Ayoungwomansthoughts - A Young Woman's Thoughts

{Words by Anaïs Nin, from The Diary Of Anais Nin, Vol. 4 (1944-1947) / Cynthia Cruz from diagnosis,The glimmering room}

the statues of apollo and athena, at the academy athens, in a full moon night.

So, if you are too tired to speak, sit next to me for I, too, am fluent in silence.

R. Arnold

♔ some skin care tips ♔

reapply sun screen every 2 to 3 hours. don’t use anything under 30.

korean products usually already have sunscreen in them.

use a different exfoliator for your face than you do for your body. your face needs one that’s not as aggressive

you might start to break out more upon using a new, good product. this is normal. let the bad stuff be flushed out and keep using it.

I know it’s annoying but drink. your. water.

don’t use coconut oil on your face, ESPECIALLY not if you’re prone to acne.

don’t use glossier products, the ingredients are shit.

don’t let the water in the shower hit your face too much, the pressure damages the skin.

change your pillow sheet every 3 days (oily skin) to once a week.

stop touching your face for god’s sake.

don’t forget to treat your neck too!

regularly exfoliating your hands will slow down hand aging, too.

if something doesn’t work, throw it away or gift it to someone else. don’t keep using it. 

start using a serum.

matcha tea contains waaaaay more antioxidants than your average green tea.

honey & salmon are good for your skin. also limit your dairy intake. 

try to (deep) cleanse your face in the evening.

and don’t forget that lasting good skin takes time and consistency. ♔

Mary Oliver

I am desperately romantic when life has given me no reason to be and that, I think, is the definition of hope.

c.r.w. (via my-writemind)

I struggle with being socially anxious, shy and somewhat awkward and i've been told multiple times the first impression people get of me is being cold or mean eventho i'm not a rude person at all. I don't want to give that impression and i've been trying to be more chatty and extroverted. What can I do to come accross more kind and gentle? That's honestly the type of energy I want to have. I envy people with such inviting aura and vibes about them which I don't seem to have.

It’s okay to be reserved, but you should still work on your social skills.

Your facial expressions are important. When people say to smile more often, they don’t mean to stay like 😁😊 but more like 🙂. Think of nice or funny things to keep a sweet expression on your face. Smile from your eyes. “Smile”

Body language is everything. If you cross your arms often for instance, it can be seen as you being closed off and cold. Have open body language. Avoid being a wall flower and hiding in corners.

How are you with small talk? Brush up on social scripts, that’s all it is really is. Say hi to strangers when you pass by (use discernment)

Use eye contact and good posture. Don’t hang your head.

Try to get rid of your paranoia. Being self conscious is what tends to kill charisma.

Stay off of your phone, instead people watch or look at the scenery.

dark academia playlist compilation

dark academia - a concept playlist

music to write to

music to read to

pretentious grandparent music

the goldfinch by donna tartt

the secret history by donna tartt

if we were villains by m.l. rio

dark academia aesthetic tips

what to wear:

turtlenecks, sweaters, and blazers

dark, muted tones. black, brown, emerald green, caramel, rust, dark red, and plaid

wire frame glasses

short neat fingernails

mid-length/long skirts

belts that match your shoes

knee high socks

what to do:

read literature and poetry. when you come across a word you don’t know, look it up and add it to your vocabulary

start the morning with a hot drink, like coffee, tea, or cocoa. preferably at a coffee shop you go to routinely

spend a lot of time at the library. become familiar with the hallways and shelves, and find a favorite spot.

keep lit candles in your apartment. steer away from floral scents!

become familiar with the local art museums. when hanging out with friends or a lover, you’ll find it romantic and timeless.

find a favorite author. familiarize yourself with their work and how they formulate their ideas. 

start a studyblr or studygram, something to inspire others.

connect with your classmates and professors. learn what they love to study, and look into it.

sit outside on a stone bench and read philosophy. discuss it with your friends during deep discussions at midnight.