I Appreciate It When Someone ELSE Says They're So Sorry Or Something Similar; When *I* Say It, Though,

You are the sweetest and such a delight to work with. I really hope we get to work together again. 💗💕💜

I can never be more thankful to the outstanding @always-mimits for being my last minute pinch hitter in this years @stacksonreversebang. I am so glad that you were able and willing to create such a perfectly sweet fic among all the other things you have going on (I don't know how you do it, darling). Thank you for being a wonderful partner and a phenomenal writer. I hope we get to work together again sometime!

Everyone bow to the SunflowerQueen and pay her the love she is due.

I absolutely love this.

Having the absolutely breathtaking realisation that Teen Derek Hale would probably be fucking terrified of Stiles. Not in a physical way, obviously, he’s still a werewolf and Stiles is still human, but in a social ‘oh my god this person is so much cooler than me, how are we even interacting right now?’ way because if you think about it, Derek “Too School for Cool” Hale:

sits by himself at lunch

has absolute crap social skills

can quote Shakespeare

knows “The Crucible” well enough to know it’s an allegory for McCarthyism

knows about berserkers, kanimas, kitsune, wendigos, etc. 

had his first crush on a band geek

hung out with exactly one (1) person, and that was his uncle

And on the other side of things, we have Stiles “Fuck Around and Find Out” Stilinski who:

actively lies to the literal Sheriff (also his dad, but tbh that’s just double danger points)

steals and makes illegal copies of keys

knows police radio code and has (illegal) access to police files

can start a car with a screwdriver

gets drunk in the forest with his bestie

breaks in the school at least semi-regularly just to fuck with his teachers

went looking for a dead body for fun

What I’m getting at here is that “117″ should have consisted solely of Derek going through every stage of Bi Panic and then inventing a few more whenever Stiles interacts with him directly while Scott looks absolutely be-fucking-fuddled because ‘dude, what did you do to him, I can smell his nerves from outside’ as Peter’s laughter is heard in the background, and Kate Argent fucks off to rot in the lowest circle of Hell. 

I have no idea how to feel this crushes my soul

If you take a young man and woman and they both tell a stranger that they work in the same restaurant, it’s very likely that they will assume that the woman is the waitress, and the young man a cook.

But I thought a woman’s place was in the kitchen? Not when she’s being paid for it. I can’t believe it took me this long to realize the implication of this. A woman’s place is one of servitude.

No one had a problem with Derek kissing Erica, who is the same age as stiles, or parish and Lydia almost dating but people shipping derek with stiles is grooming. Why is it okay if it's straight but not if it's gay?

(via Facebook)

So Arizona launched an “education hotline” that allows “concerned parents” to report “””critical race theory””” and other things like ~gender identity~ being taught in the classroom

It would be a shame if the number and email were spread to bad actors looking to prank call the AZ Department of Education

602-771-3500 or empower @ azed .gov 🤡

It's darkly amusing to me that some people thought my mom didn't "discipline" me enough as a kid, were not shy about making sure both she AND I knew it, and now as an adult I'm one of the only people in my friend group who still wants anything to do with their parents. The proof is in the pudding, as they say.

When I was a kid, I broke a ceramic soap dispenser. I burst into tears and was terrified that I was going to be in trouble. My mom told me that it was okay, because accidents happen sometimes, and the important thing was that I didn't do it on purpose and apologized.

When someone else I know was a kid, they broke a dish on accident and got screamed at and guilt tripped. To this day, they have to push down a panic attack at the sound of broken glass, and have had to actively work on healing from that trauma. They will always have to carry that.

I think maybe it's not MY mom who fucked up in the "how to discipline your child" department. Quite frankly, I think the idea of "disciplining children" is fucked up and deeply harmful on a fundamental level.

When a kid does something wrong, you have to teach them how to fix it and do better. Humans are messy and complicated and we don't know everything there is to know just by being born. Children are learning how to be human beings, and that's a really hard thing to learn.

Kids question and fight back against authority that mistreats them, but someone treating them like a human being with human emotions is usually going to have a lot of success. Kids just want to be respected, and it's our job as adults to give them that basic human dignity. The world is utterly terrifying, and made scarier when all the grown-ups seem to hate you and wish you would just shut up and go away, even the ones that claim they want you around.

Kids can be mean, because they're still learning how to socialize and communicate and collaborate. Sometimes you have to give them time to cool off, and sometimes you have to redirect them. Sometimes you have to be firm. Sometimes you have to be an adult, and hone your conflict de-escalation and resolution skills. None of that requires punishment.

And if a child does something truly cruel and fucked up and shitty, and it hurts someone in a big way? My first question isn't "what should their punishment be," my first question is always, "who taught this kid that, and is this child in active danger from them?"