Putting This Out There Bc Ppl Are Being A Bunch Of Asshats (specifically The ‘Fandom Problems’ Community)

Putting this out there bc ppl are being a bunch of asshats (specifically the ‘Fandom Problems’ community) toward one of my posts that they are choosing to repost abt

It’s kinda telling that out of that whole post about fandom etiquette and letting people enjoy things, the only part you chose to respond to was “if you’re homophobic just say so,” like that was the biggest issue—while completely ignoring the part about how people ruin others’ fun by pushing their standards or negativity into spaces where folks are just vibing.

Nobody said “you have to like bkdk or you’re homophobic.” The point was: if your dislike is rooted in double standards or discomfort with queerness, just own it. There’s a difference between “not vibing with a ship” and making snide comments, overanalyzing it to death, or dismissing queer dynamics as “toxic” while letting the same thing slide in straight ships.

It’s wild to pretend bkdk shippers “only say ur homophobic” when most are just exhausted from defending their enjoyment of a ship that constantly gets singled out because it’s two guys with a complex dynamic. You can dislike yaoi or yuri tropes, sure, but if that dislike only comes up when it’s queer ships and you give every straight trope a pass, maybe there is something deeper going on.

Also… weird how the whole message about letting people have fun and not pushing standards didn’t get a peep from you. Makes it feel like the real goal was just to stir something instead of making a valid counterpoint.

It’s honestly exhausting how much hate this ship gets. Like—bkdk isn’t even canon, and yet people act like it’s a threat to their entire worldview. The amount of discourse, nitpicking, and obsession some folks have with discrediting or tearing it down is wild. And when someone finally says, “hey, if your dislike is rooted in homophobia, just say that,” suddenly that’s the issue? Not the constant passive-aggressive comments, not the double standards, not the targeted hate—just that one sentence? Yeah, okay.

The original post wasn’t even aggressive. It was literally just: “stop ruining people’s fun by forcing your standards onto them.” And instead of engaging with that very valid point about fandom behavior, you laser-focused on one line and made a generalized statement about all bkdk shippers like that proves something.

It’s not about whether someone likes the ship or not—it’s about how people treat others for liking it. The hate isn’t just “I don’t like this ship,” it’s full-on essays, weird psychoanalysis, constant accusations of fetishizing, toxicity, or being delusional. And the fact that this only happens with queer ships like bkdk (and not, say, ships with the exact same rival dynamic but straight) says a lot.

Disliking yaoi/yuri tropes is fine. Preferring different ships is fine. But if your “criticism” is indistinguishable from what queerphobic people say, maybe that’s something worth sitting with instead of trying to make it a bkdk shipper problem.

Edit: I could also add so many ships that have been discriminated just because they are two dudes