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