Anyone Else Feel Like This

Too many of you believe that the evils of capitalism begin and end with whether or not workers get paid enough. But capitalism is inherently wasteful by design. It is resource intensive and exploitative by design. Even if we killed every billionaire and redistributed all their wealth tomorrow (a good thing) we would still have to restructure how we manage society from the ground up, globally.

And no, you as an individual are not responsible for figuring out all of the answers, sad white person. There are people all over the world already working on the solutions their communities need. We just have to empower them to make those solutions happen.

something i've noticed. people seem to think the most nature-y nature is forests. so forests are always prioritized for conservation, and planting trees is synonymous with ecological activism. my state was largely prairies and wetlands before colonization. those ecosystems are important too. trees aren't the end-all be-all of environmentalism. plant native grasses. protect your wetlands.

I’m not going to shut up. I’m not going to lay down and die. I will not be complacent. I will not greet fascism with a polite smile. I refuse to hide. I refuse to give up.

I’m going to be LOUD and RUDE and ANGRY. I’m going to FIGHT and YELL and PROTEST. I WILL NOT hide who I am. I know some of us have no other choice but to hide for their own safety, so I’ll yell twice as loud and fight twice as hard and be twice as visible for all of us. I REFUSE to let fascism win. I’m going to outlast. I’m going to SURVIVE. I’m going to LIVE.

ITS NOT OVER UNTIL ITS FUCKING OVER

Bleeding hearts.

Series of mixed media collages using pastels, watercolors, acrylics, and paper. (ko-fi)

More of my baby Val!! While werebeasts can control their transformations to an extent, it's tied to their emotions! If they feel very strong emotions, especially anger or fear their form may be out of their control. Val is especially susceptible to this transformation because she's basically angry all the time

I absolutely adore the way you drew them here!!! They have that perfect awkward teenage look

Oh I love them so dearly I wish them all happiness I want to see them struck by lightning

demisexuality can be so hard to explain because it’s misconstrued as you just wanting to trust the other person before you have sex with them. and I get why the misconception happens. But demisexuality differs in that there isn’t sexual attraction at all before that bond forms.

I think what people have difficulty with is the idea that there are people out there who aren’t experiencing sexual attraction at all until a certain point, if ever, because we’re taught that sex, libido, and sexual attraction are all the same, both in and out of queer spaces.

And when you’re learning about asexuality and demisexuality, you may learn that people have romantic and aesthetic attraction separately from sexual attraction, and that sexual and romantic attraction aren’t necessarily intertwined, and that may challenge your worldview on sex.

But “I trust you enough to have sex with you” isn’t the same as “I’m not sexually attracted to anyone but you, and the reason I’m sexually attracted to you now after we’ve established this close bond is literally because of the bond of trust we’ve been able to form”.

It’s easy to see how those can get conflated. On the surface, if you’re unfamiliar with asexuality, they may sound the same. But it’s important to acknowledge the difference between “no sex until I trust you” and “no sexual attraction unless I trust you and maybe not even then”.

Demisexuality is housed under the asexuality spectrum. It’s part of the gray area between being allosexual and asexual. It’s part of why the definition for asexuality includes “little to no sexual attraction”. It’s a mostly asexual experience with an asterisk.

While being demisexual may have impacts on a persons sexual activity, even demisexuals have a varied relationship to the act of participating in sex. Libido and sexual attraction are not always intertwined either, which can make telling the difference tricky.

I think of sexual attraction as libido that has a compass. Since I rarely ever experience sexual attraction, but do have libido, it’s noticeable for me when that libido actually has a direction to go, rather than being a floating, nebulous, independent thing.

Remember, not everyone is demisexual. There’s a difference between waiting to have sex and not having sexual attraction at all until a certain point. This also inherently ties demisexuality to romantic attraction and relationships, and not all demisexuals are alloromantic.

But if you read what demisexuality is and think “everyone is like that” or “that’s just being a woman”, you either 1) are demisexual 2) don’t understand what it is or 3) both. And it’s okay to not know. Just as long as you’re willing to try to learn.