This Is For All You Awkward Socializers Out There. The Ones Who Crave Connection, Want To Interact, But

This is for all you awkward socializers out there. The ones who crave connection, want to interact, but are so damn confused by it, or so intimidated by it, you never reach out first.

Or, if you do, you feel like the other person's just humoring you. Just giving the polite answers until you leave them alone. You read each interaction with that bored/slightly annoyed tone. That "I don't wanna be rude, but gawd, just leave me alone already so I can talk with the people I want to talk to" tone.

You know the one.

And then you curse your awkwardness, you withdraw and stop interacting. And when no one else reaches out to you (maybe because they too feel that awkward intimidation, but that doesn't occur to you, they're so outgoing! they're so confident! they're so cool!) you convince yourself that maybe you just weren't meant to have friends. No one seems to notice you're quieter than usual. Maybe you should just stop trying.

Maybe they think you're the rude one. You never meant to be rude, you're just so damn bad at doing this friend thing. How much interaction is too much? Are you smothering or aloof? Where's the line? Are you coming off funny and engaging, or loud and annoying? OMG you don't want to be that person that others hate even thinking about!

And on and on your thoughts swirl, micro-analyzing everything, and making you feel like every single interaction you've ever had was one-sided, that everyone you've ever spoken to forgot you the moment the conversation ended. That you are so forgettable that no one would notice if you just . . . stopped. Just disappeared. No one would notice. No one would care.

I see you, fellow socially awkward friends.

There is so much bad in the world. So many horrible things on grand and smaller scales on people's lives. It's hard to keep things in perspective. Everyone has their own trials, their own hardships that others may know nothing about. I try to keep that in mind. But I sometimes fall into my own head, letting the negative thoughts drag me under for a while.

So here's a hug for everyone who has those moments. Those fears. Those frustrations and feelings of sadness and loneliness. You are (ironically) not alone. 💖💕

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but thank you OUCHIE Thank you for that op

How to Write Liars Believably

Language

The motive of every goal is the make the lie seem plausible while taking blame off the speaker, so liars will often project what they say to a third party: "Katie said that..."

Referring to third parties as "they" rather than he or she

In the case of a deliberate lie prepped beforehand, there will be an overuse of specific names (rather than pronouns) as the speaker tries to get the details right.

Overuse of non-committal words like "something may have happened"

Masking or obscuring facts like "to the best of my knowledge" and “it is extremely unlikely," etc.

Avoiding answers to specific, pressing questions

Voice

There's isn't a set tone/speed/style of speaking, but your character's speech patten will differ from his normal one.

People tend to speak faster when they're nervous and are not used to lying.

Body Language

Covering their mouth

Constantly touching their nose

fidgeting, squirming or breaking eye contact

turning away, blinking faster, or clutching a comfort object like a cushion as they speak

nostril flaring, rapid shallow breathing or slow deep breaths, lip biting, contracting, sitting on your hands, or drumming your fingers.

Highly-trained liars have mastered the art of compensation by freezing their bodies and looking at you straight in the eye.

Trained liars can also be experts in the art of looking relaxed. They sit back, put their feet up on the table and hands behind their head.

For deliberate lies, the character may even carefully control his body language, as though his is actually putting on a show

The Four Types of Liars

Deceitful: those who lie to others about facts

2. Delusional: those who lie to themselves about facts

3. Duplicitious: those who lie to others about their values

Lying about values can be even more corrosive to relationships than lying about facts.

4. Demoralized: those who lie to themselves about their values

Additional Notes

Genuine smiles or laughs are hard to fake

Exaggerations of words (that would normally not be emphasized) or exaggerated body language

Many savvy detectives ask suspects to tell the story in reverse or non-linear fashion to expose a lie. They often ask unexpected, or seemingly irrelevant questions to throw suspects off track.

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astralspen

4 months ago

MERRY BELATED CHRISTMAS YALLL

I was able to participate in the @isat-secretsanta-2024 and my secret Santa was @kimdokjafan :D

I had a lot of fun with your request, it was super cool to explore Loops feelings!

I hope you like it!!

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astralspen

11 months ago

YALL I JUST TOOK THOSE 4 LIKE AUTISM TESTS ON THAT ONE WEBSITE MOST PEOPLE GO TO SELF DIAGNOSE CAUSE OUR CURRENT SYSTEM IS KINDA ASS AT DIAGNOSING PEOPLE WHO ARE WHITE MEN AND I GOT THAT IM PRETTY MUCH CONFIRMED AUTISTIC ON ALL OF THEM????

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autism random thoughts actually autism for reference on why im freaking out idk if i can say im autistic even with that since im younger than who the test is made for wait a minute tf do i tag this with YALL IF THE TAGS ARE WRONG TELL ME PLS ILL FIX IT and also ps i mean i took the RAADS test and there were 3 other tests on there that the website recommended should i be posting this to tumblr? probably not but im gonna do it anyways

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astralspen

7 months ago

i know vitamin c basically neutralizes adhd meds but lemonade good

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astralspen

4 months ago

makin a poll because I'm curious!

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since i found out about the whole crush thing before playing i picked isabeau first soooooooooo cute no regrets but i make sure to pick Odile now cause shes my fav <3 sorry isabeau i love you too

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astralspen

1 year ago

reblog if you’ve read fanfictions that are more professional, better written than some actual novels. I’m trying to see something

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astralspen

3 months ago

As someone who owns a cat, the lamb should just go 'PERVERT!' to Narinder. Will it deter him? Maybe. Will it be hilarious? Absolutely.

yall know if the lamb ever used one of the outhouses, narinder would be reaching under the door with his lil kitty paws and scratching

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