It's Darkly Amusing To Me That Some People Thought My Mom Didn't "discipline" Me Enough As A Kid, Were

It's darkly amusing to me that some people thought my mom didn't "discipline" me enough as a kid, were not shy about making sure both she AND I knew it, and now as an adult I'm one of the only people in my friend group who still wants anything to do with their parents. The proof is in the pudding, as they say.

When I was a kid, I broke a ceramic soap dispenser. I burst into tears and was terrified that I was going to be in trouble. My mom told me that it was okay, because accidents happen sometimes, and the important thing was that I didn't do it on purpose and apologized.

When someone else I know was a kid, they broke a dish on accident and got screamed at and guilt tripped. To this day, they have to push down a panic attack at the sound of broken glass, and have had to actively work on healing from that trauma. They will always have to carry that.

I think maybe it's not MY mom who fucked up in the "how to discipline your child" department. Quite frankly, I think the idea of "disciplining children" is fucked up and deeply harmful on a fundamental level.

When a kid does something wrong, you have to teach them how to fix it and do better. Humans are messy and complicated and we don't know everything there is to know just by being born. Children are learning how to be human beings, and that's a really hard thing to learn.

Kids question and fight back against authority that mistreats them, but someone treating them like a human being with human emotions is usually going to have a lot of success. Kids just want to be respected, and it's our job as adults to give them that basic human dignity. The world is utterly terrifying, and made scarier when all the grown-ups seem to hate you and wish you would just shut up and go away, even the ones that claim they want you around.

Kids can be mean, because they're still learning how to socialize and communicate and collaborate. Sometimes you have to give them time to cool off, and sometimes you have to redirect them. Sometimes you have to be firm. Sometimes you have to be an adult, and hone your conflict de-escalation and resolution skills. None of that requires punishment.

And if a child does something truly cruel and fucked up and shitty, and it hurts someone in a big way? My first question isn't "what should their punishment be," my first question is always, "who taught this kid that, and is this child in active danger from them?"

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2 years ago

SIGN-UP FOR PROMPT 524: MESSAGE

SIGN-UP FOR PROMPT 524: MESSAGE

This week's prompt is: MESSAGE.

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Starting 07/03/2022, RPF will no longer be allowed as part of the challenge.

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6 years ago

Please

May you find exactly what you want at the thrift shop, in your price range, next time you’re there.

3 years ago

Absolutely

Reblog if you think fanfiction is a legitimate form of creative writing.

1 year ago
The Other Wonderful Fic Made Off My Art For The @stacksonreversebang

The other wonderful fic made off my art for the @stacksonreversebang

This is a story by @always-mimits and I can tell you its so much sassy goodness.

True or Faux

courting, Getting Together, Model Jackson Whittemore, Mermaids, Vernon Boyd & Jackson Whittemore Friendship, Erica Reyes & Jackson Whittemore Friendship, Erica Reyes is a Little Shit, Creature Stiles Stilinski, Sassy Lydia Martin ​

Summary:

Professional faux mermaid Jackson is doing photo shoots in the ocean on a boat, these are the five times he gets a strange gifts that unaware where they were coming from and the one time he met his suitor, a true mermaid.

The Other Wonderful Fic Made Off My Art For The @stacksonreversebang
6 years ago

Men like to believe theyd be great in apocalypse scenarios but they dont even know how to sew

6 years ago

site that you can type in the definition of a word and get the word

site for when you can only remember part of a word/its definition 

site that gives you words that rhyme with a word

site that gives you synonyms and antonyms

6 years ago

reblog if…

• you think Trans boys can still be boys with long hair

• you think Trans boys can still be boys if they like dresses

• you think Trans boys can still be boys even with no physical transition

• you think Trans boys can still be boys if they’re “feminine”

• you think Trans boys can still be boys if they like pink

• you think Trans boys can still be boys

7 years ago
Adapt To This
Adapt To This
Adapt To This
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Adapt To This

Adapt to this

2 years ago

SIGN-UP FOR PROMPT 515: CELEBRATION

SIGN-UP FOR PROMPT 515: CELEBRATION

This week's prompt is: CELEBRATION.

Welcome to Full Moon Ficlet, the weekly prompt community for Teen Wolf!

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New chapters from a WIP or series are welcome, but please post your story or chapter in its entirety! Posting a chapter or story that is incomplete just makes readers sad. Choose the closest proper category (fic or ficlet) when you submit your completed work for the masterlist.

You can post your fic(let) or art ANYWHERE. If you post on AO3, please feel free to add it to the collection for this week's prompt (FMF_515).

Use the submission form to tell us about your fic by Saturday, December 17, 2022, by 10 am Eastern time in order to have it included on the masterlist.

There is no limit on the number of people who can sign up! Every prompt is a new week and a new event; you only sign up for one week at a time. There is no consequence for pledging to write and being unable to submit a fic that week. We understand that life interferes!

Now go have fun and create new fanworks for Teen Wolf! Art, fic, ficlets; everything is welcome. Enjoy, and get creative!

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Always_MimiTs

My name is Sunflower, SunflowerQueen when it comes to my art, Always_MimiTs on AO3 I'm 26 years old and I'm a shy outgoing person as weird as that might sound together. And if anyone ever needs someone to talk to I'll be here for them no matter what. :) Pronouns are they/them

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